Challenging "normal" wedding planning when I lost my mother while engaged

I considered myself to be an "ordinary bride," that is until my mother died, and then I discovered that the definition of normalcy is what you deem appropriate, especially when it comes to wedding planning.

For the first few months after she died, it was only natural that my upcoming nuptials were the furthest thing from my mind. Then, as the year of my wedding date began to approach, suddenly friends and family became concerned that I wasn't living up to being a "traditional bride." It begs the question: what's traditional?

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These quotes about marriage will get you thinking about life after the wedding

Getting married is a big deal, and not only because it’s a ceremony to plan. If you start to think bigger than the actual day and what the price tag on your wedding will be, marriage is always the most important part. Before you jump into getting married or even if you’re already engaged, it’s a good idea to read some enlightening quotes about marriage and meditate on what they mean to you and your partner. Though they may not all apply to you and your situation, they’ll likely make your view of marriage just a little bit more informed, which will help you decide if it’s right for you or not…

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Love has NO color

My color has always defined me for as long as I can remember. I am a very dark, black woman. If you’re aware of what’s been happening to my people and women (since the beginning of time) who look like me, you may know exactly what this means. I’M A VERY DARK, BLACK WOMAN — enough said. Being me comes with a lot of judgement and I’ve had my fair share of ridicule.

Cue years of self-doubt, years of undoing the very horrible thoughts you created in your head because you actually started to believe the things that were being spewed at you for years on end. Fast forward to my mid-twenties and cue the love of my life…

How our engagement photos dispelled my self image fears

Hey, I'm a wedding blogger who is engaged! You'd think I'd be ready for this, but naaaaah. See, like you and you and you over there, oh and that guy right there… I'm NOT super confident. So I decided that an engagement shoot might be just the ticket to help cure me of my center of attention apprehension. Here's how it worked out…

Beyond the wedding: why I'm more excited about what comes next

My wedding day countdown app on my phone informs me that there are exactly 30 days, 2 hours, and 22 minutes until my wedding. I feel like I should be more stressed out and nervous. But we've been engaged for one and a half years, and I've spent some time planning this thing every week, so the vast majority of the work is done.

What's interesting is that after all that time dreaming and planning, though I'm really excited about the wedding itself, I'm incredibly excited for the time beyond the wedding…