Risa & Jon's purple-corseted, gender-quirked, barefoot wedding #Real Weddings: Northeast US#barefoot bride#brides over 40#brooklyn#corset#long-haired groom#new york#new york city#outdoor#plus size#purple hair#short dress#short hair Updated Mar 15 2021 (Posted Jun 19 2015) Offbeat Editors Photos by: De Nueva Photography Photos by Nicki Fietzer, De Nueva Photography The Offbeat Bride: Risa, web product magicker (and Offbeat Bride Tribe member) Her offbeat partner: Jon, nonprofit development manager Date and location of wedding: Picnic House, Prospect Park, Brooklyn, NY — August 22, 2014 Our offbeat wedding at a glance: Our theme was "sustainable." We wanted to have all of the stuff we used for the wedding either be reused or reusable, including our outfits. Our colors were purple and orange, after our favorite colors, and we also wanted an event that reflected our maker-style, our love for public areas and green space, and our geeky aesthetic. So we ended up with a melange of aspects from wine and beer making, the NYC subway, and science-fiction and fantasy. I had an incredible time working with L'Atelier de LaFleur creating my outfit. I started off simply wanting a corset to wear under a dress or suit (I hadn't decided at the time) that would support my hips while dancing, and once I got to Mina, the idea bloomed into this magical thing that included a TIE so I could represent my gender quirks. The centerpieces were made from grapevine wreaths with re-purposed wine and beer bottles, NYC subway line logos, sci-fi/fantasy books we both loved, recycled silk bookmarks, and remote control LED candles that ended up being a real hit for the children involved. They changed all the colors on everyone's tables and had a lot of fun. We (inadvertently) did a lot of things with circles. Instead of having an aisle, everyone who attended the wedding sat at circular tables arranged in a circle around an open area, facing a dais. This had the great benefit of not making anyone choose a side. One inadvertent moment of gender-quirkiness: Jon had the pale outfit, and I had the dark one. We loved that. Tell us about the ceremony: Since we had no aisle, our parties came in from either side of the circle of tables and headed up to the dais. Our party included people with physical restrictions, and we didn't want a hierarchy of party members, so our parties sat in two semi-circles. We arrived on our own, met each other in the middle of the circle of tables, and then proceeded to the middle of the circle on the dais, surrounded by our parties' love and good intentions. We went into the ceremony barefoot. Originally we planned to have the wedding outside, due to my desire to have our feet on bare ground, connected to the park. But we're both generally lovers of going barefoot, and so when rain changed our plans, we kept the bare feet. Our ceremony was performed by the amazing Reverend D, and included a wine/beer ritual and a string-tying ritual instead of exchanging rings. The wine/beer ritual included stuff we brewed ourselves specifically for this, and we used a two-sided glass that had been gifted to us from one of my party. We also had a reading of the poem "How Falling in Love is Like Owning a Dog," by Taylor Mali. Our pup was ailing at the time, so it was very poignant for us. We had one hiccup in our ceremony: our recessional music never played! We waited on the dais for about five minutes before I said "F*@k it," and we ran off hand-in-hand. That's our single regret: we didn't get to leave to the theme from the A Team! Tell us about your reception: In our reception we had a raw bar for the cocktail hour, which was one of our favorite parts of the reception. I had to fight a bit to get some for us. We also had decided not to do a registry. What we wanted from our friends and family were gifts of skills and memories. Therefore we had two memory boxes for the event, made by my talented stepfather, and they were labeled for our first and fifth wedding anniversary. We received some amazing cards and gifts as part of that process. My stepfather and stepsister also sang Cris Williamson's "Soaring" for our first dance, since we used to love to sing together when we were young, and that was a song that can still make me cry. I also decided that not only would I do a dance with my stepfather, I would also do a dance with my mother, since one of my favorite memories is us spontaneously dancing in the kitchen to our shared musical favorites. We danced to "Loves Me Like A Rock" by Paul Simon. Finally, I wish we had photos of the ice cream bar! We decided not to have cake, due to a wide variety of allergies in our party, but the ice cream bar was splendid. What was your most important lesson learned? The biggest wedding planning challenge we had was managing major pet illnesses while still trying to do everything ourselves. The moment our dog got as sick as she did, I should have discarded any of my plans that Partner didn't mind one way or the other, since delegating wasn't going to be easy. We didn't precisely overcome it — a lot was lost the eve and day of, and the sparseness of the decor shows it — but the wedding was terrific despite that, so there was joy in discovering that love and kindness can cover a lot of mistakes. The most important lesson I learned was to overcommunicate — to myself as well! A lot of wedding eve and wedding day headaches could have been avoided if I had written a list of everything I wanted to do and had handed it over to my partner and my party, and then made a copy for myself and posted it on the bathroom door. Vendors Photography: Nicki Fietzer, De Nueva Photography Dress: L'Atelier De La Fleur Suit: Ryan Lee Levinson and Ted Baker Venue: Prospect Park Picnic House Catering & Coordination: Bartleby and Sage Officiant: The Reverend D This post features Offbeat Vendors! Check out their vendor listing to see how they cater to Offbeat Brides: De Nueva Photography The Reverend D PREVIOUS Sweet wedding vows that include mating penguins and Broad City NEXT Pin up shoes for retro weddings Show/Hide comments [ 11 ] CORSET WITH A TIE. Reply There's so much to love here, but in particular I cannot get over your outfits! You're a beautiful, beautiful couple. Reply Awww thank you so much! *blush* Reply One word: free! You two look so free! I love it! Reply Thank you! Reply "The most important lesson I learned was to overcommunicate — to myself as well! A lot of wedding eve and wedding day headaches could have been avoided if I had written a list of everything I wanted to do and had handed it over to my partner and my party, and then made a copy for myself and posted it on the bathroom door." Totally taking that advise. I'm so Type B in life but I am getting a little anal about the wedding. Nothing too crazy but we are setting up and arranging EVERYTHING ourselves. So.. forethought would be good. Thanks! Reply If you're setting up and arranging everything yourselves, I highly recommend giving yourselves lots of time, too! Loads of support and good wishes for your upcoming nuptials 🙂 Reply i remember seeing your outfit before on the Tribe, it's so absolutely gorgeous on you! i love your partner's reaction 🙂 beautiful wedding, congratulations! Reply Thank you very much! I was thrilled at his reaction too 🙂 Reply As a teacher, I know who Taylor Mali is; my principal plays "What Do Teachers Make" at the beginning of every year. I've never read this one, though. It's wonderful! It's perfect for a wedding! Thank you for sharing, and I hope that when my time to marry comes, you won't mind if I use it. Reply I got it from here at OBB, so please, use away! Reply Join the conversation Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.