My husband is not a hero for marrying me
I’ve been with my husband for almost five years. We were friends for a few years before we became a couple. During that friendship, I got sick and began having a lot of muscle problems. I was handed several misdiagnoses before my doctors decided that I have an autoimmune disease. I have since been diagnosed […]
How would you feel being Photoshopped to look skinnier in your wedding photos?
I attended my best friend’s wedding as a bridesmaid. I was pretty fat at that point and had to wear a, granted, not-that-flattering sleeveless dress. But it looked fine, in my opinion. Once the wedding was over and we all got to peek at the photos, I was surprised to see that a photo of me had been obviously Photoshopped to skinny me up. I’m sure this photography team thought I’d be pleased to see this version of myself, but I definitely wasn’t…
My wedding wasn’t the emotional event of the century (and that’s totally okay!)
When Adam (my now husband) proposed to me, my answer was “umm… oh… okay.” It was a Wednesday night and we were playing Fallout. While I was yelling “GET THEM” at the TV, he got down on one knee and presented his grandmother’s ring to me. I was well aware this was not a picture […]
“I got you”: The revelation I found hidden in a wedding tango
When my partner suggested we do a full “so you think you can dance” stylized wedding tango as our first dance, I was thrilled. I’ve always loved the idea of learning how to tango. It’s a bold choice. It’s a feminist choice. The tango is the only ballroom dance where the man is not in charge. I was excited. But on the day of the wedding, I started to get anxious. I heard the shift in the music we had agreed would be our queue, and I hesitated. My introverted self just wanted to stay in my room and flee the audience. I pulled myself together and stepped out onto our living room floor…
We’re planning two weddings: family-friendly AND kink-friendly
One of things my fiancé and I most cherish about our relationship is that we lead the kind of double-life worthy of one of the superhero comic books he loves so much. Normally, we are responsible, hard-working citizens who live and parent together in a small, quiet town. But after a quick change in a phone booth (aka, when my ex has the kids and we travel), we become adventurers well-versed in kink and non-monogamy who love to find weird bars, get tattoos, and go out dancing until the wee hours of the morning.
So it stands to reason that we have to plan not one but two weddings…
I’m a wedding planner who eloped and I don’t regret it at all
At first, I was thinking of inviting family, friends, out-of-town relatives — you know, the typical thoughts that run through some people’s head after a proposal. Then, I had a totally unexpected idea. Why don’t we elope? I was at the time of my life where I didn’t care to spend a ton of money on a wedding and I had no desire to. But what do my wedding planning couples think now?