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Nothing I love more than some nice sane reader mail:

I just want to say thank you keeping me grounded during my wedding planning. Since I proposed to my fiance I’ve frequented A LOT of wedding sites. It’s insanely addictive. The only problem is, like many brides to be, I get so caught up in the how the event is going to look that I tend to forget what the event is about.

I knew I hit a wall the other day… I told my fiance he couldn’t have the number of groomsmen he wanted because I read that when your having a small ceremony you should only have this number and I didn’t want to add a bridesmaid to even out the sides and blah blah blah.

I needed a reality check so I came back to your site to get the slap in the face I deserved. Of course he can have his closest friends in the wedding. It seems so trivial that I even had to think about it.

Reading posts submitted by people wanting to show off their love and not their reception decor is like breathe of fresh air when you’ve literally gone insane with planning. Whenever I feel myself going off the deep end I just stop by and I’m immediately calmed.

I’m not ashamed to say that yes I still do care about my color scheme and what my bridesmaids wear, but not nearly as much as I care about having a ceremony that truly reflects how much I love the man standing next to me. If that isn’t the part that everyone leaves talking about then what was the point of having a wedding in the first place. -Sabrina

Comments on A slap in the face (in a good way!)

    • I, too, was just thrust here from another site that had the “how much did your engagement ring cost” poll. Gag. This is like a breath of fresh air.

  1. I completely agree. I got so frustrated reading one of the other main wedding websites and finding how rude and tradition driven those brides were. This place is like a safe haven from the insanity!

    • I, too, was just thrust here from another site that had the “how much did your engagement ring cost” poll. Gag. This is like a breath of fresh air.

    • I can’t believe a picture of our groomsmen (and my groom) are featured on here! So cool!

      Btw, I would like to agree that the wedding should be all about the people you love, not about “how it looks.” Our wedding was one of the most FUN days of our lives, as it should be. 🙂

  2. There are other websites with some great and groovy features, don’t get me wrong. But OBB has been a breath of fresh air for me. This has been my first wedding community I’ve joined and I’m so thankful for it. This one said congrats first where others were telling me to join a gym.

    Thank you all

    oh yes…Sabrina, it’s totally ok that you still care about what your ladies are wearing so long as you maintain perspective. Your letter clearly shows you haz it so don’t you dare apologize!! 😛

  3. Absolutely. We both had our best friends at our sides. For him, that was 2 guys. For me, it was 2 girls and a guy. My family pushed for him to have my brother up there to even out the sides.. but my brother and my husband are not close. They also suggested moving my guy-friend to his side and including my sister-in-law or the wife of a groomsman on my side. None of the above worked for us, and I’m glad we stuck to our guns. We included my brother in other ways, and I’m glad. Also, it was awesome when my girlyfriend got escorted by two guys in the recessional. Pimpin’.

  4. As Boxer said it’s exactly why I love this site. 😀

    It’s almost scary how easy it is to get caught up in all the hoopla of ‘everyone must do this!’ with weddings, especially since I’ve never had much trouble shrugging off social/peer pressure in the past.

    I think a big part of it is that most people are on unfamiliar territory with weddings so we go looking for guidance in how things ‘should’ be/usually are done as a starting point, but once you’ve opened yourself up to being told how things should go it’s easy to get really wrapped up in it, especially when some websites/people seem totally devoted to convincing everyone else that different is wrong and if anything is wrong your wedding is ruined and your friends and family will never forgive you. (I won’t name names but I do have some in mind.)

    By contrast this place feels so wonderfully positive. Even if I don’t like the actual ideas I love reading about everyone else’s weird and wacky weddings because it’s incredibly reassuring just to know that there are alternatives to what has been dictated elsewhere, they can work and people will actually love it! It’s a massive (and much needed) confidence boost!

  5. I come here for a similar reason: to remind me that I’m not alone in this! I’m at the place in my planning where I’m going to do what I’m going to do, but I still need reminding that other people think that’s cool and not crazy. Thanks for that.

  6. Sooo agree. I come here to remind myself what truly matters. At the end of the day if we’re married who cares if everyone thought wearing costumes was weird or if someone cringed at my purple fairie dress? I want our day to stand out and reflect who we are, not what other people think. And this site reminds me of that. GO OBB!!!

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