Ask your parent to "support you down the aisle" #Ceremony Advice#aisle-walking drama#steal-this-idea October 18 2017 | Megan Finley Horowitz meggyfin All photos by Wild About You Photography Even though having my father escort me down the aisle was one of my favorite memories from my first wedding, the second time I got married, I felt it was important to not make A Big Deal out of the aisle walk. I thought I'd make the aisle walk alone — an independent woman making her own life choice — or walk down the aisle with my partner — like, no biggie. Either way, no one was "giving me away" this time. That was for sure. Then two things happened: Look at those glorious fuckers! 1. The stairs We were getting married in my mother-in-law's backyard, and she got so excited about it that she LITERALLY BUILT STAIRS FOR ME. Real talk: She did not "have stairs built" she was out there with her husband pouring concrete and installing railings 'n shit. Then she dubbed them "the bridal stairs," and talked to me about her visions of me making a grand entrance while her son and everyone else stood at the bottom, watching me walking majestically down them in all my bridal glory. Okay, no problem. In fact, I dig the excitement level here. I'll just abandon the walking in together plan and walk down the aisle on my own then. What you're looking at is a two-inch platform with a five-inch heel. 2. The shoes Related Post Who should walk me down the aisle? We've addressed how to tell your dad someone else is walking you down the aisle before (lots of great comments on that post!), but never... Read more It was nigh impossible to find the right shoes to match my ridiculous dress. My bridesmaid Kimmy happens to be one of the best stylists in LA, and even she was struggling. Until she found the most absurd-but-perfect pair in existence. I wanted to hate them the moment she pointed them out, in fact, I kind of did. But then when I tried them on with the dress I realized she was right. No other shoes fit like those did. And no other shoes have ever been so hard to walk in. When I purchased them, the man at the store said, "You know, these are the ONLY pair of shoes here that were used on the actual runway show." And I shot back, "No shit! That makes sense. These literally only belong on the runway." Shoes + stairs + grass = Megan walks like a newborn baby deer This was me: Much like in that runway fail video, I realized that I had no choice but to have someone walk me down the aisle. But when I really thought about it, what I truly needed was just some support. And then it clicked… I could ask my dad to support me down the aisle. To literally do the thing he had done for most of my life: help me, guide me, be a strong support system when I feel a little wobbly, and make me laugh when I feel awkward. Slowly, slowwwwwlllllyyyyyy… So I asked my dad if he would help to support me down the aisle. And he happily did so. Even if it meant he had to walk extreeeemely, painfully slow down those stairs. Even if it meant he didn't get to technically "give me away" like he did last time. Instead, he walked me right to the end of the aisle, right to where my mom was sitting, and I hugged them both and walked the remaining steps to Mike (slowly, cautiously) on my own. And then I took off those fucking shoes the moment Kimmy wasn't looking. Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Megan Finley Horowitz When Megan's not writing, traveling, and sleeping, she's eating like the fate of the world depends on it. (You're welcome, world!) You can snoop into her personal life over on her website The Dash and Dine! @meggyfin @thedashanddine @meggyfin PREVIOUS An intimate city hall wedding (with a fascinating romance backstory!) NEXT Full steam ahead for this fabulous taco truck wedding Show/Hide comments [ 1 ] Those shoes!!!!! Oh my god I need them!!!! Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.