Kathleen & Lucky's traditional 1950s wedding #Real Weddings: Southern US#1950s#atlanta#bagpipes#celtic#fascinator#first look#georgia#handfasting#queer#short dress#tattooed bride#traditions#transgender Updated Oct 12 2015 (Posted Jul 20 2012) Offbeat Editors Photos by Lawrence Andrade The offbeat bride: Kathleen, writer, performer, dog walker Her offbeat partner: Lucky, psychologist Date and location of wedding: Atlanta Botanical Garden, Atlanta, Georgia — May 12, 2012 Our offbeat wedding at a glance: My brand-new husband and I are gender-queer, kinky, old-school butch/femme living in a classic 1950s husband/wife dynamic, which we both simply adore and consider to be quite radical given our very non-traditional identities. Our wedding reflected that dynamic to its core. The ceremony and vows were a traditional 1950s ceremony — we kept all the wording, including my promise to "obey" him and his promise to "worship" me (yum). I wore a remake of a vintage 1950s cocktail dress, and he a seersucker suit. I carried peonies, the traditional 1950s wedding flower. We did a first look under the arbor where the ceremony took place. We also spent the night before the wedding sleeping apart, so the moment was precious and filled with joy for both of us. I walked unaccompanied down the garden pathway, as it was important to my husband to know I was giving myself to him freely and of my own volition. The entire weekend was wonderful and included mani/pedis with the bridal party, a Southern-style rehearsal dinner, and an incredible Sunday morning brunch gifted by our best man. Tell us about the ceremony: We are both Irish, and included both bagpipes and a traditional Celtic handfasting in the ceremony. Our officiant sang a beautiful Celtic hymn a capella, and bound our hands together while we exchanged our vows. Celtic Blessing: You are now bound to your betrothed and listen to that which I am about to say. Above you are the stars, below you are the stones. As time doth pass, remember… Like a stone should your love be firm, like a star should your love be constant. Let the powers of the mind and of the intellect guide you in your marriage. Let the strength of your wills bind you together. Let the power of your love and desire make you happy, and the strength of your dedication make you inseparable. Be close, but not too close. Possess one another, yet be understanding. Have patience with one another, for storms will come, but they will pass quickly. Be free in giving affection and warmth. Have no fear and let not the ways of the unenlightened give you unease, for the spirit of your love is with you always. By the power of the universe, mayest thou love me. As the sun follows its course, mayest thou follow me. As light to the eye, as bread to the hungry, as joy to the heart, May thou presence be with me, oh one that I love. Our biggest challenge: Definitely family. As we are both queer and have strained relationships with our families, only my youngest sister came to the wedding. It meant the world to me to have her, as well as innumerable amazing and dear friends surrounding us. That love and support is what got us both through. We both experienced some grief in the months leading up to the wedding, but by the time that weekend arrived, we were far too moved by the outpouring of love from those who did come that we forgot all traces of sorrow. My funniest moment: One hour into our four-hour reception, it began to drizzle. As the coordinators and staff hustled to move our reception indoors, Lucky and I realized we really wanted to be alone and decided to leave the reception immediately. We toasted our guests, cut the cake, had a garter and bouquet toss, then rushed off to our hotel room mere minutes later amid screams and laughter, for our guests know us well and were thrilled we were choosing to go play and leave all that cake to them. Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? I am a complete and utter control freak and I honestly expected that I would feel great anxiety and the need to micro-manage everyone and everything. I had only one near-bridezilla moment (that I breathed through) over four days of wedding events, much to the shock of myself, my groom, and the friends who know me well. Honestly, I felt so calm, so ready, so deliriously happy to be marrying Lucky, that nothing could touch me. I was like a rock. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Photography: Lawrence Andrade Bagpipes and reception music: Danny Ray Cole Flowers: Trish Land Events Dessert reception: A Divine Event Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! PREVIOUS Juliet caps, flowers, and lace: fabulous vintage veils and headpieces NEXT Celebrate by busting through a "Just Married" sign Show/Hide comments [ 37 ] fabulous! the photos are divine. a lifetime of love and kinkiness to the bride and groom. Reply awwwwww THANK YOU, Fiona!!!! Reply No kidding! This wedding had us talking about adding a "kinky" tag. Love. 🙂 Reply Can we please add a kinky tag? 😉 Kind of like the "pervatable" tag on the offbeathome post awhile back. Reply I must know: where did you get the dress??? Reply DAVID'S BRIDAL!!!!! Can you imagine??!! 🙂 Reply It is perfect on you! Reply THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!! Reply So much love evident in these photos. Thanks for sharing your event, and congratulations! Reply The happy in these photos, it's lovely. I love the fact that you went traditional. Everything looks amazing. Reply Wow! What an awesome wedding. Love the motorbike. 🙂 Reply Just beautiful!!! Congratulations Reply Where did you get that cake topper? It's so cute! Reply OH NO!!!!! I don't remember!!! Maybe weddingmountain.com? Either them or Etsy!!! I googled "vintage cake toppers" to find it!!!! Reply I love it! It's so queer that you've queered a queer dynamic! YOU ARE BLOWING MY MIND AND I AM ENJOYING IT TO THE EXTREME! Infinite years of happiness to you both. <3 Reply hahaha I LOVE all the QUEER 🙂 I had to re-quote you on Facebook!!!! Reply That pic with your legs slung around Lucky's waist–too much! On top of everything else being SO gorgeous!! Congratulations! Reply Awwww thank you 🙂 I just couldn't help myself!!!! Reply Very beautiful, and I'm glad that your little sister joined you on your wedding day! Congrats, you two look very happy together! 😀 Reply Love it!! My soon-to-be-husband and I have a similar gender-queer yet classic 1950s dynamic that I absolutely love. Reply congratulations!!!! and – may we please be friends??!! 🙂 Reply HOW HAS NO ONE ASKED ABOUT THE SHOES?!?!?!???! Reply YAY I have a shoe obsession and am thrilled to talk about my shoes!!! 🙂 They are Vince Camuto and are from DSW! A total last-minute substitution. Brides, it is true what everyone says – WEAR YOUR SHOES AROUND THE HOUSE 2 WEEKS BEFORE THE WEDDING!!!! I had a gorgeous pair of "something blue" shoes custom made and never tried them on until a few days before the wedding. I couldn't even walk in them! I tried to rig them a la Macguyver, but ended up running out to DSW the night before the ceremony with 5 minutes until closing….literally!!….Luck of the Irish, I guess, because I actually loved the pair I wore far more than the originals!!! Reply Where did the groom get his shoes?!?!? I am looking for a pair like those myself for our wedding. Great pics! Reply Thank you!!! Lucky's saddleshoes are Florsheim and he got them on Zappos – and I agree, I thought they were SO HOTTT!!!! Reply I love everything about this wedding! Please tell me….where did you get your gorgeous headdress? Reply David's Bridal – both dress AND veil!! They have a line of vintage-remake type dresses and birdcage veils that are just gorgeous and super-affordable!!!!! Reply such a cool wedding and I love the motorcycle get-away! love the sheer happiness – smiling that much would make my face hurt. wishing you a lifetime of that happiness! Reply THANK YOU!!!!!!!!! I fear my face must be falling off because I am STILL smiling that much!!!!! 🙂 Reply My goodness, what an adorable couple and what a sweet wedding. Everyone looks so happy! I love the idea you have a Ward and June Cleaver relationship. Hope you have a full, beautiful long life together. Reply Thank you soooooo much for the well-wishes 🙂 Love, from June 😉 Reply Lace, peonies, seersucker, pink leather, motorbike, and queer! Stunningly perfect in every detail, almost unbearably gorgeous, and the irrepressible happiness that radiates from you…Wow! Congratulations! Reply YIPPEEEEEEEE for your comment – thank you for the smiles AND tears today!!! Reply Hi Kathleen, I adore your Celtic Blessing, where did you find it? Do you know anything about the origins? Reply Oh I fear I no longer remember. I googled for MONTHS. Traditional Irish/Celtic blessings/prayers/readings….all I remember is it is actually a vow often used in handfastings…..I'm sorry I don't remember more! Reply This is absolutely amazing! Definitely emailing it to the tomboi. The dress, the relationship, the yummyness 😉 and the smiles! Reply Lucky's smile in that walking out picture sums it all up! Love that he's owning the very dashing gray streaks in his hair too, as I'm already rockin' the Old Lady White at 32. 🙂 Cheers to being who you are! Sincerest congratulations from myself and my (also gray haired) Chew Toy (unfortunately, not a kinky reference. I hardly ever bite him. 🙂 ) Reply Join the conversation Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published. 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