OPEN THREAD: ASMR as your tingly wedding planning anti-stress tool

ASMR (or Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response) is something I have been experiencing my whole life but for which I never had a name. I guarantee some of you will see this phenomenon and it will be the revelation of your existence. Some of you will have no idea what it's all about. We're here for the former: those of us who totally know the power of the head tingles. What are YOUR favorite ASMR YouTube accounts to which to bliss out?


Anyone else struggling with FEELING engaged while not officially engaged?

My boyfriend and I frequently talk about getting married — to the point that we have already decided on a wedding date, a venue for both ceremony and receptions, bridal parties, and guest list. But he has yet to pop the question. So while I'm feeling guilty about being twenty yards ahead, he feels guilty being twenty yards behind. I'm struggling with already FEELING engaged while not quite officially being there yet. How do I slow down this crazy wedding train?!


The post-wedding sexism guide: Be prepared for these bizarre encounters…

You might not notice it now, because our culture appears besotted with the search for The One and having that Big Fat Dream Wedding, but marriage doesn't have the greatest reputation. Wives are even more unpopular. I read every blog going about being a feminist bride but I didn't come across anything about being a feminist wife, and as a result I was thoroughly unprepared for the post-wedding sexism I was about to encounter. If you're about to get married, it might pay to be prepared for some of the bizarre encounters you are probably going to have with friends, family and colleagues in the days and weeks after the wedding. So here's the scoop…


How do you hope chest as an Offbeat Bride?

Older members of my family are asking about my hope chestDo you have anything to put in your hope chest? and There's a linens sale coming up if you want to pick up some things for your hope chest. I haven't considered a hope chest at all, and really that the concept of having a hope chest from a young age freaks me out a little. But here's where things get complicated…


News flash: Being a woman doesn't mean I know how to plan weddings

While I am a cisgender woman, I do not always adhere to the expectations of my gender (like many women). While I've come to terms with it in most parts of my life, there is something about the wedding process that shoves it in your face again and again and again…

While many vendors have been kind with my ignorance once I flat-out own it, there seems to be a constant, persistent expectation that I should have more of this wedding thing figured out, or that my double-X chromosome has given me fluency in this secret wedding language.


Fuck Weddings? Why we have confusing feels about wedding snark

We recently got an email from a reader about her website, called Fuck Weddings. That feels like something we should like. We love have a good sense of humor about ourselves and about weddings. All of us planning weddings need a bit more humor and lols in our lives, right? A good skewering can be good for everyone! At the same time, we're a bit torn about wedding comedy that feels mean-spirited…