What should a best woman wear? Fashion for groomsgirls & best women

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Can you spot Chris' non-man best man (and her bitchin' heels)?
Photo by Fable Photography

I'm in a wedding in November. I'm a 32-year-old woman but am standing with the groomsmen. All the men are wearing tuxedos. The bridal party is wearing long, strapless black dresses with an off-white sash. I need help figuring out what to wear!-Karissa

You might think the only way to make a gender-blind wedding party work is to match the switcheroo with the other side of the party. But hold on — because that's just one of a few options. Can I just say I LOVE seeing women in fantastic, tailored suits and menswear-inspired outfits? Or hell, throw out the whole matchy-matchy concept entirely and dress with the crew in any kind of fabulousness you like. This is especially awesome if the party has some gender-queer elements happening.

Let's take a look at what we've seen among our own Best Women and Groomsgirls. Bring on the ladies crossing the gender divide!

1. Dress with the dudes

Photo by Calla Evans

Kim and Alex's party featured similar styling by having Alex's groomsgirl wear the Halloween-inspired tie and swanky cane of the boys' outfit. Also note how the whole party has the same boot/shoelace combo. Love it.

Bridal party
Jewelzy Bug's party went the whole nine yards by having the Best Woman wear a sleek black suit and boutonnière, just like one of the guys. And she looks pretty damn good. And while you're looking, check out the faerie wings and dog bouquet. Delish!

Match the ladies


Wedding Party
Photo by Photography by Greg

Celeste and Jason snuck a lady onto the groom's side by merely having her wear black instead of navy. She fits right in.

zebra crossing
Same dress, different color again! Our groomsgirl here is wearing the same dress in black to match the ladies and the men. And who doesn't love this zebra stripe shot in general?

the guys This wedding allowed the groomsgirl to get in on the Wai Ching fun since the bride AND all her bridesmaids were wearing Wai Ching dresses! Frankly, if I was in this wedding party, I'd probably insist on not missing out on that. But hers had black accents to match the groom's side. Check out more about the fashion here.

Whole wedding party.
Photo by the bride's mother

Bret's groomsgirl wore the same gorgeous green as the other ladies in this literary wedding. And the guys' ties match, too!

Scrap the whole matching concept!


the gang
With the bride wearing blue, there's no reason to keep the same traditions with the wedding party. Here is Jane and her mixed-gender party looking awesome in their variety. Jane has a Best Man, her husband has a Best Woman, and there was a Bridesman. And why not, I say?

Wedding Party
Photo by Renee DeKona

Liz and Sarah had all ladies in their party of Maids of Honor, officiant, ushers, and readers, so they wore whatever matched the day. The two Maids of Honor wore matching blue dresses though. Adorable.

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Photo by Whitney Lee

Dresses on one side, slick pants on the other at Bethany and Deanna's nuptials. Just enough matching to make it awesome.

Wedding - Ceremony
Photo by Katie Donaghue

Anne and her groom have a huge group of ecelectic friends and family which equals a huge group of anything-goes cocktail wear. It totally matches the outdoor casual theme.

What are some of your favorite ways you've seen gender-blind wedding parties dressed?

dresses: Wai Ching

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Comments on What should a best woman wear? Fashion for groomsgirls & best women

  1. I recently saw a wedding where there was a groomsgirl. She wore a dress that was the same style as the bridesmaids but in a color that matched the groomsmen’s ties instead of the different color for the bridesmaids.

  2. As soon as my fiance told me he wanted his best man to be a woman I was straight on Offbeat Bride for tips and suggestions on how to rock it, and once again you guys had the answers and more. Just wanted to say a big thanks!! Having attendants from the non-typical gender is not very common where we are from, and will be a bit of a stretch for my fiance’s more traditional Polynesian family. I just wanted to say a huge thanks to this community existing and making something that just feels really right and authentic for us seem totally normal. I now have heaps of inspiration for our awesome Best Woman 🙂

  3. We had two bridesmaids and one bridesman, two groomsmen and a groomsmaid. We went the “scrap the whole matching thing” route, and just gave our attendants the general aesthetic of the wedding (woodland / Celtic / medievalesque) and that masculine folks were encouraged but not required to wear kilts. The bridespeople coordinated among themselves so that they were all wearing something brown: one bridesmaid in a brown dress, one bridesmaid in a blue dress with brown sash, and my bridesman in a brown vest and blue and green kilt. On the groom’s side we had one guy in a grey kilt and dark grey pinstriped vest, one guy in a dark grey pinstriped suit, and the girl in a green dress with a leafy burnout pattern and a black waist cincher. (I wore a green and gold dress and my husband was in a blue, green, and red kilt and fly plaid with a dark grey pinstriped vest.) Everyone looked awesome, and I think it all ended up going together pretty well, though we were a long way from matchy.

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