Laura & Stephen's retro jazz wedding #Real Weddings: Global#australia#birdcage veil#headpiece#multi-colored dress#non-floral bouquet#plus size#retro#short dress#tattooed bride Updated Mar 15 2021 (Posted May 24 2012) Offbeat Editors Photos by Swattshots Photography The offbeat bride: Laura, Administration Officer Her offbeat partner: Stephen, National Project Officer Date and location of wedding: Baroq House, Melbourne — March 17, 2012 Our offbeat wedding at a glance: Our wedding was destined to be a party. Stephen and I don't like the spotlight, and for a wedding it is kind of unavoidable. So we decided to have the wedding at a venue with a lot of space and a few nooks for us to hide away if attention got too much. We wanted a laid back feel, a great band to entertain, and a jazz theme. After purchasing a hairpiece from a local designer of veils, we based pretty much everything else off of it. I saved a lot of money by never mentioning the "W" word to suppliers, and keeping a heap of the smaller jobs in the family, which really helped everyone feel involved. For example, my bouquet was a homemade bunch of long-stick lollipops. They normally sell for about $150 for a bridal bouquet alone. I had a supplier make up 60 single lollipops for $70 and had a family member arrange them into bouquets for myself and the bridesmaids. My best friend made the cakes and cupcakes too. I also fell into the right family as my new sister-in-law has an invitation business called By Invitation Only, and she was able to make our invites. The pre-party dress. I had items that were old, new, borrowed, and blue. I borrowed a mass of safety pins from my housemate, put a blue topaz ring down my bra, wore my Oma's pearl necklace, and my dress was new. Tell us about the ceremony: Here are our vows: Steve: I vow to support you with all my heart, to allow you to follow your dreams. I vow to search for all that is lost, even if you lose it in the same place every time. I vow to always fill up your water bottle. I vow to always tell you the things you spoke about while asleep. I vow to be the voice of reason in answer to your harebrained schemes. I vow to always ensure we do not exceed our maximum animal capacity. I vow to do any and all I can to keep you happy. I vow to be yours in mind, body, and soul forever. All this I vow until death or zombies do us part. Laura: I vow to support you with all my heart, to allow you to follow your dreams. I vow to whine about the kitty litter logs and the stupid sharp clay shards on the floor. I vow to be your GPS in life and although we'll get horridly lost, I'll enjoy that journey with you. I vow to raise with love and compassion any children that bless our lives, whether they have two legs or four. I vow to help with frantic fear cleans… even if I probably made the mess in the first place. I vow to be honest and true, without too much sass (except on Fridays). I vow to plan and love our life together, whatever it may bring, good and bad. I vow to adore and cherish you, to snuggle with you often, and to make you soup when you crave veggies. All this I vow until death or zombies do us part. Our ring exchange was much more serious, but borrowed from several different traditional passages. We repeated the same thing to each other: Today I marry you and pledge devotion with all that I am and ever will be. This ring is a token of my trust and a symbol of my desire to be with only you. I want you to wear it and know that I always love you. With this ring, I am gladly yours and you are mine. Our biggest challenge: Early on, we had some issues with the original band, who were from the United States. We all found out far too late that there were yards of legal work to overcome to have them come over for the wedding. Unfortunately, this led to some payment discrepancies, and we ended up paying for half of the agreed fee. But we counted our losses and moved on. My favorite moment: There was one moment that will stick with me forever. It was just after my dad gave me away with the joking words, "She's your problem now!" I looked at Steve and everything hit me: I was getting married to the man I loved. There were all these people who were there for us, supporting us on our wedding day. It was an amazing feeling. Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? I was really worried that the music wouldn't be to everyone's taste, given that there was a big range of ages and we picked a band that sounded like they were from the '20s to the '50s. But everyone seemed to enjoy the live band, Hot Club Swing, very much. A Month of Mixbooks: As part of our partnership with Mixbook, this couple has been given a free wedding photo book to show off their wedding photos. We'll be featuring some of these Offbeat Bride Mixbooks in a few weeks! What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? I found it really important to stay true to who we are, but equally know when to admit defeat. We had a family member record an instrumental of "Into My Arms" by Nick Cave, and there was confusion at the time it needed to be played and it didn't get played at the right time. It was disappointing and part of me wanted to dig my heels into the ground and not move until it was played, but we shrugged it off. Not everything will go perfectly, but I learned to roll with the punches. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Wedding planning journal: Write To Me Invitations: By Invitation Only Photography: Swattshots Photography Makeup artist: Sarah Lea Cross Signs: TJ Sign Art Venue and catering: Baroq House Band: Hot Club Swing Celebrant: Miss Ruby Love Custom cake toppers: Etsy seller Magicbeanbuyer Dress and alterations: Petticoats and Gallantry Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! PREVIOUS A sun-filled same-sex Jewish wedding with an eco-friendly mindset NEXT Give your wedding legs some love with LOVE seam tights Show/Hide comments [ 16 ] Oh my. Those bridesmaid dresses! Amazing! Would love to know where they came from. I want one for me! Reply Hey there, Bex – the dresses are called What A Crop and are from Bettie Page Clothing. I'm an addict to the online store. Reply Legend. Thank you! Reply I should also point out, though, that I purchased the dresses via Ms Katt's Kustom House in Tasmania. Reply Ahhhhh….lollipop bouquet, why didn't I think of that? Totally awesome wedding! Reply Hey Jamie, Thanks! The real props came from my bridesmaid (the blonde one) who gave me two MASSIVE bridal magazines – they're out there! We also use these lollipops for childrens' birthday parties! Reply The groom has an AWESOME moustache! I love the cake toppers and your musical choices sound right up my alley. What a fab wedding, congrats. Reply Jamie @ Magic Bean Buyer does some AMAZING stuff… Even video game inspired painted shoes! Reply What a gorgeous wedding! And my husband would be well jealous of that amazing 'tash…! Congratulations xx Reply Hi Natray, Thank you SO much – I had heaps of fun organising this shin-dig. That 'tash is indeed a whopper – I had him grow it especially – starting October 2011! Sadly, he shaved it off the very next day after the wedding. Reply He shaved it off?! NOOOOO!! 🙁 Reply Oh, I just remembered that Miss Ruby Love's site is still TBA – can can find her on Facebook, though: https://www.facebook.com/missrubylove Reply I LOVE everything!!!! Reply What a great feature Laura & Steve – amazing and it was such a pleasure to be part of your special day! Reply great to see another beautiful australian wedding! i love your dress, it's absolutely stunning! xx Reply Oh gosh, I love the vows, especially the zombie ending, fits my fiance perfectly haha he's obsessed! Congratulations xo Reply Join the conversation Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. 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