The two of us with finger dragonThe offbeat bride: Ariel, computer security engineer (and OBT member “Ariel (but not that one)“)

Her offbeat partner: Andrew, computer game programmer

Location & date of wedding: MIT Chapel and Faculty Club, Cambridge, MA. — October 3, 2009

What made our wedding offbeat: We started with a riot of medieval-inspired color: sapphire blue silk dress, purple-and-black-velvet groom, attendants in their choice of dupioni silk color and outfit style. (We ended up with pairs purely by coincidence.)

We built our custom ceremony around what we felt was most important in marriage, with our eight vows reflected in handfasting cords and the ingredients in a shared cup of ceremonial hot chocolate. The ceremony was gender-neutral and religion-free, but captured the sacred and important feeling we wanted. Dragons have been a symbol of our relationship from the beginning, so our attendants carried stuffed dragons from our collection. (The guys wore finger puppets.)

The grooms attendants and their dragons.
The groom's attendants and their dragons.

Our brunch reception featured a Lego sculpture and handmade chocolate lego favors in seven delicious flavors. Instead of a guest book, we asked our guests to sign as witnesses a gold-leafed calligraphy wedding certificate with our dragons and vows; we wanted something Ketubah-like on our wall with all of our guests' names on it for the future.

Of course, the centerpiece of our offbeat reception was probably our first dance; we skipped the ballroom and went for a choreographed duel with German longswords. To start the marriage on the right foot, it was a draw — the bride disarmed the groom and took his sword, and he grappled her for a final dip and kiss. Foam swords brought by a guest continued the fun, with a string of cheerful melees continuing beside the dancing through the rest of the reception. It was joyful, fun, us!


Our biggest challenge: Time management and overenthusiasm. I'd signed up for far more craft projects (handmade invitations! chocolate legos! gold-leafed calligraphy! custom sword sheaths!) than was remotely feasible, and then had a string of perfectly-timed rainstorms wreck three weekends' worth of chocolate-making in a row.

Chocolate Lego favors!

Because Andy is a lego fanatic and I'm a mad chocolatier, colored chocolate lego favors had been on the must-have list for years before we got engaged. Two weeks before the wedding, with only three batches done, a cold in the house, and without the calligraphy started, I was against a wall and miserable because it looked like my One Must-Have Project wouldn't happen. My oh-so-patient groom suggested alternate favors, my skilled graphic designer aunt adapted our dragons for us, and we ordered last-minute mugs, because even if favors weren't necessary I'd have felt like a complete failure giving the guests nothing after all the lego hype.

The bride walking down the aisle with both parents.
The bride walking down the aisle with both parents.

And after all that, with the stress and responsibility off of my back I ended up being relaxed and super-productive and finishing the legos after all; plus the mugs ended up being the perfect size for putting candy bags in, and we've had people ask for more.

I guess my lesson is that sometimes having a backup plan can enhance the original plan and help it move ahead! (We did end up having to skip the customized sword sheaths, but shockingly enough managed everything else. Yay!)

My favorite moment: There were so many, it's hard to choose!

The end of the sword fight.
The end of the sword fight.
  • Walking in on the morning of and discovering that our attendants, far from being embarrassed about carrying stuffed animals down the aisle, had made accessories for their dragons.
  • Listening to two of my attendants lead the guests in a song, “Call down a blessing”, that I'd let our officiant talk us into because I didn't have a reason not to, and realizing that it was a more perfect moment than anything I could have imagined.
  • Drinking the spicy-sweet marriage hot chocolate with my new spouse.
  • Being unable to resist dancing down the aisle and beyond, because hey, we were married and there was good music playing! (Baba Yetu, the Civ IV opening theme. Listen to it sometime.)
  • Successfully getting through the swordfight we'd choreographed at the last minute with only one hiccup, and realizing from the applause that people really did love it, and us, and we'd done well. (And that they weren't just humoring us, which was a constant worry throughout our planning.)
  • Looking around at all of our attendants and realizing that for all our worries about custom outfits and mismatched colors, everyone looked more splendid and happy than we ever could have hoped for.
  • Walking out of the reception at the end of the day and saying “Wow. It really couldn't have gone any better.”

Ceremony view

My offbeat advice: Talk to your attendants about your crazy plans before you force anything on them, but don't spend too much time stressing about their humoring you — they might be, but if they're offbeat types themselves, there's a good chance they're enjoying the heck out of it too.

Remember that if your offbeat choices are sufficiently beautiful, even the conservative family folks may be persuaded in the end. (I can't count the number of people who said, “Now I see why you didn't want to wear white! Wow!”)

Don't let yourself be convinced that a little lightheartness detracts from the sincerity of a wedding — you really can achieve a sacred perfect moment surrounded by stuffed animals, if you and your audience all know that's what you're there for.

Prioritize your DIY projects; chances are you *will* run out of time, and know in advance which things you'll be heartbroken without and which can be left undone and forgotten. (Do the first ones first if you can.)

Have a backup plan for anything that needs to be done or delivered in the final month; whether or not you need it, it will save you a huge amount of stress, and sometimes those backup plans can dovetail with the original and end up even better than you'd hoped for.

And on a totally unrelated note, tribal tattoo designs are a *great* way to get a unifying iconography for a wedding: they can be printed, stamped, calligraphed, put on jewelry… B&W line drawings go everywhere.

Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?:

  • Bride's dress: Custom work by the genius Harper at Seams
  • Groom's outfit and attendant outfits: Custom designs by the brilliant Allison of Aetas Designs
  • Our wedding “tribal tattoo” dragon designs, used for everything we could put them on including our rings: The unbelievably skilled WildSpiritWolf
  • Our engagement and wedding rings: The wonderful folks at Bostonian Jewelers, particularly Alexandria Matossian (and her amazing CAD programs!)
  • Bride's shoes, perfect for a day of dancing: Medieval Moccasins
  • Groom's boots:
  • Bride's other jewelry: custom work by Shirley Woodcock-Kolb; no URL, but we found her at the Sterling Renfaire.
  • Photographer: Dana Giuliana

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Comments on Ariel & Andrew’s dragons & Lego-filled, sword-fighting wedding

  1. so this wedding is awesome for a bunch of reasons, the outfits are beautiful, the dragons, the swordfight, but i want to specifically mention that the Mother of the Bride looked HOT and it made me happy to see such bright colors on everyone that looked so GOOD on them!

  2. OMG, can I steal your wedding?! Not that I want my wedding to be exactly like yours, of course… Mostly I love the sword fight. In fact, I am seriously considering borrowing it for my wedding. My fiance collects swords, and while we certainly wouldn't use any of the ones currently in his collection (they're seriously sharp), it would suit us very well. I really like your "guestbook" idea as well, and your dress is absolutely gorgeous!

  3. Clarekrmiller: Go right ahead. I am a firm believer in imitation being the most sincere form of flattery. We even released our ceremony Creative Commons to encourage that sort of thing. And I firmly believe that more weddings should contain swords. They make everything better. 😉

  4. OMG, yay for Baba Yetu! All through my wedding planning my family kept teasing me that I was going to walk down the aisle to that song (I really almost did but walked to WALL-E instead). I'm so glad to see that someone used it! Such a great song. (And I totally love your ceremony location, it's been a favorite building of mine since I was a kid sitting in on my dad's architecture lectures!)

  5. I could not be more enchanted. Love the stuffed dragons, it's so cute and awesome. Dragons with accessories! Yes!

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