I vetoed the bouquet toss. Instead, I dedicated it to my grandma who passed away two months before the wedding. That was fairly emotional and one of my favorite moments.
Now, I'm all for tossing a bouquet (or a stuffed blue turtle shell) at people after a wedding, but there's something really sweet and loving about Melanie's alternative. Would you want to dedicate your bouquet to a loved one's memory instead of tossing it to your friends? You could just quietly leave your wedding bouquet in front of a loved one's photo at your reception or save it to place on a grave or at a shrine.
And you know what? No one's saying people in the wedding party couldn't do the same, with a bouquet or a boutonniere or a corsage. Gorgeous.