Philosophizing

How do you feel about your wedding? What does it all mean? How does wedding planning a metaphor for the rest of your life?

"I got you": the revelation I found hidden in a wedding tango

“I got you”: The revelation I found hidden in a wedding tango

When my partner suggested we do a full “so you think you can dance” stylized wedding tango as our first dance, I was thrilled. I’ve always loved the idea of learning how to tango. It’s a bold choice. It’s a feminist choice. The tango is the only ballroom dance where the man is not in charge. I was excited. But on the day of the wedding, I started to get anxious. I heard the shift in the music we had agreed would be our queue, and I hesitated. My introverted self just wanted to stay in my room and flee the audience. I pulled myself together and stepped out onto our living room floor…

We're having a family-friendly wedding AND a kink-friendly second wedding

We’re planning two weddings: family-friendly AND kink-friendly

One of things my fiancé and I most cherish about our relationship is that we lead the kind of double-life worthy of one of the superhero comic books he loves so much. Normally, we are responsible, hard-working citizens who live and parent together in a small, quiet town. But after a quick change in a phone booth (aka, when my ex has the kids and we travel), we become adventurers well-versed in kink and non-monogamy who love to find weird bars, get tattoos, and go out dancing until the wee hours of the morning.

So it stands to reason that we have to plan not one but two weddings…

I'm a wedding planner who eloped!

I’m a wedding planner who eloped and I don’t regret it at all

At first, I was thinking of inviting family, friends, out-of-town relatives — you know, the typical thoughts that run through some people’s head after a proposal. Then, I had a totally unexpected idea. Why don’t we elope? I was at the time of my life where I didn’t care to spend a ton of money on a wedding and I had no desire to. But what do my wedding planning couples think now?

Getting back on the (literal) horse: the unexpected can be what makes a wedding a success

I got bucked off a horse at my own wedding!

When I recently got married, I thought that I would be brave and try something a bit different at my wedding. Given that I am a celebrant, it made sense to take a small risk and do something a bit wild. So, I asked a friend with a beautiful horse if I could come in on the horse to the ceremony. But then, what happened next shocked everyone. I was BUCKED OFF THE HORSE! Here’s how I handled it and how it made the wedding a success…

How a last-minute wedding dress disaster made me remember what really matters

How a last-minute wedding dress disaster made me remember what really matters

I had an amazing process getting my first dress custom-made. But an incident with my curious kitties made my dress unwearable. In swooped my amazing fiance and bridesmaids who rallied to my aid to find a new dress just one day before my wedding! Here’s how the situation managed to make me realize what really matters when it comes to weddings…

Are we "desperate" or just ready? The guilt of wanting to get married

Are we “desperate” or just ready? The guilt of wanting to get married

Lately I’ve been feeling guilty. Then I’ve been feeling guilty about feeling guilty because I should know that I don’t need to feel guilty. I’ve been feeling this way because I happen to be a woman who wants to get married someday. This in itself isn’t a new development, but now I actively WANT it. Now “quirky engagement rings” keeps finding itself in my Pinterest search history and Offbeat Bride is gradually making its way up my most visited sites. It’s literally proposal guilt.