Marry a man who understands feminism: A feminist wedding reading #Ceremony Advice#feminism#quotes#readings Updated Mar 15 2021 (Posted Jan 31 2020) Guest post by Romony Rogers Thirlin Photo by Northfern from this misty horse ranch wedding. Related Post Keep it cosmic AND gender-neutral with this space-themed ceremony script (+ READINGS!) As a queer person, it was important to me to have a ceremony that reflected our values while avoiding language that was cis- or hetero-centric.... Read more One of the most challenging aspects of organising our wedding for me and my wife was finding a reading that reflected our mutual values around feminism. I spent hours searching around for a reading to include during the ceremony that would encapsulate what we really thought but to no avail. I read books by Gloria Steinem, Jane Caro, Marie Stopes and countless internet articles, as well as listening to hours of Deborah Frances-White's podcast desperately hoping to find some gem that would be both positive but also fierce, romantic but forthright and egalitarian. Finally, I stumbled upon Jennifer Wright's article Please, Marry a Man Who Understands Feminism. It was too long to include as a whole, but I spent another few hours editing it down to the word limit that our celebrant had suggested and finally we decided we had the perfect reading. My mum, who was once the National Coordinator of the Australian Women's Electoral Lobby read it with great passion and got a few laughs and cheers. It really would not have been the same without that reading. Many people commented how much the day seemed like a perfect encapsulation of us as a couple and our values. So, if anyone else is still looking around for that perfect reading, I hope this will help: Please, Marry a Man Who Understands Feminism by Jennifer Wright Marry someone who will be your true partner. I hope you have that. I hope you never settle for anything less. Because to be a team is the best thing. Oh, it is the best thing. Some believe that marriage is about being enslaved, a patriarchal institution. But marriage can mean the opposite of that. It can mean being freed from that, and having, at last, someone to go on adventures with. It can mean having someone who makes you braver, because you do not have to face your dragons alone. Marriage can mean finding someone to share your rage at the injustices of the world. It is a great, endless relief to come home and have someone there who will pour you a glass of wine, listen to you and support you while you rage… and when you're finished, someone who will hug you and tell you "That is so shitty". Together, I hope you can push forward and change the world, even if it's just a little. Help your fellow Offbeat Brides out — submit YOUR ceremony script or ceremony readings to our massive Ceremony Advice archive. Just click here to share yours. Excerpted from Please, Marry a Man Who Understands Feminism. Related Post Egalitarian feminist pluralistic ceremony script for your equality-focused ceremony (includes READINGS!) When you want to focus on equality and feminism, it can be hard to find a wedding ceremony script that holds water. This one ROCKS our egalitarian socks. This feminist… Read More Romony Rogers Thirlin Romony is a writer and singer in Australia married to a wonderful feminist who he adores. PREVIOUS How do I make my own wedding invitations online? (We have a one word answer!) NEXT Let's relive a seriously sweet surprise proposal at this engagement shoot in Spain Show/Hide comments [ 0 ] Join the conversation Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.