The Offbeat Bride: Sarah, Academic Advisor
Her offbeat partner: John, Freelance Film Editor and Production Assistant
Date and location of wedding: Mercury Hall, Austin, TX — December 5, 2014
Our offbeat wedding at a glance: The first words out my mother's mouth when we started planning was, “I don't want anyone to have to pick up trash or move tables and chairs.” This really, oddly, helped set the tone for the whole wedding. We didn't want to be stuffy, we didn't want people to have to feel like they were at a super formal occasion, but we did want people to be comfortable and not have to be aware of anything else but having fun. We love burgers and brats, so we had food trucks come. We love beer, so one of our good friends (who happens to be the master brewer at Black Star Co-op) brewed us two craft beers, and we love books so there were books on the tables.
Tell us about the ceremony:
Our ceremony was performed by our good friend from college, who now lives very far away, so it was really special to have him lead us through it. He read a poem by Neil Gaiman, an author John and I both adore, shown below. He'd asked us separately what we loved about each other, which was a nice little surprise to hear. We each wrote our own vows, we didn't explicitly vow certain things but just talked about each other and the love that we'll continue to share.
“This for you, for both of you,
a small poem of happiness
filled with small glories and little triumphs
a fragile, short cheerful song
filled with hope and all sorts of futures
Because at weddings we imagine the future
Because it's all about “what happened next?”
all the work and negotiation and building and talk
that makes even the tiniest happily ever after
something to be proud of for a wee forever
This is a small thought for both of you
like a feather or a prayer,
a wish of trust and love and hope
and fine brave hearts and true.
Like a tower, or a house made all of dreams
and tomorrows and tomorrows and tomorrows”
My favorite moment:
The best moment for me was seeing John for the first time. I was getting stressed from all the pampering and prodding, and I just wanted to get to the point when I got to be around John to help calm me down. John really liked seeing all of his close friends and family in one place. He doesn't like to be too personal or emotional in public, but he was happy his friends and family were there to be witnesses.
The next best part was my mom, who was really REALLY happy to celebrate, then going up to do the speech for my dad and just beaming with pride and happiness. Oh also, she got dropped on the dance floor by one of our brewer friends, only to pop back up and keep dancing (she was fine, promise!).
What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding?
No one is going to ask you why certain things are the way they are, your guests are just going to enjoy them, so try not to get stressed. Also, make sure to take a few days after your wedding BEFORE the honeymoon if you're taking one — you'll need the time to decompress and refocus.
Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?
- Photography: Number 9 Photography
- Florist/Centerpieces: Last Petal Florists, DIY Centerpieces by my mother-in-law and my mother
- Cake: Sugar Mama's Bakeshop
- Pies from Tiny Pies
- Wedding Dress: Second Summer Bridal, resell with alterations from Kira Larson
- Wrap: Alex Bridal
- Bride's Shoes: Tom's
- Makeup: Bethany Renfro
- Hair: Emma Czar
- Jewelry: Bauble Bar
- Bride's ring: BandScapes
- Groom's ring: Maggi Designs
- Groom's Suit/Tie: Dandy's Suits
- Caterer: BestWurst and P. Terry's, staffing/bartenders by Austin's Elite
- DJ: Brandon “Phylo” Ridens
- Wedding Sign In poster: Shannon Kuguenko
- Brewing company: 4th Tap Brewery