7 steps to pulling off "The Easy Wedding" #Reception Advice#bar wedding#kentucky#lessons learned#simple wedding#wedding venues Updated Jan 5 2021 (Posted Mar 30 2015) Guest post by SparksinKY Sometimes wedding planning can feel very VERY hard… (mug available here) My husband and I got married at a cozy Irish pub in downtown Louisville. The only time I was even stressed out and nervous was the hour or so before the rehearsal on Friday. After that, it was smooth sailing all the way through. Here’s why… 1. We majorly cut the fat This was such a basic wedding to throw. We assembled a few decorations, didn’t fret over tiny details at all, and laid out from the beginning what we cared about most. 2. We didn't use a typical wedding venue Related Post Help, my Google-fu is busted: How to turn Google into your wedding venue search engine I'm convinced if I could save some money if I could find a venue not typically usually used for weddings. I started on Google, of... Read more We got our venue for super-cheap because it wasn’t a typical wedding venue. This place had three rental floors. We chose the two non-wedding floors and avoided the wedding penthouse. The cost of the two floors was still cheaper than the one wedding floor. The number one wedding planning rule: once you add “wedding” in the name, it doubles or triples in price. 3. We got a venue that already looked gorgeous This really contributed to my only spending $130 on decor (including flowers, which were dried from grandma’s garden). The venue had fabulous lighting, cool exposed brick, and looked great on its own. 4. We combined vendor services The venue was also in charge of the catering and drinks, so there was only one person to contact for all of that stuff. We also used a company that provides DJ, video, photo, and photo booth services. We used three of their four services, and got a huge discount. 5. We let the guests be grown-ups Something I think a lot of us get worried about is having to take care of our guests and making sure they can figure out what’s happening at every moment. OMG, we didn’t make a sign pointing to the bathroom! We forgot to make dessert labels! We put the coat rack in the back of the venue instead of the front! These little things that can take up so much head space really don’t matter. They’ll figure it out. They’re adults. They can tell which one is the chess pie and which one is the blackberry. It’s all okay. 6. We surrounded ourselves with drama-free people Related Post Choose your wedding party carefully, and 6 more pieces of wedding advice I needed I read every advice blog there was. I knew what should be in my emergency kit, and I was completely on top of all to-do... Read more My bridesmaids are chill as hell. I could never imagine any of them having a dramatic freak-out or doing something to ruin my plans. Sure, I know people who are like that, but I didn't ask them to be in my bridal party. I also made sure that only my mom was around during the getting-ready process. I had so many offers of help from other relatives, but it would have been way too hectic to have them all hanging around all day. 7. We had a cocktail hour before the ceremony This last one was partially out of our control, but it put me at ease for the rest of the night. I wanted us to greet everyone at the door — I’m hosting a party, I wanted to greet my guests! That alone took off a lot of the pressure of being “presented.” Everyone had about one drink (some probably had two). We departed around back for the ceremony. When my husband walked out with the officiant, the whole crowd cheered and shouted like they were at a sporting event. It was completely spontaneous. It just kind of happened. When I walked out last, same thing. That set the fun, light mood for the rest of the ceremony. Related Post Cue guests to participate in your ceremony with wedding cue cards I want to talk about cue cards. We first mentioned about this idea way back in 2007 and it's still giggle-worthy. This particular helpful groomsman... Read more This could easily be recreated if you want that at a ceremony to kind of stifle the somber, quiet tone that a lot of people feel they have to bring to a wedding. Make a couple of applause signs for people to hold up. Seriously, just getting to make some noise releases so much tension. In the end, there was nothing I would change about our wedding. Everyone had a blast. It was special to us. It was offbeat just to our liking, and downright fun. And that was the number one thing we wanted from the beginning. Guest post written by SparksinKY I'm a radio personality and the future husband works in the movie industry. We're based in Louisville, KY. We got engaged the summer of 2013 and have embarked on some big changes. House-buying, job shifting and wedding planning is certainly not for the faint of heart. http://pinterest.com/stacie.hewitt PREVIOUS Escape to the seaside at Meaghan & John's Cape Cod wedding NEXT Spy the fashion, Pakistani food, and mini grand piano at Vrinda & Michael's giggly elopement Show/Hide comments [ 12 ] Hi Tribe. I'm an OBB advertiser–full disclosure–but if you're in the San Diego area, my company can seriously hook you up when it comes to Tip #4. We do everything from dresses to DJing! Reply Great wedding ! Grats ! Reply Sounds like a blast! Wish I'd been there – always fun to be had in Irish venues in my opinion 🙂 Reply For my wedding I made my number one priority (after getting married of course) that I not feel stressed out. Because I'm a person who is ALWAYS stressed about something. And because I didn't want to feel that way that day. And I told everybody that was my plan – and they helped me with it. It was as easy as deciding it would be easy, and telling people I wanted it to be easy. That's it. It sounds too simple to work, but it worked! SparksinKY your wedding sounds fun, and beautiful! Thanks for sharing! Reply Nice! Reply Really beautiful! Reply Amen girl! I totally agree! I'm doing a few weddings this year with the cocktail hour before the ceremony – such a gem of an idea! Reply So wonderful to read this. My partner proposed this week and we want to get married this fall, so the wedding planning is in full force. It's been my goal to have a wedding like what you describe, and I'm so glad to see it can be done. Can't wait to see more about it! Reply Your wedding and my wedding would have had fun together I think. In other news, I love the shoes! I have a really similar pair that I inherited from my Mum, except black. I have been obsessed with them for most of my life (seriously, one of my first memories is *those shoes* and she eventually just got fed up of me 'borrowing' them all the time and just gave them to me. Reply I LOVE the ideas of applause signs! That's such an awesome thought. Reply Where did you get those shoes!? Exactly what I'm looking for. Also, I'm so glad you went off the beaten course and were happy with the results. I love your line, "They are adults, they can figure it out!" Exactly what I need to remind myself. Reply Great article! My favorite is: Let the adults be grown-ups. YES! Guests will find the restrooms! haha! Reply Join the conversation Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! 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