Diamond & Jack's retro glam "show-emony" and after-party wedding

Updated Mar 15 2021
J&A Wedding 5/18/14
Photos by Aura McKay and Frankie Panky

The Offbeat Bride: Diamond Minx, Burlesque Performer (and Tribesmaid)

Her offbeat partner: Jack O'Diamonds, Professional Yo-yoer

Date and location of wedding: The Metro Ballroom, New Westminster, BC, Canada — May 18, 2014

Our offbeat wedding at a glance: When we got engaged, J had some strong opinions about what he didn't like about traditional weddings. Making the guests wait around in between the ceremony and reception was a big no-no for him, so we designed the event around the idea of a VIP pre-show reception, a "show-emony" (with performances by us and our friends), and an after-party.

J&A Wedding 5/18/14

I had champagne taste and a beer budget, so we got creative and very DIY. I made most of my dress (the corset was a collaborative effort with Lace Embrace Atelier, but I made the skirt, crinoline, veil (which I forgot to wear! DARN!), panties, and garter). A friend and I made the bouquets and boutonnieres, my maid of honor and mother-in-law did the venue flowers, I made the backdrop, card box, and signage, wrote the ceremony, got the liquor license and booze, and then there was the food…

J&A Wedding 5/18/14

Self Catered Buffet

My chef friend Chris had offered to do the catering. We've thrown big parties before: we plan the menu, I shop for the food, he cooks it. But when my mother-in-law tripled the cocktail party guest list, we decided to split the effort. Chris and I dealt with the hot buffet items, the large salads, and the candy buffet, and my mother-in-law and her team of helpers did the charcuterie, cheeses, antipasto, fruit and vegetables, and desserts.

All told, the wedding cost less than half of what it could have cost, thanks to a lot of hard work by our friends and family!

Handfasting blessing supplies & cord

J&A Wedding 5/18/14

Tell us about the ceremony:
Being able to have a traditional celtic handfasting meant a lot to both of us. J loves the sentiment behind "As Long as Love Shall Last," and I have always felt a deep affinity to the ceremony of the six cords.

J&A Wedding 5/18/14

Our officiant, Nikiah Seeds, is a Celtic Shaman and Interfaith Minister, and she wrote this lovely blessing that we used at the beginning of the ceremony:

In times past it was believed that the human soul shared characteristics with all things divine. It is this belief which assigned virtues to elements representing the four cardinal directions; East, South, West, and North. It is in this tradition that a blessing is offered in support of this ceremony.

Waving feather over hands: 'Blessed be by the element of air. May you be blessed with communication, intellectual growth, and wisdom.'
Pouring water over hands: 'Blessed be by the element of water. May you be blessed with friendship, intuition, caring, understanding, and love.'
Taking candle and passing it over hands: 'Blessed be by the element of fire. May you be blessed with harmony, vitality, creativity, and passion.'
Sprinkling sand over hands: 'Blessed be by the element of earth. May you be blessed with tenderness, happiness, compassion, and sensuality.'

Each of the blessings from the four elements emphasizes those things which will help you build a happy and successful union – yet they are only tools. Tools which you must use together in order to create what you seek as a couple.

J&A Wedding 5/18/14

J&A Wedding 5/18/14

J&A Wedding 5/18/14

Our biggest challenge:
We handed an extremely difficult job to our photographer, Aura: a 45-minute time window between the end of the ceremony and the cake cutting in order to take the formal photographs. She came through in SPADES! She set up a photography area and her lighting rig in an upstairs room, grabbed people as she could (the solo picturess of me, and the ones with my bridesmaids and dad were taken before the ceremony while we were waiting), and motored through the list we gave her. I think most photographers who didn't know us would have turned down the challenge, but luckily, Aura was up for it.

J&A Wedding 5/18/14

As for unexpected challenges, the big one would be the music. There was a lot of trouble with the music tracks at the start of the show. I ended up doing my number a capella, and J's yo-yo number was performed to a random song the DJ threw on instead of the music that was edited together for it. I wish we had time for a sound check (or that the tracks had been checked in advance).

J&A Wedding 5/18/14

J&A Wedding 5/18/14

My favorite moment:
Bar none, my highlight was my 83-year-old dad being able to attend and walk me down the aisle. He suffers from Alzheimers and is quite frail, so it was very tiring for him to be out at an evening event. Major thank-yous to J's dad for being my dad's personal chauffeur and making sure he got home safe (he had to leave the wedding right after the pictures to drive him home and then come back).

J&A Wedding 5/18/14

Having the entire event in the same venue over the span of an evening was challenging in some regards (tight timeline!), but SO wonderful in others. It was great having aspects of the event just naturally flow into each other, people didn't have to move from space to space, and they could just relax and enjoy the food, the entertainment, and the dancing.

My funniest moment:
An awesome moment was getting dragged out on the dance floor to "Vogue" with my friends from the burlesque community. I even managed to borrow a fan so I could do my best tipsy "Madonna at the 1990 MTV Awards."

J&A Wedding 5/18/14

Our drag queen MC, Symone, coming into the audience and sitting in J's cousin's lap during the show was also a highlight. The first thing I did after J proposed was to ask Symone if she'd MC, and she just about stole the show!

J&A Wedding 5/18/14

J&A Wedding 5/18/14

J&A Wedding 5/18/14

J&A Wedding 5/18/14

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  1. Amazing wedding and such a beautiful couple. In the picture of you and your dad, the emotion in your eyes made me get goosebumps. I wish you all the happiness in the world!

    • Thank you! I got really misty when he walked in the door. (He and J's dad arrived after the pre-ceremony reception had started so that he wasn't having to be out for too long. My mother is housebound and gets nervous when he's out for long periods)

  2. This is all so beautiful, and as feather says, the photographs of you with your Dad are so moving. All the pictures are wonderful. All the best for the future.

  3. I was tearing up reading about how you loved how your father was able to walk you down the aisle (alzeimers is a b**ch), THEN I saw that picture of the two of you with so much emotion. Beautiful, wonderful, and I'll know you'll always cherish that time.

    • If you can believe it, the aisle runner CAME WITH THE VENUE!!! I adore black and white and red, and this venue was just tailor made for my taste – it was my first choice within our budget because we were able to self cater and supply our own alcohol, and it required minimal decorating. Pretty much all we did was bring in a backdrop/pipe and drape, and flowers.

  4. Good lord, that dress is amazing! I mean, Canadian ladies have some of the best dresses *ahem*, but that is seriously stunning. I can't believe you did so much of it yourself! What a talent.

    Congratulations 🙂

  5. DiamondMinx! I saw that your wedding was featured – after reading your posts/comments and interactions on the tribe I was excited to see "one of us" get featured – but I had NO IDEA you are in the lower mainland too! Your wedding looked amazing – your dress, seriously, your dress! And how friggin awesome that your Dad was well enough to be there. Congrats!!!

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