Bridal body autonomy: My body is none of your business

…I looked at my mother and calmly but firmly said something along the lines of: "I am well aware of what my body looks like. I need you to not talk to me about this anymore. I don't talk to you about your body. My body is not any of your business, only mine, so please don't bring it up again."

My daughter-in-law won't let me throw a bridal shower for her!

Hi! I'm a mother of the groom, and I've been so excited to throw my future daughter-in-law a bridal shower! I'm so excited to introduce her to my friends in a quieter environment, and just have some good old fashioned fun. But she says she wants no bridal shower… I think she's being really selfish. What should I do? -FMIL