My daughter-in-law won't let me throw a bridal shower for her!

Hi! I'm a mother of the groom, and I've been so excited to throw my future daughter-in-law a bridal shower! I'm so excited to introduce her to my friends in a quieter environment, and just have some good old fashioned fun. But she says she wants no bridal shower… I think she's being really selfish. What should I do? -FMIL

Wedding invitation wording during covid-19: Maybe, possibly, depending of the state of the plague

Hi Offbeat Bride! I'm getting married to my partner at the end of May 2021. We are hopeful that we will be able to have some sort of reception in May, but with covid-19, who knows. Will we be able to invite 4 people, 20, 50? None? I would love to hear some ideas on wording a "you may or may not, possibly, be invited to our wedding, but we would like you to save the date, for now"-invitation.