Martha & Daniel's low-impact redwoods wedding (with many pretzels!) #Real Weddings: Western US#burlesque#california#colored crinoline#forest#peacock feathers#red hair#secular#short dress October 23 2014 | Offbeat Editors offbeatbride The Offbeat Bride: Martha, Bookstore Manager and Designer Her offbeat partner: Daniel, Payroll Administrator Date and location of wedding: UC Botanical Gardens and Cloud 9, Berkeley, CA — August 3, 2013 Our offbeat wedding at a glance: We tried really hard to make our wedding as low-impact, local, and sustainable as possible without going broke. This translated into me getting my wedding dress used and Daniel's entire outfit being made in America (which was pretty hard to do, actually). We also used all compostable flatware and plates which we ordered in bulk. Vases, platters, and other accessories were found at estate sales, and we gave lots of things away after the wedding. Etsy was also a huge help in keeping it local. I specifically did vendor searches for California and the West Coast as much as possible. Finally, having friends and family who were florists, hair stylists, builders, bakers, brewmasters, seamstresses, photographers, and calligraphers made our dream wedding possible on a very limited budget. Hurray and thanks again to all our friends! We designed our own marriage crest. Our last names are Pettit and Dietzel, so when you put them together you get a Petzel which is pretty close to a pretzel. We had gone to Germany and Oktoberfest last year, and it was a very special trip for us as Daniel's ancestors were from a small town in central Germany that we visited while there. We also ate lots of pretzels and both of us love German food. We used our wedding pretzel crest on our program, the laser-cut coasters I designed, a tiny flag that was on our wedding cake, and on the thank-you cards we sent out. We put a Buckminster Fuller dome and tiny astronauts on our wedding cake, along with a tiny homemade flag. The unspoken theme of our wedding was "adventure," and we tried to add in elements of that in lots of small ways. The astronauts and the dome on our cake with the tiny flag were a bit of an inside joke for Daniel and I as one of our favorite podcasts, Harmontown, always talks about colonizing the moon. So our cake was our own little moon landing, complete with our flag and dome. We knew we wanted to have a traditional element to our wedding, but didn't want to do a bouquet toss or garter belt as we didn't really dig either of those traditions. We started researching traditions from both our cultures and we found this cup ceremony and it just seemed perfect. We asked a good friend to read the story and another good friend to pour the wine. What we didn't know was that they would get three other friends to help them make it a show. One played piano while two more friends acted out the story. It was hands-down one of the best moments of the reception. Tell us about the ceremony: Our ceremony was something we worked really hard on and we used Offbeat Bride quite a bit for this aspect of the wedding. We pieced together lots of ideas from different things we found online and had three readings. We didn't want any religious themes, and we wanted to emphasize that the origin of weddings isn't exactly known. We also have poly and gay friends and we chose readings that were not explicitly about hetero-only relationships. We included a passage from "Life Without God" by Douglas Coupland, "The Velveteen Rabbit" by Margery Williams, and "To A Stranger" by Walt Whitman. Our biggest challenge: Related Post You might want pre-marital counseling (even if you think you don't) When I got engaged, I wondered how I would balance the excitement of planning the magical party with the importance and gravity of beginning a... Read more The biggest challenge was having a close family member threaten to not attend my wedding if a certain thing didn't go their way just three days before the wedding. It was very hard and Daniel and I had to go to a last-minute couples therapy session to talk about it, but we got through it. Therapy was really important for me in processing all the emotions that come with family conflicts and I highly recommend it. My favorite moment: The moment that we walked down the aisle and saw everyone sitting there from all different points in life was pretty damned meaningful. I was also clinging to a handkerchief wrapped around my bouquet that had belonged to a very dear friend that had passed away the previous year suddenly, so she was in my heart, too. But the most meaningful moment was reading our vows. It took all my strength to keep from totally sobbing, I was so overcome with emotion. My funniest moment: A very good friend agreed to do burlesque at our wedding but didn't tell us what the song or routine would be. She pulled us up on stage, put dog collars on us, and it was pretty much the best thing ever. [NSFW photo here] What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? The most important thing I learned was that despite being with my partner for close to a decade, we still had communication challenges, especially when it came to navigating the complicated waters of planning a big event. Planning our wedding brought us even closer together which I didn't really think was possible. Also, on a lighter note, I learned that estate sales are the best thing EVER for a DIY bride. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Photography: Lead photo by Nate Chavez. All other photos by Sayf Khidir. Florist: The Poppy Studio Astronauts: Sugar Fox Shop Earrings: Isobell Guest Book: Paper Jayne Debbie Cake Stand: PatinaVille Cufflinks: Cuffs and Clips Cage Veil: Belle de Benoir Fascinator: The Headband Shoppe Rings: VK Designs Compostable dishware: World Centric Rentals: C&M Party Venue: UC Botanical Gardens and Cloud 9 Catering: Homeroom Baked goods: Ralf's Bavarian Bakery and Angel Cakes Socks: Darn Tough Socks Tie: Mountain & Sackett Groom's shoes: Allen Edmonds Bride's outfit: Emerald City Gowns and La Rosa Vintage Groom's clothing: Hardwick and Ratio Clothing Shoes: T.U.K. from ModCloth Stylist/makeup artist: That Girl With Purple Hair Invitations: Illustration by Edward De Leon Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Confidence: the secret key to pulling off a guilt-free budget wedding NEXT I made my Save The Dates with Vine: check out my 6-second STD Show/Hide comments [ 4 ] Hey everyone! Bride here, there was a few things I forgot to put in my post. 1. The spotify link for our pre/processional/post music if you are curious: http://open.spotify.com/user/mgpettit/playlist/2Nb1w5wOicBCy5uX6pl9Ja My fella also made the playlist for the reception/dance party music, but that was on an ipod and was too big to recreate in spotify 😉 2. My friend the burlesque dancer is Laika Fox: http://laikafox.com/ 3. My ceremony dress is for sale on craigslist: http://sfbay.craigslist.org/eby/clo/4725734985.html Thanks for reading about my wedding and let me know if you have any questions! Martha Reply This is like, my ideal wedding! what a beautiful venue! xx Reply LOVE so many things about this one, especially the German bridal cup! Reply OMYGOD this looks so cooooll ! 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