Philosophizing

How do you feel about your wedding? What does it all mean? How does wedding planning a metaphor for the rest of your life?

How our engagement photos dispelled my low self-esteem fears about being the center of attention

How our engagement photos dispelled my self image fears

Hey, I’m a wedding blogger who is engaged! You’d think I’d be ready for this, but naaaaah. See, like you and you and you over there, oh and that guy right there… I’m NOT super confident. So I decided that an engagement shoot might be just the ticket to help cure me of my center of attention apprehension. Here’s how it worked out…

Beyond the wedding: why I'm more excited about what comes next

Beyond the wedding: why I’m more excited about what comes next

My wedding day countdown app on my phone informs me that there are exactly 30 days, 2 hours, and 22 minutes until my wedding. I feel like I should be more stressed out and nervous. But we’ve been engaged for one and a half years, and I’ve spent some time planning this thing every week, so the vast majority of the work is done.

What’s interesting is that after all that time dreaming and planning, though I’m really excited about the wedding itself, I’m incredibly excited for the time beyond the wedding…

The challenges of planning a straight wedding as a feminist queer bride

The challenges of planning a straight wedding as a feminist queer bride

Planning a straight wedding as a lifelong feminist and member of the LGBTQ community was a challenge wrought with emotion, guilt, and confusion (in addition, of course, to all the blissful feelings of being engaged and in love)…

My husband is not a hero for marrying me

My husband is not a hero for marrying me

I’ve been with my husband for almost five years. We were friends for a few years before we became a couple. During that friendship, I got sick and began having a lot of muscle problems. I was handed several misdiagnoses before my doctors decided that I have an autoimmune disease. I have since been diagnosed […]

How would you feel being Photoshopped to look skinnier in your wedding photos?

How would you feel being Photoshopped to look skinnier in your wedding photos?

I attended my best friend’s wedding as a bridesmaid. I was pretty fat at that point and had to wear a, granted, not-that-flattering sleeveless dress. But it looked fine, in my opinion. Once the wedding was over and we all got to peek at the photos, I was surprised to see that a photo of me had been obviously Photoshopped to skinny me up. I’m sure this photography team thought I’d be pleased to see this version of myself, but I definitely wasn’t…

My wedding wasn't the emotional event of the century (and that's totally okay!)

My wedding wasn’t the emotional event of the century (and that’s totally okay!)

When Adam (my now husband) proposed to me, my answer was “umm… oh… okay.” It was a Wednesday night and we were playing Fallout. While I was yelling “GET THEM” at the TV, he got down on one knee and presented his grandmother’s ring to me. I was well aware this was not a picture […]