Ignore them, but smile while you’re doing it: the sanest advice you’ll ever hear from a mother-of-the-bride

Guest post by LOLBear
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My mom is the smartest person I know. She has her PhD in genetics, teaches full time, is a CEO of a company, can make anything from scratch without a recipe, and has been happily married to Dad for 38 years. I've been collecting her advice because it has helped me stay calm and centered.

I thought it might help some of you…

  • “Everybody wants to tell you how to get married and raise your kids. Ignore them, but smile while you're doing it.”
  • “Weddings are never just for the bride and groom. Your wedding will be your first family reunion — of both blood and chosen family and friends. It is a celebration for the village that has raised you both to successful adulthood. We're proud of you and love you.”
  • “You don't have to do something just because ‘that's the way it's done.' If you do what you want to do sincerely, it will be ‘the way it's done by you.'”
  • “People will always think that a happy bride is beautiful — that's because all happy brides are beautiful. Don't try to make yourself into a magazine cover. Just focus on what makes you happy.”
  • “Make sure that the people who help you know how much you appreciate their help.”
  • “Don't tell people the details and they won't give you grief about them.”
  • “Nobody will remember if the napkins match or how many bridesmaids you have. People will remember if you take the time to thank them for coming. People will also remember if the cake is good. That's just as important.”

We all know there's a lot of bad wedding advice out there — what's the BEST wedding advice you've gotten?

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