6 non-rules for tipping your wedding vendors

There’s so much conflicting information on the internet, it’s no wonder tipping wedding vendors can be such a perplexing topic to so many couples. To make matters worse, it’s a subject that usually doesn’t come to light until the end of the wedding planning process, after you’ve already shelled out a great deal of cash and suddenly realize you might be expected to give EVEN MORE?! And if you don’t — clearly you’re a bad human, your vendors will despise you and ALL. WILL. BE. RUINED! (Dun dun duuuun!)

Well, not exactly. But, the fact is, clients ask me all the time for guidelines on tipping wedding vendors because… wait for it… there are no rules.


So you want to have a friend officiate…

This is a notion that is near and dear to my own heart because that's how I got started as a professional officiant.  My best friend asked me to perform her wedding ceremony, and her big fat Jewish-Lutheran-Pagan ceremony inspired me to become a Life-Cycle Celebrant.

Having a friend-officiate can be a lot of work — in the end, it is DIY project.  But if it is something that you have your heart set on, there are ways to really make it work, and make it work well. So, as a friend-officiant turned professional, I'd like to offer some advice and suggestions for having a friend officiate at your wedding.


A Musician's guide to having live music at your wedding

Having musicians perform live at your wedding ceremony or reception can be a truly magical experience with a special kind of atmosphere that's rarely found elsewhere. But it can bring with it a whole host of problems you'd probably never thought of — from divas to wind direction, from mics to marquees, from amps to acoustics. Here are some thoughts to help you decide on whether you want to have live music at your wedding.


A disappointed bride's 5 tips to get better wedding photos

Our wedding is all done and it was fantastic, but the photography isn't. There's little I can do now, except to share some wedding photography advice with the benefit of hindsight in the hopes that my disappointment won't be yours as well. Here are five things I wish I would have done differently.