A nice ‘n’ sane bridesmaids contract

Guest post by Monicawesome

You may recall An Offbeat Bride's vows to herself. The author, Monicawesome, is back with a great bridesmaid's contract that isn't nuts.

three slurpees, alike in sugary dignity

I've read a lot of bridal party kvetching, from both the bride and bridesmaid sides, but the one that topped the cake for me was when a friend of mine's bride-to-be sent out CONTRACTS for her ladies to sign, a la this masterpiece. I always thought the one in the link was a joke, but the friend's now-wife was dead serious about hers.

So I decided to minimize any misunderstandings about my expectations for my bridesmaids before they begin. In that spirit, I present my very own Bridesmaid Contract!

______ I will listen to Monica's babbling, and let her know she's only slightly crazy.

______ I will have fun while planning with Monica.

______ I will look however I want, because Monica doesn't care.

______ I swear to “be there” for the bride just like I always am, because she is my friend.

______ I will NOT let Monica's wedding detract from other parts of my life.

______ I will not forget that while I am Monica's friend, she is MY friend as well, and is there if I need her

______ I will eat, drink, and be merry whenever possible.

______ I will engage in much laughter and *inappropriate hugging*

______ I will tease Nick whenever possible.

______ I will tease Monica whenever possible.

______ I will not feel the need to spend a ton of money on a dress/shoes/jewelry/manicure/WHATEVER.

______ I will have an amazing time!

I do hereby swear that I will adhere to all of the above and other understood bridesmaid duties for the wedding on October 28, 2012

(sign, print and date)

I'm going to send this out in a card to each of my friends when I ask them to be bridesmaids.

You know we love your comments, but please be conscious about NOT using this as a space to complain about less-than-satisfactory bridesmaids. We're not about bitching, we're about supporting!

Comments on A nice ‘n’ sane bridesmaids contract

  1. LOL – that’s fantastic! Too bad we’re already hitched, ’cause I would *so* steal it to give to my Maids of Awesome! I especially like the “I will not feel the need to spend a ton of money … “; far better to have a good time than an outrageously expensive ensemble. 😉

  2. Bookmarked! A great idea in and of itself. The “original” contract is ::ahem:: a bit intense – no offense of course to any brides out there. I prefer this version much more!

  3. Love it, might have to steal! I asked my girls back in the summer, and with the holidays and another family members wedding the past few months, our wedding has been on the back burner. But now that we can concentrate on ours, I might have to send this out as a “reminder” of all the fun that is to be had!! 🙂

  4. I love this. It perfectly sums up my “expectations” for my bridesmaids as well 🙂

  5. That is awesome. The other one was just scary. I hadn’t seen anything like it before. ick.

  6. Aw, this makes me wish I had a bunch of ladies to send this to! My sister is definitely gonna be up there with me but other than her it’s guys I get along with .. maybe i’ll have some dudes of awesome instead of brides maids 🙂

    • I’m currently wishing I wanted a flower girl so my friend Nathan could do it…

  7. I like the first comment where she says MAIDS OF AWESOME! Thats so true. The ladies and gents (mixed gender bridal party on my side) …are the most awesome people ever.

    I think this contract is a great way to break the ice and keep everyone (including me) in check.

    This is my second wedding and the first time we were fairly traditional but I let my girls wear whatever they wanted and they sure did and I was so happy with that. I also did not have a dress code for my guests. They know what to wear and what looks good on them…what they wear is not my decision to make in this group of family and friends.

    I am super excited to come up with a witty and cool contract for my maids of awesome!

    Thanks for sharing ^_^

  8. I’m totally stealing this. Sure, I only have two bridesmaids, but it’s my oldest friend and my sister. The friend is getting married herself, and the sister is in the first throws of pre-med. I REALLY don’t want them stressing about my wedding, just enjoy, party, and hold my flowers when I need a free hand, thanks.

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