Mary & Adam's Elephantastic Wedding #Real Weddings: Northeast US#brides in glasses#colorful#librarian#new jersey Updated Oct 12 2015 (Posted May 28 2009) Offbeat Editors To kick off Offbeat Bride's first ever "Elephun Elephant Day" we present to you an elephant inspired wedding! And stay tuned for more elephant themed posts today! Lucy the elephant/wedding location. The Offbeat Bride: Mary, school librarian Her Offbeat Partner: Adam, writer Location & date of wedding: Lucy the Elephant, Margate City, NJ — 4/18/2009 What made our wedding offbeat: We exchanged our vows inside a giant elephant-shaped building from 1882 and our guests got to see the view from the howdah on her back. How fun is that? Post vow smooch inside Lucy. Also, we had no officiant because we didn't want someone standing between us while we said our vows. Adam's mom made our amazing (and delicious) Lucy-shaped cake. A lifelong friend did my hair. Family members decorated blank prayer flags as decorations. My sister and I made the bouquets from supermarket flowers the day before the wedding. And everyone pitched in to pour champagne at the reception. It all happened with the help of our friends and family instead of vendors. Honestly, our wedding would have been crap without everyone's participation. It made the whole event much more fun and meaningful. We asked my sister's kids to choose songs to sing during the ceremony (final picks: "doo wah diddy," "just a boy and a girl in a little canoe," and a song about fruit salad). And we wanted people to be comfortable, so we encouraged everyone to wear whatever they wished. We didn't want an hours-long reception, so we served cake, cannoli, champagne and soda, and wrapped the whole thing up after a few hours. Finally, we wanted to spend time with our families all weekend, so we rented a big ol' beach house for everyone to stay in. Our biggest challenge: Staying flexible and not bowing to what we thought people expected from a wedding and keeping up the continuing conversation about what our priorities were and how to execute them. That ongoing conversation lead us to cancel our dinner reception at a local restaurant about six months before our wedding. It was difficult, but such a relief when we could proceed with our revised, more mellow plans. We displayed postcards of places that are important to us. We also printed postcards of photos of Lucy and asked guests to write us a note on those and place it in the wee red mailbox, instead of signing a guestbook. Ariel said it better than I could, but once we focused our energy on what we did want, as opposed to the things we were choosing to skip, everything started to go much more smoothly. My favorite moment: Saying my vows. So emotional! My advice for other offbeat brides: 1. Use your resources. We just happened to have a fabulous baker & artist (Adam's mom) in the family, and she came up with the best cake ever. Our friends & family were delighted to help and yours will be too, you just have to give up a little control and ask! This is one of my favorites of the two of us. We're standing on the spiral staircase inside one of Lucy's legs. 2. If you're traveling to your wedding and you're hoping to spend time with family and friends, look into alternatives to a hotel. Our gigantic rental house served as a great spot for bouquet-making, cake-icing, rehearsal-dinnering, and just general chilling out. Doing all those things in a hotel would have been inconvenient, if not exactly impossible. And the house was a fraction of the cost of a load of hotel rooms. Ring pillow that says "this is an adventure" 3. Pick a few (that means three) items that are really important to you and stick to your guns on those while maintaining flexibility about the other stuff. For us it was the venue (nothing else could possibly compare to Lucy), the lack of a dress code (it freaked some people out, but we just kept reiterating that we really meant it), and the invitations (we made them ourselves and they were a ton of work, but totally worth it). We made these programs with the gocco, and I stamped the date with a library date due stamp. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?: The fabulous emily from Cheekadee did the ladies' makeup I bought my BCBG dress from bluefly before we were even engaged. My hairpiece was from twigs & honey on etsy. Our wedding rings were from Beth Cyr jewelry. We bought blank & printed prayer flags from West Wind Flags and suitcases from Paper Source and a lot of vintage postcards from ebay. And our incredible photos are by Carina Romano and Amanda Jaffe of Love Me Do Photography. PREVIOUS Alli & Liz's Rock n' Roll Beach Wedding NEXT Use vintage salt & pepper shakers as cake toppers Show/Hide comments [ 16 ] Beth Cyr made our rings too! She is kickass, and we can't wait to wear them (June 13th!). Congratulations on a gorgeous, fun wedding. Elephants are the best. 🙂 Reply I LOVE LUCY! Reply This wedding looks so fabulous. Everybody is obviously having a great time – which is all anyone could ask for. Congrats (and I love love love your cake!) Reply Awesome! I'm so glad to hear that non-officiant weddings go over well. We are doing that and we've been a little nervous about it. It always makes me feel better to see the ideas I have be successful for other people first. Yay! Reply This is a great love story! I must say that I very much enjoyed being a part of this fantastic day. Congrats Mary Fran and Adam! Reply There was no "elephant in the room" for this one, cuz the elephant was the whole darn venue!!!! This is just so awesome! And I love that ring pillow with the "This is an adventure", what an great message! Reply Wow, such a great idea, i think this is the first elephant wedding i have come across! Congratulations to you both, you are so lucky to have such amazing friends and family! Reply thanks everyone for all your kind comments! @courtney: officiant-free did not = hassle-free for us, but near enough. we had a little f.a.q. section in the program which contained a question like "where's the priest?" and then a succinct answer about the reasoning behind our decision. i hope your officiant-less wedding is a success! Reply what a really unique wedding! i LOVE the prayer flag idea, and in fact had just been talking to my fiance about doing the same thing. he was a little frightened that we would have to make them, but thank you so much for sharing the vendor. now we don't have to worry about that! Reply That is the coolest wedding venue I have ever seen. So jealous! Why aren't there giant animal buildings in my area? Reply What an awesome wedding and I love the use of Lucy. I've never actually visited, but have driven past Lucy. My fiance' and I are from South Jersey and are currently planning to have a beach wedding in Brigantine. 🙂 Reply I always wondered how a wedding in Lucy would go. Beautifully from all the pictures. Reply Wait – you got married INSIDE an elephant? That is just about the coolest thing I've ever heard! Reply What a perfect little wedding! I love it all. The cake, the brides outfit, the two little boys holding hands down the aisle. Gorgeous! Reply […] themed wedding was blogged about on Off-Beat Bride! Photography by Carina and Amanda. Click here to see the entire […] Reply That elephant is awesome. Though I'm curious: how big is that thing, and what parts of it can you occupy? Reply Join the conversation Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published. 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