Beyond the wedding: why I'm more excited about what comes next #Philosophizing#married life#perspective#reality check#relationships#wedding planning May 16 2018 | Guest post by Rachael An Endless Sleepover With Your Favourite Weirdo mug from TeHeGifts Related Post Why I don't really care about my wedding Yes, there are aspects that my fiancé and I have agreed on with excitement; the entertainment, the hog roast, the tea corner (seriously, every wedding... Read more My wedding day countdown app on my phone informs me that there are exactly 30 days, 2 hours, and 22 minutes until my wedding. That seems so strange to me. I've been dreaming of my wedding since I was a little girl. I've been excited about marrying my fiancé in particular for several years. I don't know exactly when I decided I was going to marry John, but I don't think it was much longer than six months into our relationship. five and a half years later, it's happening. I feel like I should be more stressed out and nervous. But we've been engaged for one and a half years, and I've spent some time planning this thing every week, so the vast majority of the work is done. I need to actually receive my dress in the mail and get alterations and decide on my final jewelry and hair accessories. I need to finalize seating arrangements once all our RSVPs are in and finish filling out the escort card beer coasters. John needs to order our wedding rings and the alcohol for the wedding. And that's… basically it. Though I'm really excited about the wedding itself, I'm incredibly excited for the time beyond the wedding. What's interesting is that after all that time dreaming and planning, though I'm really excited about the wedding itself, I'm incredibly excited for the time beyond the wedding. I can't wait to introduce John as my husband for the first time. I can't wait to go to Japan with him for our honeymoon. I can't wait to get to all the projects in our house I've been putting off while finishing planning the wedding. In short, I can't wait for the rest of our lives. I've always had difficulty pinning down my "best" memories or my most "favorite" experiences, as there's so much of my life I love and appreciate that I can never choose just one. However, I have a sneaky feeling that my wedding day won't be the best day of my life. Related Post 6 magical ways to banish negativity from wedding planning I've been a pretty pessimistic person my entire life, or, as I like to say, a "realist." So when I got engaged it was pretty... Read more Don't get me wrong, it will be a wonderful day, no matter what happens. It realized that I was marrying the right person when I told a bridesmaid that she could literally be so late that she was running down the aisle in the middle of the ceremony and I would still be incredibly happy because I would still be married to John — and I meant it. There were some delays with my dress that had me concerned for a while, but when it seemed like my dress might not get to me on time, I kind of shrugged my shoulders and started looking for white prom dresses online. It would have been fine. All would be well, and all manner of things would be well. When I'm with John, the details fall away. The very fact that we're not married yet even matters less to me than the fact that we're together, making terrible jokes and continuously building our life on the foundation we laid when we were law students and nervous about the future together. Yes, my Type A personality loves that I handmade the paper roses for our entire bridal party. I can talk all day about how we're going to have a taco bar and dueling piano players and milk and cookies as a late night snack. But together, we are making a marriage, a partnership, and a friendship, and that's a beautiful thing that will last far beyond one event. And at the end of the day, that's all that matters. The 6 discussions you should have with your partner before the wedding Is it getting down to the wire? Wedding date almost here?! Have you had these six big ol' convos with your partner yet? Oh, it's on. Time to start waylaying… Read More Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Rachael Rachael is a trademark lawyer who does theater on the side and posts too many bad puns and pictures of cats on Facebook. PREVIOUS This Italian destination photographer is making us PINE for a wedding in Italy NEXT Jon Snow & Ygritte's happy ending: Game of Thrones wedding inspiration (with real "direwolf!") Show/Hide comments [ 1 ] oh yeah, i definitely felt like this too. I think thats the main thing, its one day in which you publicly declare how you privately feel about each other and its about continuing the commitment you've already made to one another . Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.