Jennifer & Chut's Thai-rish gastronomic family celebration #Real Weddings: Southern US#at home#brides in glasses#buddhist#candy#compromising#couples of color#fall weddings#florida#getting weddinged#multicultural#plus size#two weddings August 3 2010 | Offbeat Editors offbeatbride Photo by Bethany Vargas with Vargas Visual Media, Inc The offbeat bride: Jennifer, teacher of various subjects Her offbeat partner: Chut, Neurologist Location & date of wedding: Our living room and the fabulous river front golf club of my childhood in Jacksonville, FL — October 24, 2009 What made our wedding offbeat: Chut and I married secretly two years before our wedding date. His parents are traditional Thai Buddist, and mine are artistic Irish spiritualists. We decided to celebrate both side with two ceremonies: a full-blown Thai celebration at home with a van full of monks from his family's Wat, and a non-religious riverside ceremony accompanied by violin and guitar. My husband's Thai Auntie made my Thai gown (which fit perfectly!) without ever laying an eye on me. All the food for the Thai ceremony was made by our relatives and friends at the family temple (also called a Wat). As my mother is a florist, we got to splurge on silver candlelabras, rented table linens, and fire bright orchids without breaking the bank (it's all in our family business). We opted for stationary that was on a sale, and skipped the matching thank you cards to opt for store bought ones. We set up a candy bar for favors, and our Thai relatives surprised us by providing Thai jewelry favors for our guests. Since we're both foodies, we put the majority of our budget into an extravagent buffet of southern and Asian foods: shrimp and grits, fried turkey, sushi, pad thai, mom's homemade eggrolls (she and Auntie rolled 500 of them!). No one guessed that our wedding only cost a third of our original budget. Tell us about the ceremony: Our Thai ceremony was all traditional, Buddhist monks included. Perhaps the most heartwrenching part was when the couple present gifts to their parents in order to gain acceptance from their in-laws. Since we are a non-traditional Irish family, the only Irish thing I did for the evening ceremony was make sure firelight was everywhere. We even hung candles in glass vases from the ceiling. My favorite moment: There were many. In our Thai ceremony, my in-laws draped a flower garland around my neck to symbolize their acceptance of me as their new daughter. I was scared my mom would freak out at the conservative Thai ceremony, but she said she felt peaceful with all the monk chanting. When I walked down the aisle that afternoon, the musicians played "In My Life" by the Beatles, and for the first time, I could hear it without crying. My funniest moment: During the first dance, I meant to take off my veil before the song came on (but in the rush, I forgot). My husband ended up taking care of that for me – he ripped it off when he twirled me. My advice for offbeat brides: Figure out what's important for you symbolically. For us, it was our heritage, so we did our research and incorporated what felt right. Use your connections. You may not think about it, but you may have connections to discounts on reception sites, etc. Use family heirlooms, or soon-to-be heirlooms where possible. It not only saves money, but it adds meaning. Finally, don't take it all too seriously- it's only one day, but it's the day you'll remember. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Photography by Bethany Vargas with Vargas Visual Media, Inc American gown: Joli Bridal Other than that, everything was a hand-me down, family owned, or made by Thai relatives. Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Planning my second wedding: funny how what was important the last time isn't this time NEXT First photos from Andrea & Pete's wedding, paid for by recyling 400,000 aluminum cans Show/Hide comments [ 8 ] Really sweet and charming. Congrats to the happy couple. I have Thai relatives too 🙂 Reply Sawatdee Ka, You both look wonderful. I hope to have a Thairish wedding myself in the future. Khun Jessica Reply So excited to see a Thai wedding on OBB! You look beautiful in your Thai dress. And kudos on saving money creatively and meaningfully! 1 agrees Reply I grew up a block from this club and wow, your pictures are great! The skyline is such a beautiful backdrop and so familiar to me. It is nice to see an "offbeat" wedding at TCC! Much to my mother's chagrin, I won't be getting married in Jacksonville, but I'll be having a second reception at the club in about a year. 🙂 Best wishes to you both and thank you for sharing. Reply Your gowns are gorgeous! Especially your American gown. Wow! Makes me want to marry a man from a different culture so I can have two gorgeous gowns. Reply Congratulations! Epic win for two families coming together so well! 1 agrees Reply It's awesome to see an Offbeat wedding from Jacksonville, FL!!! It's spooky to see local landmarks!!! 🙂 Reply Your buffet sounds completely amazing. Like I wish I could get a time machine and come crash your wedding amazing. Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. 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