The Offbeat Bride: Kim, Counselor/grad student
Her offbeat partner: Dan, Graphic Designer
Date and location of wedding: Santa Barbara, CA — August 12, 2012
Our offbeat wedding at a glance: We are both artists and love comic books. I am a huge pin-up fan and wanted to tie that into the wedding as well. I could not decide on wedding colors, so I went for black with pops of different bright colors. Each of the bridesmaids had a different color that matched the groomsman she walked with. We made the centerpieces: yarn pom-poms each in a jar with comic book wedding covers. I was able to find covers from different comic books that were all wedding-themed!
The cake was vegan since I'm lactose intolerant, with Superman and Wonder Woman logos. The cake topper was very special to me, as it was a vintage Wonder Woman toy that was my favorite as a child. Dan also picked out a Spider-Man toy for it.
Tell us about the ceremony: Our pastor did a reading about how love is like a pearl — it can be rough and take time, but in the end it's beautiful. Then she gave me a pearl. It was very touching. The ceremony was full of humor. Looking back at our wedding video, we caught Dan making a joke that is now forever in our vows. We were watching Flash Gordon before the wedding, and I suggested that the vow from the movie “and not to blast her into space” should be in the vows. Dan disagreed, but as a joke, he said “I will not blast you into space” quietly to me during a pause in the vows.
Our biggest challenge: Planning a wedding while in grad school, and from a different state, was a challenge. I had to coordinate everything between finals from Colorado. I'm so glad I had my mom in California to help out.
My favorite moment: My 91-year-old grandfather was there, and he was SO excited to be involved in the wedding. He joked with my friends and smiled the whole day. That meant the world to me. My grandmother could not make it, but was sent play-by-play pictures of the wedding. It was great to hear her feedback via text. Also, being in the same room as all my friends, some I have known for 30 years, was perfect. I felt so loved.
My funniest moment: I had picked an orchestral version of “Dancing Queen” by ABBA for my processional. I was super excited for it, and the wedding planner said she found it. She didn't. I walked down the aisle to the full-on disco version of Dancing Queen!
Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great?
My wedding photographer was paid in full for the whole day, which included the reception. After taking some photos at the ceremony, he said he would be a little late to the reception and asked to do all the family photos there. He was never seen again, and I was stuck at the reception with no photographer and no family pictures! But we had a superhero in the crowd: Dan's close friend, who is also a graphic designer and photographer, stepped up and took all our pictures. We were so lucky that she was willing.
Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?
- Photography: Sheryl Dinkel
- Dress: David's Bridal
- Necklace: Betsey Johnson
- Headpiece: Nordstrom
- Bridesmaid dresses: Pin-Up Girl Clothing
- Cake: Decadence Wedding Cakes
Enough talk — show me the wedding porn!