What role of honor should my friend have? #Friends & Family Advice#bridesmaids#mixed-gender wedding party Updated Apr 23 2018 (Posted Oct 10 2007) Ariel arielmstallings Cindy with her bridal bodyguards My partner and I have decided to only have our siblings in the wedding party, which is great. However, I have a great friend that I would like to include in some sort of role of honor. Any ideas what this role could be? I need ideas! — MP I would ask this friend what role s/he would like to play, and maybe give him/her a few ideas and suggested titles. Basically, figure out what magical skill your friend has to contribute, and then build a special role for him/her around that skill. Are they a poet? Have 'em open the ceremony with a reading! Are they an organizational fiend? Appoint them Lead Wedding Tyrant! Can they cook? Then clearly they're the Feastmaster. Are they sort of unskilled but gorgeous and you really want them to be front and center at the wedding? Have them be the Illuminator, starting the ceremony off by lighting candles and incense. Designate them to hold your vows up while you read, acting as Wedding Notary. As I mention in my book, at my wedding I had an assertive lady friend who stepped up as my "Bridal Bodyguard," and she was worth her weight on confrontational gold. This is me at a book reading with my bridal bodyguard Heidi, who is re-enacting how she went all T. Rex on a couple wedding guests. Some of my other favorite wedding roles include Wedding Captain and and Wedding Henchmen, but there are a MILLION of them. Related Post Bridesminions, henchmen, adventure party: Awesome alternate names for bridal parties With the rising popularity of gender-blind wedding parties, and weddings without bridal parties, we need terms beyond "bridesmaids" and "groomsmen" to refer to the people... Read more There are as many great roles for someone in your wedding as there are amazing people in your life. Have fun picking a good title for them, and letting them run with their special skill! Just make sure you find some great way to acknowledge them, whether it's in the ceremony, in the first toast of the night, or some other way to hold them up and tell the world just how much they mean to you. Ariel Author of three editions of the Offbeat Bride book and the brand-new From Shitshow To Afterglow, Ariel Meadow Stallings acts as the publisher of all the Offbeat Empire websites. She lives in Seattle with her son, and if she's not reading or writing books, chances are good that she's dancing or happy-crying. To follow her latest work, join join The Afterglow, for exclusive access to essays, videos, online courses, and more. PREVIOUS Laurie's Big Fat Geek Wedding! NEXT Even more tattooed brides Show/Hide comments [ 6 ] HA HA! Unskilled but gorgeous! I love this question and especially the answers. Reply Very cool ideas. I was at a wedding where they had a best dude. He had interesting duties, like keeping everyone well liquored. Reply Thats an important job..keeping everyone liquored lol. You have to have a special talent for that… Reply My brother is going to be my "man of honor" at our wedding, but he has insisted on the title of "Bride's Dude". 😀 Reply My best friend has five sisters, so I clearly was not part of the wedding party proper. SO she asked me to calligraphy a few things for her and make sure that the wedding party proper knew what to do and when to do it on the big day. It was really fun, telling nervous people what to do, and I didn't have to buy a horrible dress! Reply A friend of ours is going to be a man of honor, but he also made me promise he could be my Wedding Bodyguard after watching "How I Met Your Mother". Reply Join the conversation Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.