On my side of the wedding party, I'll be having both bridesmaids and bridesmen. I am not sure how much of the wedding planning to include them in and what events they should/would want to attend. Should I have them come to the bridal shower which, in the past, has been a traditionally a female-centered event? They will attend whatever I ask, but I am not sure where to draw the line.
With more and more wedding parties going the way of the coed, it's becoming pretty common and no big deal to see men on the bride's side, especially around these parts. Sometimes couples even have a shared wedding party, especially if they have a ton of shared friends. The point is, there are no set rules for gender-blind wedding parties as long as you're honoring the feelings of your friends. Let's talk about asking dudes to join you at your pre-wedding parties and planning events.
Our advice is pretty simple: if they'd enjoy helping and being a part of the celebrations, invite them. Trust us, nobody should be balking at bridesdudes crashing the traditionally lady-filled parties.
If they're not interested in (or would feel awkward at) the pre-wedding parties, you can absolutely tell them they don't have to attend with no hard feelings. Sometimes wedding party members are more ceremonial than practical in their roles, and that's totally cool.
But really, if they're part of your select crew, they'll likely want to be a part of the fun and know that they'll need to step up when it counts. Hell, if they'd be more comfortable attending your partner's parties, toss them an invite to those instead. Seriously, anything goes here.
Consider having a quick chat with each bridesman to give them the run-down of the events and seeing to which they'd like an invite and act accordingly. If they're rad at DIY, they may want an invite to craft nights. If they're partiers who can hang with the chicks, your bachelorette party could be their thing. Just do a little party to due match-up and you're set. Then be sure to send us photos of the fun!
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Do YOU have any tips for inviting bridesmen to your pre-wedding parties? Share in the comments!