Nothing I love more than some nice sane reader mail:

I just want to say thank you keeping me grounded during my wedding planning. Since I proposed to my fiance I've frequented A LOT of wedding sites. It's insanely addictive. The only problem is, like many brides to be, I get so caught up in the how the event is going to look that I tend to forget what the event is about.

I knew I hit a wall the other day… I told my fiance he couldn't have the number of groomsmen he wanted because I read that when your having a small ceremony you should only have this number and I didn't want to add a bridesmaid to even out the sides and blah blah blah.

I needed a reality check so I came back to your site to get the slap in the face I deserved. Of course he can have his closest friends in the wedding. It seems so trivial that I even had to think about it.

Reading posts submitted by people wanting to show off their love and not their reception decor is like breathe of fresh air when you've literally gone insane with planning. Whenever I feel myself going off the deep end I just stop by and I'm immediately calmed.

I'm not ashamed to say that yes I still do care about my color scheme and what my bridesmaids wear, but not nearly as much as I care about having a ceremony that truly reflects how much I love the man standing next to me. If that isn't the part that everyone leaves talking about then what was the point of having a wedding in the first place. -Sabrina

Comments on A slap in the face (in a good way!)

  1. when i notice that i care too much about centerpieces and favors and crap….i stop in for a reality check. which is like, twice a day.just save money, and stuff will make sense in the next year and a half. make time for cuddling, not coasters!

  2. I had a bad moment the other day. I was reading through a forum topic about how anyone who wants a coloured wedding dress is just wanting to be different for the sake of being different and there are enough “colours” of white, ivory, cream, champane ect. to suit everyone. After about 5 pages of universal agreement I actually found myself wondering if maybe I should give a white dress a chance!

    That’s utterly absurd, I have maybe 4 white tops and I rarely wear them because I don’t like it and it just doesn’t look good on me. There is no reason I’d want a white dress!

    (I do wonder if they’d also agree that there’s enough shades of red/blue/green/yellow etc. that everyone could find one that’d look good if that was traditional, or if it was only white that’s apparently so versatile.)

    • ya know, if someone WANTS a white dress, yay for them. but to press that there are enough versions of white? seriously?!? I own ZERO pieces of white clothing (ok, the star wars baseball jersey, but it has black sleeves!) so why on earth would i even think of wearing white? i knew the dude and i were on the same wavelength long before i proposed when i mentioned being in an area of town literally surrounded by wedding dress shops and he asked if there were any black ones. gawd i less than 3 him to pieces!

  3. i had the SAME slap in the face about two weeks ago! it feels good when you bring yourself back to earth and can truly focus on the really important parts of getting married.

  4. I’m having one more Brides-person than he’s having Groomspeople. And two of his people are girls, and one of mine is a guy. How will it look? Don’t care. His people will sit near him, mine will sit near me, and nobody need be confused – and if they are, they can ask, and get to know their fellow wedding guests better.

  5. Oh man – I need this really badly right now! I shocked myself this weekend with how excited I’ve become, and need a bit of a reeling in. It really is so easy to get caught up in how things have to look, and to feel the pressure.

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