What should a best woman wear? Fashion for groomsgirls & best women

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Can you spot Chris' non-man best man (and her bitchin' heels)?
Photo by Fable Photography

I'm in a wedding in November. I'm a 32-year-old woman but am standing with the groomsmen. All the men are wearing tuxedos. The bridal party is wearing long, strapless black dresses with an off-white sash. I need help figuring out what to wear!-Karissa

You might think the only way to make a gender-blind wedding party work is to match the switcheroo with the other side of the party. But hold on — because that's just one of a few options. Can I just say I LOVE seeing women in fantastic, tailored suits and menswear-inspired outfits? Or hell, throw out the whole matchy-matchy concept entirely and dress with the crew in any kind of fabulousness you like. This is especially awesome if the party has some gender-queer elements happening.

Let's take a look at what we've seen among our own Best Women and Groomsgirls. Bring on the ladies crossing the gender divide!

1. Dress with the dudes

Photo by Calla Evans

Kim and Alex's party featured similar styling by having Alex's groomsgirl wear the Halloween-inspired tie and swanky cane of the boys' outfit. Also note how the whole party has the same boot/shoelace combo. Love it.

Bridal party
Jewelzy Bug's party went the whole nine yards by having the Best Woman wear a sleek black suit and boutonnière, just like one of the guys. And she looks pretty damn good. And while you're looking, check out the faerie wings and dog bouquet. Delish!

Match the ladies


Wedding Party
Photo by Photography by Greg

Celeste and Jason snuck a lady onto the groom's side by merely having her wear black instead of navy. She fits right in.

zebra crossing
Same dress, different color again! Our groomsgirl here is wearing the same dress in black to match the ladies and the men. And who doesn't love this zebra stripe shot in general?

the guys This wedding allowed the groomsgirl to get in on the Wai Ching fun since the bride AND all her bridesmaids were wearing Wai Ching dresses! Frankly, if I was in this wedding party, I'd probably insist on not missing out on that. But hers had black accents to match the groom's side. Check out more about the fashion here.

Whole wedding party.
Photo by the bride's mother

Bret's groomsgirl wore the same gorgeous green as the other ladies in this literary wedding. And the guys' ties match, too!

Scrap the whole matching concept!


the gang
With the bride wearing blue, there's no reason to keep the same traditions with the wedding party. Here is Jane and her mixed-gender party looking awesome in their variety. Jane has a Best Man, her husband has a Best Woman, and there was a Bridesman. And why not, I say?

Wedding Party
Photo by Renee DeKona

Liz and Sarah had all ladies in their party of Maids of Honor, officiant, ushers, and readers, so they wore whatever matched the day. The two Maids of Honor wore matching blue dresses though. Adorable.

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Photo by Whitney Lee

Dresses on one side, slick pants on the other at Bethany and Deanna's nuptials. Just enough matching to make it awesome.

Wedding - Ceremony
Photo by Katie Donaghue

Anne and her groom have a huge group of ecelectic friends and family which equals a huge group of anything-goes cocktail wear. It totally matches the outdoor casual theme.

What are some of your favorite ways you've seen gender-blind wedding parties dressed?

dresses: Wai Ching

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  1. My husband used his sister as a “groomsmaid” in our recent wedding. Our wedding colors were black and purple, so I had my girls in purple dresses, and since the guys were in black suits with purple accents, we put his sister in a black dress with purple accents.

  2. At my first wedding, my brother served as my Man of Honor. He wore a black pinstripe suit, a bright purple vest, black tie, and a black-on-black trilby. The groomsmen wore black suits and purple ties with no hat at all, so he wasn’t all matchy.

  3. My man of honor is just going with a bright blue shirt to be in the same neighborhood as the bright blue dresses. I’d love to have him in drag, but he’s a different flavor of gay and probably wouldn’t enjoy that.

  4. I was best girl at my brother’s wedding! I wore a lipservice dress that had a pinstriped skirt with a fitted shirt & tie. I also had pink hair & lace up boots with a fedora that all the boys were wearing. We looked pretty gangsta… I wish I could post a picture! We were outside having a moment & my brother was adjusting my tie. People passing by said “Well they are obviously a couple!”

    • Yes PLEASE! We both have a maid of honor and a best man. Only his maid of honor and best man are both men and I have one of each…conundrum.

  5. This is great! My brother is my Man of honor, and my FH is having his sister and another female friend in his party. So many great options!

  6. I was the only groomsmaid in a rather large groom’s party for a very dear friend of mine a few months ago. I went the way of the suit, with a twist: all the groomsmen were wearing black suits (the groom wore grey), white shirts and pale blue ties, so I pulled out a tailored cropped jacket and matching long fishtail skirt in black pinstripe, and bridged the space between my skirt and jacket, which would otherwise have been exposed shirt breaking up the outfit, with a satin underbust corset with over-the-shoulder straps and a full back, to be reminiscent of a waistcoat. It worked brilliantly; I blended in well with the rest of the party for the ceremony and photos, but in something that also allowed me to express my style, and I was getting compliments from random guests all throughout the reception on how well it worked. Photo of the groom’s party and my outfit, for those curious, is available on request.

  7. We each had two women and one man on both sides of the aisle, so basically, everyone had their own color and they all co-ordinated.

    Here are my three people:
    bride’s side

    And my husband’s three: groom’s folk

    They looked really lovely. My husband had a vest in the same pattern as the two guys, but in green (which matched my second dress). You can tell the two sides apart, but the styles were clearly matched – everyone got to be unique but still looked like part of a whole.

  8. In our wedding, our groomsgil wore a short black dress (my bridesmaids wore long purple dresses)with a a purple sash. She fit in great with the boys who were wearing black suits with lavender shirts and purple ties.

  9. my husband & i had our best friends as support. both wonderful ladies. so i asked them both to wear a black dress of their choosing.

    they both wore knee length black strapless dresses.

    the best lady wore a mini top hat (fascinator -style!) and bolero with red shoes! she looked fantastic.

    my maid of honour wore a red gerber daisy in her hair and black/cream shoes.

    they complimented each other well – and they didn’t even meet until our wedding weekend!

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