5 ways NOT to announce your engagement on social media (in GIFs)

5 ways NOT to announce your engagement on social media

It's the start of the holiday season. You're full of tryptophan and ready for a nap. OR you're totally celebrating your freshly diamond-ed finger because your spouse (or you!) has just proposed. It's the holidays, love is in the air. It's engagement season, y'all.

If this is you, CONGRATS! We're so happy for you! And we want all your friends and family to be happy, too. So here are five ways NOT to announce your engagement on social media so you don't wreck all the fun with your wild antics and get everyone all:

5 ways NOT to announce your engagement on social media

Before it's official

5 ways NOT to announce your engagement on social media

You definitely don't want any premature engagement-ulation. I don't know what that is either, but wait until it's official. If you think it'll happen, it might happen, you're just drafting a post in case it happens… don't hit submit just yet.

Without letting your partner know

5 ways NOT to announce your engagement on social media

Hey, it's official! This means you can totally post and celebrate. Just make sure to give your partner a heads up before the notifications start rolling in. This is especially true if you haven't notified your main crew of friends and family who will want to know before the general Facebook public.

During someone else's hard time

5 ways NOT to announce your engagement on social media

If someone else just had a big break up, a job loss, an election loss (just kidding, totally announce it — we all need it!), wait a little while to announce. You don't want to give off any "I don't care, bishes, admire me" vibes.

With a gratuitous ring shot

5 ways NOT to announce your engagement on social media

Gratuitous is the key word here. A ring shot with both of you smiling? Awesome. A hug with the ring shown behind your partner? Cute. A big ol' close-up of your 3-carat cushion cut surrounded by glitter and mink? Maybe scale it back a bit.

5 ways NOT to announce your engagement on social media

RIGHT after someone else

5 ways NOT to announce your engagement on social media

It IS engagement season after all, so you may not be the only couple basking in post-proposal joy. If you do see a rogue announcement slip out right when you wanted to post your announcement, give it a few days. Give them a bit thumbs up, too, so they know you're rooting for them. Then share with them this link since they'll need it, too!

DO announce it if you want to

5 ways NOT to announce your engagement on social media

None of these tips mean you shouldn't announce on social media if you want to. It's how a lot of us share our life updates. Be sneaky with a surprise, toss in an animated gif, throw in a photo of you and your cat celebrating (oh wait, that's me), and post away! Then tell us how it all went down.

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  1. Also, don't announce it for a friend. Someone filmed our engagement, uploaded it to Facebook, and tagged us as it happened. My friends, family, co-workers, neighbors, former teachers, (you get the point) knew as soon as I did. It all turned out fine and honestly I'm glad to have the moment recorded video. But we didn't get to tell anyone ourselves or control how the news got out.

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  2. I fully support a close-up of that bling – more glitter and mink? Ok. You do you. However, MULTIPLE photos of that bling? No. I don't need to go through 10 photos of various angles of your ring.

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  3. Don't feel like you can't celebrate or share news because so and so is going through a breakup/hard time. You're allowed to feel happy and to celebrate it! However don't go to that person to complain about anything engagement or wedding related, THAT'S not cool. I'm struggling with infertility right now, and pregnancy announcements sting, sometimes bring me to tears, but I'm honestly happy for the person. UNTIL they complain endlessly about the discomforts of pregnancy (girl in mind is NOT having a rough pregnancy, she was complaining about the things she's temporarily not allowed to eat, NOT something to complain to a person struggling with fertility.) Also texting this kind of news is great if you know someone is struggling, gives the person times to process the news, maybe ugly cry in private.

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  4. I honestly wish that we had waited to announce our engagement on Facebook. We called our mothers right after it happened, took a picture, and posted away. It was really awesome to see the wave of congratulations and good lucks and best wishes and all that but I sometimes feel like we shared way too soon. If I had to do it over again I think I would've waited until we'd told all our close family/friends either in person, via phone, or even by text before posting it for the whole FB universe. But, hindsight is 20/20!

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