What should a best woman wear? Fashion for groomsgirls & best women

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Can you spot Chris' non-man best man (and her bitchin' heels)?
Photo by Fable Photography

I'm in a wedding in November. I'm a 32-year-old woman but am standing with the groomsmen. All the men are wearing tuxedos. The bridal party is wearing long, strapless black dresses with an off-white sash. I need help figuring out what to wear!-Karissa

You might think the only way to make a gender-blind wedding party work is to match the switcheroo with the other side of the party. But hold on — because that's just one of a few options. Can I just say I LOVE seeing women in fantastic, tailored suits and menswear-inspired outfits? Or hell, throw out the whole matchy-matchy concept entirely and dress with the crew in any kind of fabulousness you like. This is especially awesome if the party has some gender-queer elements happening.

Let's take a look at what we've seen among our own Best Women and Groomsgirls. Bring on the ladies crossing the gender divide!

1. Dress with the dudes

Photo by Calla Evans

Kim and Alex's party featured similar styling by having Alex's groomsgirl wear the Halloween-inspired tie and swanky cane of the boys' outfit. Also note how the whole party has the same boot/shoelace combo. Love it.

Bridal party
Jewelzy Bug's party went the whole nine yards by having the Best Woman wear a sleek black suit and boutonnière, just like one of the guys. And she looks pretty damn good. And while you're looking, check out the faerie wings and dog bouquet. Delish!

Match the ladies


Wedding Party
Photo by Photography by Greg

Celeste and Jason snuck a lady onto the groom's side by merely having her wear black instead of navy. She fits right in.

zebra crossing
Same dress, different color again! Our groomsgirl here is wearing the same dress in black to match the ladies and the men. And who doesn't love this zebra stripe shot in general?

the guys This wedding allowed the groomsgirl to get in on the Wai Ching fun since the bride AND all her bridesmaids were wearing Wai Ching dresses! Frankly, if I was in this wedding party, I'd probably insist on not missing out on that. But hers had black accents to match the groom's side. Check out more about the fashion here.

Whole wedding party.
Photo by the bride's mother

Bret's groomsgirl wore the same gorgeous green as the other ladies in this literary wedding. And the guys' ties match, too!

Scrap the whole matching concept!


the gang
With the bride wearing blue, there's no reason to keep the same traditions with the wedding party. Here is Jane and her mixed-gender party looking awesome in their variety. Jane has a Best Man, her husband has a Best Woman, and there was a Bridesman. And why not, I say?

Wedding Party
Photo by Renee DeKona

Liz and Sarah had all ladies in their party of Maids of Honor, officiant, ushers, and readers, so they wore whatever matched the day. The two Maids of Honor wore matching blue dresses though. Adorable.

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Photo by Whitney Lee

Dresses on one side, slick pants on the other at Bethany and Deanna's nuptials. Just enough matching to make it awesome.

Wedding - Ceremony
Photo by Katie Donaghue

Anne and her groom have a huge group of ecelectic friends and family which equals a huge group of anything-goes cocktail wear. It totally matches the outdoor casual theme.

What are some of your favorite ways you've seen gender-blind wedding parties dressed?

dresses: Wai Ching

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Comments on What should a best woman wear? Fashion for groomsgirls & best women

  1. I had a dress designed & made (cost the same or less than the bridesmaids’ dresses, I’m told — about $250) to match the groomsmen. The groomsmen were wearing light grey suits with black ties and shoes, so my dress was grey on the bottom (with a gathered, bag waist) and black on the top and black heels. I also wore a boutionniere. It was awesome!

  2. At my lesbian wedding in a few days, no matter which “side” the attendants are one, the “pants wearers” are wearing whatever black pants and white button down shirt they pick out with matching red ties that we are gifting to them, and all the “dress wearers” are wearing whatever black or white dress whith red black or white trim they have picked out.

  3. Our groomswomen are wearing the same color dresses as the bridesmaids. I made the bridesmaids red and champagne flower hairpieces to match my veil and the groomsmen will have matching boutonnieres to match the girls dresses and the groomswomen will have headbands to match the boutonniers. Our groomswomen are girly girls, so I wouldn’t want to make them wear pants when my girls get to wear cute dresses.

  4. When I was a grooms woman I wore the same dress as the brides maids but in black. I had a wrist corsage instead of a bouquet. I think it looked really snazzy.

  5. We had mixed genders on both sides, and decided to skip the side divisions & matchy-matchy and go for a jewel tone + silk theme; our attendants got to pick their choice of colors and styles. Oddly, this resulted in pairs; so the groom’s side had forest green + deep red, and the bride’s side had silver + imperial purple. It worked really well, though, and meant that everybody was comfortable; the tomboy groom’s attendant wore a delightful vest and pant combination, while her partner had an almost elven layered dress. Custom orders for the win!

  6. In my wedding next June, my FHs sister is going to be a groomsgirl. I had her pick out any black, knee length dress she wanted. My girls are wearing the same blue as my train in any knee length style they pick so I didnt need to pick out a dress for his sister.

  7. In our wedding we have Allie on Derrik’s side. She’s going to be in a black dress with a sash in the color of his tux vests. 😀

  8. I love this post! I am having a brides-man at my wedding and I’m definitely going to send this his way! He thinks I’m the only girl to ever do this… lol

    • oh definitely you are NOT the only girl to do that, Allie. I had only male attendants on either side of my first wedding (years ago) My brother and my best friend (who happened to be gay) were NOT standing on the other side, when they were there for ME! And I was NOT picking random girls just to be attendants to “balance” the numbers. I had two guys, Husband had two guys…everyone but me in silver tails, with alternating cumberbund and tie colors. It was lovely!

      Rock on with your best mates as attendants and let the gender be damned!

  9. I love the different looks! We’re going to have our 2 groomswomen wear black to match the men since it’s the easiest, but they’re going to be dresses because one of them was like “HELL NO I am not wearing pants!” (She’s got great legs, why should she?) I might ask them to wear, or buy them, some kind of colorful accessory to match the bridesmaids but we’ll get to that later.

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