Offbeat bachelorette party ideas

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Photo courtesy of She-n-He Photography and Design.
Photo courtesy of She-n-He Photography and Design.

We get a lot of emails asking for bachelorette party advice and then recently I was asked by a soon-to-be married friend of mine for offbeat bachelorette party ideas, citing that, “The awesome male strip revue that we were going to go see only has shows on Friday and Saturday and my party is on a Wednesday night. Boooooo. I need offbeat bachelorette party ideas!”

So here we go, I've rounded up a few bachelorette/hens night ideas…

The laid back

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  • Spa day. Perfect for those that just wanna sit back and get pampered before their wedding instead of partying it up, risking a hangover. Grab your closest friends and bond over mani/pedis, massages, or go to one of those places that have those huge mud baths. Those are awesome.
  • Wine/liquor tasting Rent a limo or chose a designated driver and then go wine/beer/liquor tasting. Make sure to buy a bottle (or case) of the bride's favorite wine at each stop for her to share with her partner.

The adventurous

  • Trapeze class. Take a plunge before you take the plunge (instant rimshot) with a trapeze class.
  • Scavenger hunt. Great for the really creative bridal parties that love to go all out. But, if you don't wanna do the work and just want to enjoy the hunt, there are companies out there that put these things together. Like my friend's company, Wise Guys Events that features a bachelorette party game: it is a bar-crawl type game, entirely customizable, with secret agents waiting in different bars that have clues hidden somewhere on their person. (Mention codeword “sharkbite” for a 5% discount, LOL!)

The silly

  • Ugly dress party. Find a big batch of heinous wedding dresses online for cheap and then get your friends and bridesmaids together to have a “Let's re-imagine these ugly dresses party!” And then go out on the town in them! (This idea came to us from She-n-He Photography and Design, click here to see more info from that night.)
  • Drag shows. Never not fun. (Just make sure you're clear that they're ok with bachelorette parties first.)
  • “A cold one and some adult entertainment” aka ice cream, a trip by the local gaming/fantasy store, and an evening of Dramatic Readings of Really Bad Dragon Erotica. (This idea came from Offbeat Bride Tribe member “Ariel (but not that one).”)
  • Karaoke! Need I say more?

The crafty

  • Tom's shoe decorating party. Tribesmaid “WowJunkie” suggested a Style Your Sole party. She explains, “A Style Your Sole party is people coming together to express themselves and help children in need by customizing their own blank, canvas TOMS.” It's a charitable and creative good time.
  • Baking party. Take a group baking class — yummy treats and lots of sugar. Or get together the night before the wedding and have everyone bake and then decorate the cupcakes you will serve at your wedding. Of course make sure to bake extras to eat during the party!

The weekend

Welcome to Las Vegas Sign
  • Vegas baby! Don't know about you, but when I think bachelor/ette parties I think of Las Vegas. Spend the weekend in Sin City dancing, drinking, gambling and smelling like cigarettes. It's a time-honored tradition.
  • Music festival. Use your bachelorette party as an excuse to spend the weekend at your favorite music festival. Check out to see if there is one that coincides with your wedding plans.
  • Camping Great for those parties that want to get away on the cheap, and for the kind of girls who ain't afraid to get dirty. Go camping somewhere that had nearby hiking trails, natural water falls or the best yet — natural hot springs!

The girlie

  • Old school slumber party. Blow up air mattresses, grab your sleeping bags, order pizza and then stay up all night watching your guilty pleasure movies and get goofy in your pjs.
  • 80s night. Tribesmaid “Oii 2. ESBiE” said that she and about ten girls drunkenly give each other HORRIBLE '80s makeovers and then walked a couple blocks to the local independent theatre to see their midnight movie, which is usually a cult classic of some kind (like The Evil Dead, The Rocky Horror Picture Show, Pretty in Pink, etc.).
  • Take a belly dancing or a pole dancing class. I know a bunch of people who have taken both of these classes and they all say how much they loved them. And the great part about doing it as a group is, who cares if you look like a fool, at least you're looking silly together. Plus the bride might pick up some fun tips for a wedding night lap dance!

The risque

<Jessica and her bachelorette party clan
  • Boudoir photo shoot. All the ladies pitch in so that the bride can get some awesome sexy (classy optional) photos done as a gift to both herself and her new husband! Bring drinks and gift her with sexy outfits to wear. For Washington brides, check out recent sponsor, Seattle Boudoir Photography's bachelorette party deal.
  • Sex toy party. Along with Tupperware and make-up, sex toys are have entered the world of multi-level marketing parties, except these particular parties are WAY more fun than viewing Tupperware. Ask a consultant to come over to your house and spend the night drinking and playing with vibrators.
  • Strip club. Who says that strip clubs are only for bachelor parties? A gentlemen's or lady's club, either one can be fun and entertaining. I know I've been fascinated a time or two ma'self. And if you're looking for something a little more artsy, check out a burlesque club.

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Comments on Offbeat bachelorette party ideas

  1. You can also hire a bellydancer to come to your house and do a performance and lesson for all the girls. That way it is more intimate and fun and drunk if you want to!!!

  2. This post is awesome! Thanks! I think I’ll combine 80’s night with some pole classes! That should surely create some blackmail photos, or at least good times:)

    • Agreed! These are some wild and crazy ideas! Add to the list: rent a party bus for a safe and sane party.

  3. LOVE the ugly dress idea! (and vegas sounds kinda fun too….) I went to 3 cool places in NYC for my bachelorette party! The 1st one had gorgeous men (dressed to the nines as women!!!)


    • Hey, I’m throwing a bachelorette party in NYC this summer. Could you suggest some venues? I live here, but I’m still coming up short on anything creative. My bride loves her some cross-dressing men and I think she’d love something like where you went. I will Google, of course, but a tried and true venue would be sweet. Thanks!

  4. I love the spa idea combined with the boudoir photo shoot. What a great way to spend some quality fun time with your friends. You can also have great fun with the boudoir photo shoot and the memory will be there for years to come.

  5. I totally did the grown-ass woman slumber party. It was a great way for all my closest lady friends from different points in my life to get together and really spend time together. It was also really inexpensive for everyone involved. I just asked everyone to bring their favorite slumber party junk food and then made waffles for everyone in the morning.

  6. Along the lines of the sex toy party, but with a new-agey, spiritual, romantic twist: a tantric sex workshop party. I found a woman in Chicago who was willing to do a group workshop for my best friend (the bride) and our friends for, I think, around $600. This was in 2007, so the current price may be different, and unfortunately, I don’t have her info any more. Even more unfortunately, times were a little tight for the Maids and we couldn’t get the money together between all of us. But I think it’d be an amazing experience if you’re able to do it! Do a search to see if there are any tantric sex teachers in your area; you might be surprised :-).

  7. The night before I got married, we had the girls over and did a wedding-themed murder mystery bachelorette party right after the rehearsal. It was so much fun, and it totally got rid of all the rehearsal stress. We had to do something that would be appropriate for many ages since both my little sister and my husband’s little sister were in the wedding and I wanted to include them in the party, and the murder mystery party was the perfect thing. Totally recommend!

    • Where’d you get the murder mystery stuff to pull it off? Sounds perfect!!!

      • I’ve found games in thrift stores, online (they’re cheaper used), but I’ve also seen them new in stores with board games!

        They’re a lot of fun, but don’t have a whole lot of replay value (unless you play with an entirely different group), so it seems like a lot of people put them up on ebay when they’re done with them.

  8. Seriously loving the advice pieces!

    A girlfriend of mine did a pirate party, we dressed up like pirates, made play dough penis’, did a stripersize class, went to a “pirates only” local punk show (where even people who weren’t part of the bachelorette party were dressed up like pirates!)! Good Times!

  9. Love the camping idea! That’s actually exactly what my fiance is doing, and what a friend of ours did. Definitely relaxing for those who are into the outdoors.

    I’m going to a great laser tag place with my girls. I wanted to go play paintball, but as someone pointed out the risk of getting a big ol’ bruise in the wrong place is too high. Laser tag seemed like the harm-free alternative.

  10. Those of you lucky enough to have a Lush ( in your area- they throw bachelorette parties! After hours, free facials/foot/hand massages. Free to use the space, they just ask that each person purchases $20/merch. you can bring wine and food too.
    Mine’s going to be there over the summer.
    I. CAN. NOT. WAIT!

    • I love Lush! My husband and I backpacked around the UK for our honeymoon, and I was hooked! That deal is awesome.

    • Thanks so much for this tip. Just called and got the details on the local store. I love their stuff! Might just be the perfect way to kick off the night.

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