Jess & James' whimsical, vintage-inspired, DIY feathery lovesplosion #Real Weddings: Southern US#compromising#crafty wedding#diy bouquet#diy wedding#fascinator#feathers#florida#handfasting#headpiece#lanterns#non-floral bouquet#reception dress#ring bear#short hair#top hat#tuxedo#uneven wedding party May 12 2010 | Offbeat Editors offbeatbride Remember that controversial dreamy, colorful headdress that Shrie featured a few weeks ago? You know, the one we all drooled (and some fought) over. Well, here's how it looked during JE$S & James' feathery lovesplosion. – Coco The offbeat bride: Jess, artist and art instructor for developmentally disabled adults (and OBT member) Her offbeat partner: James, web designer/programmer Location & date of wedding: Porcher House, Historic Cocoa Village, Florida — March 20, 2010 What made our wedding offbeat: I wore a fabulous pink headdress down the aisle, and centered all the visuals around it. I also snunk in leopard print wherever I could. We're athiests so we secretly got married a few days ahead and wrote the ceremony to just be cool and heartfelt, short with our own twist on it, without all the legal/religious stuff. The "ring bear" We had the best music ever. No, seriously. Processional was the Ramones cover of What a Wonderful World, I walked to Temptations' Hey Girl I Like Your Style, and we left to Gogol Bordello's song American Wedding 😀 Also included were James Brown, Etta James, Tom Waits, The Raincoats, some MetalGearSolid3 for the garter, and Barry White for the garter replacement. We had an uneven wedding party and used a bear marionette made by one of my students as the "ring bear" to even it out. We drew up our invites that were printed by our friends. We also drew our cake together, which we wanted to be whimsical and more like a sculpture you can eat than a foo-foo cake. James is a veg, so we had lots of food and a layer of the cake for veggers. We didn't have favors, or very many flowers at all. I used paper, silk, feather and soap roses, and made a few really badass decorations. We decided to see each other on the day, it just made it less stressful so we could ask each other questions, kiss and gawk at the cake, etc. Tell us about your wedding ceremony: My ceremony was officiated by James' aunt Theresa, who is so cool. It was non-religious but included blessings from the elements (fire wind water and earth) and the cardinal directions. We did our own twist on the Native American double-necked wedding vase, with a silver chalice that has been in my family since 1911. My mom burned sage for us, and we had a handfasting done by my sister. My favorite parts of my heritage are Cherokee and Irish, so letting that shine through in our ceremony was fun. Our biggest challenge: Aside from the venue thing (see also: "total disaster" segment), the biggest challenge was getting certain key people to understand the vision. The initial reaction to the headdress idea was, "what is this a ******* costume party!?" I had to figure out what the wedding meant to my parents and what meant more to us than them. If it had been up to me there would have been more skeletons, but my parents believed it was too morbid. (I still had a few though, the groomscake topper and some classy accessories which some of my lovely guests sported for me!) We designed our invites but my parents chose the wording. We were told our music wasn't wedding-y. It was very stressful for us. Even on the day of the wedding there were things I was worried about. Some things we just had to make on our own, so there were some surprises, but we all agreed that it turned out beautifully. My dad said to me right before we walked that everything looked awesome and how happy he was for us. I think the venue thing kinda shook off some of the stress we had about dumb things and gave us real shit to freak out over. My favorite moment: I have a few. First, when we first saw each other all ready. Despite the set-up taking a few minutes (I was worried he was getting bored while we arranged my dress on the staircase!) But his jaw kinda dropped, and he just looked at me with so much adoration and excitement! The wedding was really about to happen in our minds at that moment. Lastly, making eye contact with James during the ceremony. I was having some stage fright and it helped me relax. James' favorite part of the wedding was getting to spend a second alone together at dinner. The food was awesome and we opted for the sweetheart table, which turned out to be really nice. It was the first time that night that we had been alone together. Also, our wedding was kind of a reunion, as many of our guests came from far away, so seeing all our family and friends come together for us was really special. My funniest moment: The "ring bear" got a lot of laughs. We had a strange aisle, we walked down a side path, then came around and back down the main walkway. The bridesmaids appeared one at a time. The house had a very glamorous feel, and then suddenly the groom's brother came down the aisle with a floppy cute bear puppet! Also, a stranger grabbed onto the back of my dress while I was walking into the archway. She was trying to fluff the train out for me. Oh and it was kinda funny when we were downtown doing our pictures and people in the cafes were yelling things to us and taking pics! The Bride's sister tied the knot during the handfasting ceremony Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? The venue screwed us over less than a week before the wedding. The reception was supposed to be inside the house and on the back patio alongside a beautiful riverfront park. But those motherfathers double-booked it with a religious music festival and we had to go in the Civic Center. (We had no time to find a new venue, and most of our guests were from out of town or state, so we couldn't change anything timing-wise either.) It was heart-breaking that everything I had toiled over, with visions dancing in my head, would not actually happen. The Porcher House was so beautiful, we did not need many decorations. But the pink string lights and paper lanterns we planned on using were a bit sparse for this huge grey box we got moved to. Luckily, this really nice lady offered her decorating services, so instead of our pre-wedding beach week we had taken off work for, she, James, our families, friends and I built draperies and de-fuglified the room. If it weren't for all the help we got, I don't know where we would've been. Although, we would have rather been drinking on the beach with them, it was really touching that we could all come together. I also had to give up on the last bunch of my projects to do that. My advice for offbeat brides: Go DIY, but give yourself enough time to get your projects done. Seriously, you want to be excited and do your best work. The planning, designing and crafting was such an awesome part of my wedding because it made the wedding experience last so much longer. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Headdress: Magentafabulous made the headdress that inspired everything visual, which I am going to wear again. She was really friendly and responsive too. She even put a hold on the headdress for me while I convinced my parents. DIY bouquet, bouts, corsages, all bridesmaid fascinators, my husband's hat and cufflinks, my sister's bracelet, my necklace (reception): ME – loved doing it and am going to start a wedding section of my shop. Bridesmaid dresses and crinolines, my reception dress: Unique Vintage Photographer: Richard O'Connor and his assistant Mike were awesome! Rich was so much fun and they are very talented. Christina Berkshire is my photographer friend who took the ones from the previous post about my wedding fashion. She was really creative, it was fun working with her! Food: Renaissance Catering, Cocoa Village, FL. Anthony was super nice, fun and a really good guy. He was very easy-going about the reception- venue-music-festival disaster. Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Let Jubilee Event Engineers help you make your wedding the best EVAR NEXT Tom & Katy's tattoos and VWs wedding from onelove photography Show/Hide comments [ 21 ] I love getting to keep reliving your wedding Jess! Reply hehe oh it was an awesome day! thanks so much for making the trip down and spending the next day with us at the beach too! <3 Reply Congratulations! I love your cake, it is so whimsical! You handled your venue change so well, you should be proud of yourself. You also took the fugly out of the room really well. The whole day looks full of lovely! Reply thanks so much! it really took a whole team of my & my husband's loving family and friends to pull it off the way we did, we are so lucky to have had them!!! Reply I love everything about this wedding! One of my very favorites on OBB. The headdress is sheer gorgeousness, but that bouquet might be my favorite bouquet ever. That cake is amazing, too. I can't stop looking at the pictures! 🙂 Reply aw thanks so much! you are so sweet! i actually liked making my bouquet (etc) so much that i expanded my business to include wedding accessories, and i am already making the next bouquet and the works! if you know anyone who needs some flowas… ;D Reply I'm putting deer antlers on my veil and keeping it secret. It will be too late by the time any naysayers see it. Its not like veils and tiaras are completely normal and functional everyday wear, I don't understand why some people freak out when someone chooses a fancy head thing that is neither a veil or tiara 1 agrees Reply dude that is SO cool. i can't wait to see that! are you on OBT? Reply Those bridesmaid dresses are the best I've EVER seen. LOVE them! Reply thanks! they are actually quite inexpensive, for the price of a davids bridal dress that they would never have worn again, we got the dress, the crinoline puff aaaand the shoes! WEWT Reply OMG That bouquet is super fab! Love it! Reply <3 thank you ! <3 Reply Yes, you most definitely de-fuglified that place…it actually looks pretty amazing. I'm sorry that happened but you handled it very well. Your bouquet is my favorite obb bouquet yet! Congrats Jess & James! Reply Thanks so much! I have actually expanded my business to include all the skills i acquired during the wedding planning, so if you know anyone who needs a custom bouquet, let me know! 😉 Reply Your wedding bands are super! Is the textured part in any kind of pattern? Reply yeah, they are each other's fingerprints wrapped around the band. they were made by fabuluster on etsy! Reply I love the ring bear. that's soooo awesome. Reply What an amazing day! Congrats! The photos are so beautiful! I love the one where your dad is walking you down the aisle, and then the one of your parents!! They look so happy! Congrats on the perfect day and the perfect way of celebrating who you both are! What a perfect example of how beautiful life can be when you are true to yourself! You and your family are truly inspirational! Reply First, I'd like to echo how divine the headdress and bouquet are! It makes me want to get married all over again. 🙂 I'm totally jealous that you could do an outside ceremony, too. It's just a bit of gamble where I am. I completely agree that going DIY is the way to go. I never considered myself an offbeat person, but my husband and I did it our way and have never regretted it. The ceremony took place in a historic and beautifully restored playhouse. Our recessional? "You're My Best Friend" by Queen. Our dinner was in an art gallery. We had a dance – not completely loaded with sappy music – and ended the evening with a Rock Band tournament. Reply what a gorgeous wedding! I have a question for you, if you don't mind. The bridesmaid dresses are exactly what I am looking for. I think I found the dress on Unique Vintage (along with my dress!) but the one that I found has a brooch in the center. Did I not find the right dress or did you remove the brooches? Any help that you could provide would be much appreciated! They are AMAZING and I love the crinoline! Reply yes, that is the dress. the brooch is removable and some are diff colors of metal so we didn't use them. also it comes with a sash that we chose not to use. Reply Leave a Reply to Jennifer F. Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.