She taught us how to not get ripped off at antique shops. Then how to make a floral head wreath. After just about dying for her amazing wedding details, it's finally here: longtime OBT member iLiveinmyLab‘s full wedding story. – Becca
The offbeat bride: Sara, graduate student and food scientist (and Tribe member)
Her offbeat partner: Patrick, architecture graduate student
Location & date of wedding: Barr Mansion, Austin, Texas — May 22, 2010
What made our wedding offbeat: When we started wedding planning, we had a few things that we absolutely knew we wanted: the focus to be on our relationship with each other and our family; gluten-free food; almost everything to be reusable; and an art glass theme.
Food was a huge deal to us. Both of us have celiac disease and live a gluten-free lifestyle because of it. Our motto when it came to food was, “If we can't eat it, it should not be at our wedding,” and we took this VERY seriously.
We used to volunteer at an art glass museum, which is where the idea of art glass-themed decorations came from.
One of the big things that we took upon ourselves was to have as much as possible be reusable — all of the glass decorations we collected will be reused in family members' homes or yards, we let our bridal party choose their outfits, and we specifically chose Barr Mansion for their environmentally responsible practices and “green” facilities.
We had all sorts of little hidden symbols throughout our decorations. The steampunk tie pin Patrick wore was a Christmas present a few years ago, the glass hair pin in my hair was purchased when Patrick studied abroad, I walked down the aisle to the “Inner Light” orchestral suite from Star Trek (I'm a huge fan), and instead of throwing a traditional bouquet, I threw a pink plush stuffed animal cow (I raise cattle, and thought this would be more appropriate).
Our biggest challenge: It never ceased to amaze me how offended people would get at the thought of an entirely gluten-free wedding. Because of Barr Mansion's Certified Organic kitchens we were not able to bring in any other products (like gluten-free bread) and there was no way to bake safe gluten-free products in their kitchen.
Our simple fix to this was have a wedding with no bread, and then just bring the cakes the morning of the wedding. Rita at The Little Aussie Bakery made absolutely gorgeous cakes (they were EXACTLY what I was hoping for) that tasted delicious! We also worked for several months with Barr Mansion to make sure that all of the ingredients they used were gluten-free. In the end, we had a fantastic meal and we appreciate all the effort they put towards creating wonderful food for us!
My favorite moment: Getting to visit and celebrate with all of our long-lost family members and close friends. We wanted it to be a celebration of our relationship, not a specific moment of “Oh, look: you're married now!” and we feel like we succeeded.
My funniest moment: My co-worker Constance fighting for the plush pink cow! Constance is a visiting scholar/intern from Africa and this was the first wedding she had been to while she was here. It was so much fun watching her get the pink cow!
My advice for offbeat brides: Do not let drama consume you. If someone in your life is trying to cause chaos related to your wedding, just shut them off for a few days to let things calm down. Try not to make rash angry decisions and instead be the bigger person by attempting to resolve the situation peacefully — this is super hard but it's worth it in the end.
If you're going to do something odd or unusual, don't tell anyone. People will try to create drama and make a big deal of the simplest things, but when it comes to the wedding day they'll think everything went wonderfully and was absolutely gorgeous.
What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? We learned how to filter out negativity in our lives and focus on the positive things that were going on around us. Chaos happens to everyone; the key is to focus on the good things in life and what makes you happy.
- Black and White Photography: Ivan Farr
- Flowers: Abby at Barr Mansion (she's AMAZING!)
- Wedding gown, Mother of the Bride's Gown: Wai Ching
- Jewelry: Twisted Sister Arts (I love her too!)
- Programs, Table Numbers, Papergoods: Evin, la Viola
- Garden Glass Aisle Runners: Allison Glass Designs and Barbara at Glass Gardens
- Super Awesome Gluten-free Cakes: Rita at The Little Aussie Bakery
- Mr. and Mrs. Toastee in custom wedding attire: Yummy Pancake!
- Gluten-Free Beer: Bards Beer
Enough talk — show me the wedding porn!