Makenna & Yvonne's military island escape wedding #Real Weddings: Western US#anniversary-unity-box#bunting#diy bouquet#diy veil#fall weddings#lesbian weddings#LGBT#military#mixed-gender wedding party#self-catered#tent#wedding weekend#wine ceremony July 18 | Offbeat Editors offbeatbride Photos by: Erika Monaco Photos by Erika Monaco The Offbeat Bride: Makenna, birth doula and academic Her offbeat partner: Yvonne, Captain in the U.S. Air Force Date and location of wedding: Guemes Island Resort, Guemes Island, WA — September 15, 2012 Our offbeat wedding at a glance: It was nearly four days of fun: Friday through Monday. We cooked all the food (with the help of our guests) from Saturday morning through Monday morning. Yvonne and I were in the kitchen with our guests constantly, except on the wedding day. We rented some neat, vintage furniture and dragged it out to the island ourselves. Yvonne wore her mess dress, too! This is almost unheard of for women, let alone lesbian women. She decided it was important to her to embrace her military career, even though they didn't recognize our wedding. I won't say the wedding was cheap, but it was well-below average, especially for a full weekend. We didn't cut corners, but we did look for the most affordable options for everything we did, including picking up items and returning them ourselves (our wedding vehicle was a van), and shipping everything to the resort from Amazon. We didn't have a wedding planner, which, in hindsight, was likely crazy. We made our bouquets out of flowers from Pike Place Market for $200. We made our attendants wedding jewelry, and my friend who couldn't attend the wedding made the veil. My mother and three of her friends made over 500 pennants to create a bunting effect all over the tent. All of our people made the food, too. My brother-in-law caught nearly 100 crab, and my father and three others shucked 10 dozen oysters. We wrote a letter to each person (over the age of 16) who came to our wedding, which turned into their wedding favor. Tell us about the ceremony: We did a very casual ceremony that included vows we wrote to each other, and call and response from the crowd. Here is an excerpt: Makenna and Yvonne: you realize that in a greater sense, no other person or officiant can truly marry you. Only you can marry yourselves. By your commitment to love each other, and to work with all your hearts toward creating an atmosphere of care and respect, and by your willingness to face together the fears and uncertainty that underlie human life, you marry yourselves more surely than any document can. Your love for one another and your willingness to accept each other's strengths and frailties with understanding and consideration will form the foundation for an everlasting life together. You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of 'yes' to this moment of 'yes,' indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held driving across the country, or over a meal, or during long walks and late nights — all those sentences that began with 'When we're married' and continued with 'I will and you will and we will' — those late night talks that included 'someday and somehow and maybe' — and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart –all these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, 'You know all those things we've promised and hoped and dreamed — well, I meant it all, every word.' Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another — acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in the days, months, and years leading up to this joyous day. A vast, unknown future stretches out before you. That future, with its hopes and disappointments, its joys and its sorrows, is hidden from your eyes. It is a great tribute to your belief in each other that you are willing to face those uncertainties together. May the pure, simple love with which you join your hearts and hands today never fail, but grow only deeper and surer with every year you spend together. Part of the wine ceremony: A good wine, like a good marriage, is the result of many years of hard work. There is the unhurried nurturing of the vine and tender care of the grape, thoughtful mix of ingredients, patient fermenting — yielding the unique flavors of each passing year. Let this first glass of wine that you taste together celebrate all that has brought you to this moment, expressing hope and faith in the commitments you have made here today. And let it symbolize for you how sharing the partnership of marriage not only doubles the sweetness of life, but also lightens the burden of its bitterness by half. Our biggest challenge: We had numerous people who didn't come due to religious reasons, and to be honest, we were completely devastated by a few of them saying no to our invitations. We dealt with it as gracefully as we could, and went into the day trying to remember that so many people were there to support us. But really the best way we could deal with it was show them our wedding photos after the fact. They were all dumbfounded by how "normal" our wedding seemed. In fact, most of them were really sad that they didn't get to show up after that. Sometimes its best not to push it, and let people have their process, even when it hurts. My favorite moment: At one point in the evening, my father came up to me and said "this is the coolest thing I have ever been a part of." Of course I started crying. Neither of us come from the most supportive of families, and it was beautiful to see them show up, and become so overjoyed by the gravity of it. I also loved taking all the traditional military photographs, because it showed we were married, even if the military didn't view us that way. CHUGCHUGCHUG! My funniest moment: We had a wine ceremony, with the wine box that Yvonne had made while she was deployed in Honduras. Our wedding party also contributed letters for the wine box. But we weren't content with just a wine box ceremony, we wanted to share a glass of wine with our attendants. The end result was me chugging the wine, because one of my bridesfolk said to everyone, "Take the smallest sip possible. Let's make Makenna chug on her wedding day." I was a rugby player, and my chugging skills were well-known. To say the least, even after Yvonne drank a good clip of it, there was still a full serving left. There are great photos of me chugging red wine, in my wedding dress, on a beach, in front of over 100 people! What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? Family and friends make a marriage sweeter, because without the people you love, you wouldn't be who you are today. Having our family and friends there was so magical, and it was their presence (more than our union) that mattered that day to us. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Venue: Guemes Island Resort was amazing. I would suggest this venue to anyone! Photography: Erika Monaco. She did so much for us, and it was truly spectacular. Dresses: Wai-Ching. She was amazing to work with, and her customization options are nearly endless. Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! This post features Offbeat Vendors! Check out their vendor listing to see how they cater to Offbeat Brides: Wai-Ching Get your daily dose of Offbeat AWESOME Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Wedding tit for wedding tat: Am I obligated to invite someone to my wedding if they invited me to theirs? NEXT Lace up your white wedding gown with a rainbow of colors Show/Hide comments [ 36 ] the whole wedding looks like a blast, but that last photo is just magical! 18 agree Reply All the tears. This wedding is so heartfelt and lovely. And thank you for this: "Family and friends make a marriage sweeter, because without the people you love, you wouldn't be who you are today." I found planning our wedding to be so stressful that I wanted to elope. Ultimately, we decided that we agree more with this sentiment. 10 agree Reply Wow. This whole wedding is so beautiful and full of love. That last photo in particular is BREATHTAKING. 13 agree Reply This is one of my favorite weddings on Offbeat Bride ever, and that's really saying something. Congratulations to the lovely couple! 22 agree Reply Aww. Thanks! That is making me blush. 1 agrees Reply Totally brought to tears by this. So, so beautiful… Many congratulations! 4 agree Reply I LOVE this excerpt from the ceremony: "You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of 'yes' to this moment of 'yes,' indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way" I also applaud the use of Yvonne's mess dress uniform. Well done! 13 agree Reply That was a huge decision for us (mess dress), and it turned out better than we could imagine. Thanks! 4 agree Reply An absolutely stunning couple and what a wedding!!! The photos are breathtaking. So much love!! 3 agree Reply Everything about this wedding is amazing. I'm sitting at my desk fighting back tears. All the happiness to you both! 6 agree Reply Aww thanks! It was a great day. Now we are headed back to Washington for our getting legalled ceremony in a week! 7 agree Reply BEAUTIFUL! I'm curious as to the significance of the stones? Seems like a neat idea, but I'm intrigued of the meaning… 1 agrees Reply Simply that they were on the beach and there! We tried to source everything as local as humanly possible. So the rosemary in the boutonnieres was actually from a bush by the guestbook table! 🙂 Reply I LOVE THAT!! Everything looked absolutely gorgeous and so did both of you! I wish you the utmost of happiness! 2 agree Reply One of the most FABOOSH weddings I have seen…Luv it! Congrats… 2 agree Reply I feel called to say that not ALL of our family is unsupportive. A lot of them are so so very supportive. It hasn't always been that way though. And much of them are getting more so each day. 😉 We just had a very vocal minority! 4 agree Reply This is, hands down, my favorite wedding I have seen on Offbeat Bride. Stunning! And all the love! And the mess dress. Just magical! 4 agree Reply Wow.. beautiful wedding. Yvonne looks super happy in all the pictures. You both look beautiful. I'm confused about the "the military doesn't recognize our marriage" thing.. I thought they abolished the don't ask don't tell thing.. are they still supportive? Regardless, I wish you both luck. Love the cake toppers too.. and what your dad said makes my eyes water. Reply I'm using that reading for my wedding also!! So beautiful. Such a lovely wedding, your bride looks lovely in her dress uniform, and you both look so happy 🙂 Reply Congratulations! And especially for including your military family. You both look amazing and your wedding looks like it was a total blast. 1 agrees Reply I love everything about this wedding. The excerpt from the ceremony made me cry and you both look so happy. <3 Reply I echo everyone else who said this was their favorite ever post on offbeat bride! Absolutely amazing!!! Reply This is also my favorite wedding I've ever seen. The sense of love between not only the brides, but between them and their guests, is just so strong it's almost palpable. I especially loved the shout out that they made to their friends and family in their vows, and also that they wrote each guest a letter as a wedding favor. So awesome. 4 agree Reply Beautiful beautiful beautiful. Reply I started crying when I saw Yvonne in her mess dress. Absolutely stunning wedding. I hope mine is filled with half as much beauty and love. Congratulations! Reply Makenna, you veil and dress are gorgeous! And I am in love with Ivonne's fingerwaves! 1 agrees Reply Her sister is a stylist and did them! I love my dress too! I didn't think I would. Now I am trying to get it dyed gray so I can wear it again! 🙂 Reply So much love for your officiant's XD face on the kiss photo! Reply That is one of my bestie's from college. 🙂 She's amazing. She should do this as a full-time job. Reply Yvonne looks so…"womanly" is the best word I can think of in her mess dress! 🙂 And I love the blue accents on Makenna's dress. You make a lovely couple! This wedding is especially sweet now that DADT and DoMA are over with <3 Reply Yes it is true! Sadly our wedding was BEFORE DoMA was done. We are getting legalled THIS WEEK in Seattle. 🙂 5 agree Reply Congrats and congrats, then! If you're getting added to her health insurance/other benefits, you can file that paperwork with USAF now. That way the benefits kick in on your get-legalled day, not a few weeks later. 1 agrees Reply So beautiful! Congratulations to both of you, you were both stunning! Reply I suppose I can't say much that hasn't already been said…. but wow. Just wow. Rock on you lovely ladies! Reply This is the most beautifully written blog I've read over the four years I have been engaged. What a wonderful thing it indeed is to live during a time when love in all it's capacity is becoming recognized by our nation, albeit state by state. The bitter sweet tears that fell while reading the Officiant's words. You ladies make my heart soar knowing a love like yours is out there. Reply OMG, so many things I love about this wedding. Saving this in my Favorites book for sure! Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Participate in this conversation via emailGet only replies to your comment, the best of the rest, as well as a daily recap of all comments on this post. No more than a few emails daily, which you can reply to/unsubscribe from directly from your inbox. 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