Timing, gifts, and guest lists: How to plan an engagement party

Are you recently engaged? Aw yiss! Now it's time to start planning it all, including whether or not to have the totally optional engagement party. First: trust me that nobody will be bothered if you decide NOT to plan one of these babies. In fact, we even made a pros and cons list! But if you are (or someone else is throwing one for you — whooo!), here are our tips for how to plan an engagement party.


"We're doing this, bishes!" Should I have an engagement party?

Unless you're eloping, you probably have to announce your engagement somehow, right? Maybe you'll have a stereotype-toppling engagement photo session or maybe you'll send out engagement announcements, or maybe… you'll ask yourself, "should I have an engagement party?" Is it required? Hell nah. Can it be cool? Hell yeah. There are loads of pre-wedding party opportunities though, so here are some pros and cons to throwing an engagement party if you're on the fence about this one.

How to throw a joint bachelor/bachelorette party at a baseball game

Most of our friends are couples and we all share in the enjoyment of each other's company. There are no "his" friends and "her" friends, they are simply, "our friends." Add in our 10-month old daughter, and the need for typical bachelor and bachelorette parties goes right out the window. We have a mutual love of baseball (even though our favorite teams yield from opposites sides of the Bay) and beer, so our wedding party decided to throw us a joint "stag" party at our local Triple A baseball game. Here's how they pulled it off…


A party that could save your wedding? In defense of "stag and doe" parties

For those not in the know, these parties are a fundraiser for engaged couples. The idea is that attendees pay an admission (usually around $10-$15), and play games that are designed to make some money for the couple getting married (think dollar dances, coin toss games, raffles, etc). Don't get me wrong, I get how some people may be weirded out by this idea. But I think about it this way…