Audrey & Etienne's French cheese-loving wedding at a ski resort #Real Weddings: Global#adults-only wedding#atheist#brides in glasses#europe#france#geeky#ipod#mountain#origami#reception dress#secular#spring#star wars#winter March 14 2013 | Offbeat Editors offbeatbride Photos by Blanc Coco except where noted The Offbeat Bride: Audrey, self-employed translator (and Tribesmaid) Her offbeat partner: Etienne, developer Date and location of wedding: Etienne's mom's house, Veyrier, France and La Scierie restaurant, La Clusaz, France — December 21, 2012 Our offbeat wedding at a glance: We got married on December 21, 2012, because it was the end of the world, baby! Not only was it the end of the world, it was also a Friday, and virtually no one gets married on Friday in France. But it was the Friday preceding the national Christmas holidays, and a lot of guests could make it. Choosing to get married the very day of the end of the world enabled us to set a goofy tone for our wedding. Since this end of the world was in winter, we could make the most of our hometown, located in the mountains. We love winter, snow, and winter meals, so it was perfect for us. I wore a black and white dress as black is my favourite color. Except for rainbow striped socks, all my accessories were black. I did not risk catching pneumonia and wore a black woolen coat over my dress. My bouquet was kusudama flowers with beads glued on it… black and white of course! I had a second, black and white dress for the dinner and dancing since no one on Earth could actually eat and dance in the dress I had for the ceremony. Boy, was I relieved to change dresses. Photo by a friend of the couple The cocktail was in Etienne's mom's house, because we wanted a homey, relaxed atmosphere. I set up a hot cocoa bar to warm our guests, with typical wedding and Christmas sweets. It was also where guests could suggest a destination for our honeymoon with a globe and Post-Its. I honored my baby cat, who couldn't make it to the wedding, by using pictures of a black cat for signs. Photo by a friend of the couple The dinner was in a ski resort nearby. We chose a mountain-style restaurant because we wanted an all-inclusive venue which would take care of everything, from choosing the wine to setting up the tables. We were happy to find La Scierie, a gorgeous venue with lovely owners open to all our ideas. The venue was beautiful in itself, so we didn't do much decor, only paper fortune cookies with silly, Chuck Norris quotes to break the ice. The menu was cheese-oriented, as we are the world's biggest cheese lovers. The main course was a Swiss hearty meal of melting cheese over potatoes with cold cuts (raclette), which everyone here loves in winter. We had no cake cutting (who wants cake after a raclette anyway?), no first dance, no rice toss. The only tradition I kept was the bouquet toss, because I really wanted to toss something. But I made it my way: I invited every guest to catch a bouquet, which ended up being made of soft candy! Our invitations contained quotes from Spider-Man, Star Wars, and Toy Story. The music for the processional was "The Imperial March" from Star Wars, and the recessional was "Highway to Hell" by AC/DC. The music of the dinner was made of instrumental music from movies and video games, such as Super Mario Galaxy, Tetris, Raiders of the Lost Ark, and The Avengers. Last but not least, we had a wonderful guest of honor: a cardboard cut-out of Darth Vader, who joined us for the photo booth. There was also a costume of Darth Vader for guests to play with. Tell us about the ceremony: French law states that to get legally married, you have to get married by a mayor (and no one else) in a town hall (and nowhere else). So we got married by a mayor in a town hall. It was short and administrative. This type of ceremony usually doesn't require much participation from the bride and groom. We didn't exchange vows and only said "YES!" After that ceremony, you are free to do whatever symbolic ceremony you want (religious or otherwise). As we are both atheists, we opted out of the religious ceremony. The secular ceremony was enough for us to feel married. Our biggest challenge: The only tough challenge was the kid issue. We had a guest list of 70, plus 10 kids including five newborns. Having the kids for dinner was not an option for us, but we invited them to the ceremony and cocktail and offered to pay for the baby sitter during dinner. There were a few ruffled feathers, but in the end everyone found a solution and we had the kids-free dinner we wanted. My favorite moment: The processional was incredible. For civil ceremonies in France, the bride and groom usually mingle with guests before the ceremony. We chose to have all guests seated and do an entrance together. Seeing all our guests, friends, and relatives being here, smiling, and clapping for us was incredibly powerful. My funniest moment: Our guests surprised us with a flash mob to "Gangnam Style." It was hysterical to see guests of all ages dance on this song. During the cocktail, I got everyone's attention with a gong! It surprised the hell out of them, while all I wanted was a little quiet for my speech. It was funny. Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? A few weeks before the wedding, I had a minor panic attack about our choices: would the guests laugh at our music choices? Would they think a candy bouquet was childish? Would the iPod playlist be a flop? I stuck to my guns since I couldn't picture our wedding any other way anyway. Thankfully, the guests laughed with us during the processional, they drank from the hot cocoa bar, and danced to our playlist. What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? There are no problems, only solutions. And sometimes, there are compromised solutions (with your partner, with your mom, with your mother-in-law), and they will work. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Dress: Boutique Martine Bolero: Etsy seller Maryandangelika Restaurant: La Scierie Photographer: Blanc Coco Cocktail caterer: La Fine Fourchette Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS "Oh, I'd never do that" or how getting married has turned me into a liar NEXT 3.14159 reasons to love Pi-Day weddings (and pies!) Show/Hide comments [ 11 ] Love those striped socks! 🙂 And your wedding dress is just lovely. Reply I LOVE YOUR WEDDING. I just had to scream that from the rooftop. I love your dress, your quirky style (I have a whole drawer full of fun socks), Darth Vader, soundtrack music during dinner….I could go on but you were there so I think you get the idea. I am sending this to my fiance RIGHT NOW because you made my day. 🙂 Reply Wow, this definitely looks like a wedding I'd love to be a guest at: everything looks so comfy, so cozy, and so fun! I especially love your hot cocoa bar and, as a fellow cheese lover, your cheese-centric menu, but really everything about it is lovely!! Reply Oh man, I was in Brittany on end of the world day, eating raclette that week, with family for Christmas. You just helped me relive it all. Man I miss it! This wedding looks absolutely incredible. We were also talking to my brother-in-law and his gf while I was over there about the pomp that surrounds a lot of French marriages and how they didn't want that, so I'm sending them a link to yours for them to be inspired about how it can be totally what you want! Reply Hi Victoria, I'm glad I helped you relive raclette 😉 You could also direct your brother in law to the French blog Mademoiselle Dentelle, which is dedicated to weddings where people are being true to themselves and not giving in to expectations and traditions 🙂 Reply RACLETTE! King of the Cheesey Noms! Oh how I would love a raclette wedding dinner. It's hard to get in the UK though without paying a fortune 🙁 Reply The more I see of that wedding dress, the more I love it. And the socks! And the bouquet! The candy bouquet was brilliant. Reply Thank you so much everyone for all your lovely comments! As Victoria said, French weddings tend to have that kind of pomp about them (or to fall on the other side of the spectrum, the dreaded tacky one) and it's kind of hard to stick to your guns if you simply want a middle-key affair. And of course, having raclette for dinner totally blew the mind of almost every guest! As for the pictures, I must have been confusing in the submission but all are from Blanc Coco except for the outside view of the restaurant and that of the candy bouquet 🙂 Thanks OBB for featuring my wedding! Reply This is one of those weddings that you look at and think 'I would never have any of that but I sure wish I'd been there!' It just looks fun and relaxed and very personal to you and that is just the most any b&g could hope for! Plus I love that pic of you Rockin' those socks! Congrats! Reply I was lucky enough to attend my friend's wedding! Audrey was phenomenal and such a great bride! All smiles and fun! What a special day it was….very comfortable, cozy, and yes a day for eating and drink! Delicious! 🙂 Good job on planning your own offbeat wedding! 😉 Reply Welcome to Offbeat Bride Amy 🙂 And besides your lovely comment, thank you SO MUCH again for making the trip from Alaska! Reply Leave a Reply to Amy Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. 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