Her offbeat partner: Pete, Self Employed
Location & date of wedding: Favorite picnic spot in Sydney Australia — 22nd November 2009 (Hottest day of the year!)
What made our wedding offbeat: One of the things that made the wedding offbeat was that I had two dresses! A traditional white dress which I got form my friend's aunty who was a dress maker. And a beautiful red evening grown, which I wore for the tea ceremony and most of the reception, it is traditional for Chinese brides to wear red.
We knew we didn't want flowers, as I always feel bad at the end of weddings, all the flowers goes to waste. I did some research and found Offbeat Bride with all the non-floral wedding suggestions! Thanks ladies! I ended up making my bouquet with buttons and my bridesmaids with felt flowers. (I threw the felt flower bouquet, not the button one as I didn't want to kill anyone. Lol!)
We brought red lanterns from IKEA and use them as centre pieces with tea light candles and pebbles we found on the beach. For the cake, we had a homemade brownie stack (which everyone loved) top with rubber duckies dress in a wedding dress and suit (I got the ducks from Target and cut the gown/suit from craft felt and suck them on, I also made the top hat for the boy ducky as my husband really wanted a top hat which we could not find in time for the wedding).
Our biggest challenge: Being both from Asian backgrounds, we wanted to incorporate our roots in our “Western” style wedding. We wanted both our friends and family to have a good time and really see who we were as a couple. It was a real challenge to stand up to our parents and explain that we perfer a dance floor than a banquet, or only want to invite sixty people not the 200 aunties and their families whom we may have only met once ten years or so ago.
We did a vote with the family and identified the most important things to our parents. One of the thing that was really important to our mothers was that I change into a red dress for the tea ceremony (we added the tea ceremony at the reception which was an eye opener to our not Chinese friends). I tried on millions of different traditional dresses only to realize that I don't fit the “normal” Asian sizing chart. In the end, my trusty friend order me a red evening gown from overseas and had a friend bring it back just before the wedding!
Another challenge was that we had a very limited budget, so we did a shout out to our friends and family and they were just amazing! My dress was made by a friend's aunty who only charged me for the material and taught me to bead. A friend volunteered to sign for us at the wedding. Lots of things were homemade, which suited us just fine as it echo our beliefs and the way we live our lives
My favorite moment: On the day it was HOT, with record hitting heat waves (49° Celicius [that's about 120° Fahrenheit! -Ed] when I stepped out of the car)! Our ceremony was at our favorite picnic spot, outdoors of course — a five minutes drive from our house (saved on transport).
In a way the heat wave was good as there wasn't anyone around the park so it was like to had exclusive use! By the time we started the ceremony, I was so overwhelmed by the heat, and the day that I forgot to find my dad to walk me down the aisle. My dad ended up hovering behind me while I walked down the aisles with my sister. Our friend played the piano and sang “Truly Deeply Madly,” by Savage Garden, whilst the three of us awkwardly made our way to my awaiting husband to be.
Even though it was a bit of a mess, and definetly not the way I had always invisioned it, it was still a perfect moment for me as we said our “I do's.” It was so great to see all our friend and family braving the heat to be there for us!
My offbeat advice: Don't leave everything last minute. As we had a limited budget, a lot of things were homemade or complimentary from a friend, it is only polite to give them plenty of time.
Don't be afraid to speak up, if there is something you want voice your mind. For our wedding I didn't want flowers and feel strongly about it, even though my mother always wanted roses for my wedding. Turns out that it was a great idea that I had a button bouquet as the heat on the day would have destroyed the flowers for sure!
Finally, your wedding is to celebrate your love to each other so don't let those little things get in the way. Pete and I did up a list, as we started planning with things, that was really imporatant to us, and things that are not so important. This really helps with the budgeting and keeping us sane with all the wedding razzle dazzles.
Remember in the end it will be well worth the hassle as you will end up with memories unique to you and your other half. As Pete always says to me, “keep you eye on the prize!”
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