Stephanie & Amir's celebration of love, art, and volunteerism wedding #Real Weddings: Southern US#classic car#disability#fall weddings#secular#virginia April 14 | Offbeat Editors offbeatbride Photos by: DCPG Photography + Design Photos by DCPG Photography + Design The Offbeat Bride: Stephanie, 4th Year Medical Student Her offbeat partner: Amir, 4th Year Medical Student Date and location of wedding: Half Moone Cruise & Celebration Center, Norfolk, VA — October 5, 2013 Our offbeat wedding at a glance: We come from mixed cultures, I'm an American with roots in Pennsylvania Dutch tradition and Amir is half English and half Eqyptian. We have family members who are Coptic, Jewish, and everything in between. Amir and I decided early that we wanted a secular, all-inclusive wedding ceremony. We also didn't want to be married by a stranger. As an alternative, given that we are both about to graduate medical school, we approached an esteemed, retired Cardiologist who also happens to be a philosopher, and asked him to officiate. For the reception, our goal was to throw a big party with as many people we love as possible in attendance. We wanted them to relax, enjoy themselves, and have the night fly by. We also wanted to make sure guests who didn't like to dance had other options. We included a lounge close to the dance floor for those who just wanted to watch, a canvas where guests could paint their own squares for the artistic types, a genealogy station for guests curious about our (or their) heritage, a photo booth, and a video entrance. Lastly, Amir and I met through volunteering as EMTs in Virginia Beach. It's a huge part of who we are, a passion that led me to medical school at age 35, and one that keeps us motivated every day. It's how we spend every other Thanksgiving, Christmas, and countless other days: volunteering our time to help our neighbors in need of medical help. It's an amazing feeling and is the root of much of our relationship, so we wanted to incorporate it into our wedding. For a small donation towards gas and maintenance fees, we rented my rescue squad's 1972 Cadillac ambulance (which was used for 911 calls on September 11, 2001) as our getaway car. A limo would have cost us twice as much and not meant nearly as much to us — nor would it have made noise and had blinky lights! Our biggest challenge: My father has been disabled since 1999 after many unsuccessful back and leg surgeries. When my sister got married in 2001, we were shocked he was able to walk her down the aisle then. So, my expectations for him to do so 12 years later were extremely low. My father is prone to falls, so I was filled with images of one or both of us falling and getting hurt. And, with a room full of doctors, medical students, and paramedics, the crowd that would rush to save us would be well, my personal wedding nightmare. I focused on what I like to call "risk reduction": the longer we walked or danced, the greater the risk of falling. So, I had the caterer arrange the chairs to minimize the length of the aisle, and I had the DJ cut our song "Rainbow Connection," usually three minutes, down to one minute. I'm happy to report there were no falls and no injuries, and I did get both moments of my father walking me down the aisle and dancing to our father/daughter dance. My favorite moment: In addition to asking Dr. Talreja to officiate, we asked our mentor and favorite medical school professor and Neuroscientist, Paul Aravich to speak. Dr. Aravich is a model humanitarian, advocating for people with Alzheimers, Parkinson's Disease, and Traumatic Brain Injuries. We had asked him to say a few words on humanism, volunteerism, and advocating for those less fortunate. To our surprise, he did not only that, but gave a speech highlighting how each of our family members embodied those qualities as well. He clearly did hours of research to uncover and understand where we came from, who raised us, who raised our parents, and how we became the people we are today. My brother-in-law Ashraf was Amir's best man, and his speech was incredible. He had the entire audience in tears (both laughter to start, then sentimental to close). Amir lost a brother when he was just 11, which of course had a profound impact on the family. Ashraf did a flawless job of acknowledging the obvious void in the room, but without killing the mood. What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? You can get very distracted and discouraged when planning your wedding. I got some good advice early on to realize up front that I probably wasn't going to get everything I wanted. Armed with that advice, we sat down to write out what truly mattered to us, and what could budge. For instance, we weren't willing to compromise on our ceremony content and message, but let go of the idea of fancy flowers when we picked a venue that stood on its own thanks to four-story windows. We gave up a wedding cake and opted for delicious cookies made by a friend. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Photography: DCPG Photography + Design Bride's gown, bolero, veil, and jewelry: Monique Lhullier Bliss, Pure English Bridal Couture Bridesmaid's dresses: Occasions, Jim Hjelm, Pure English Bridal Couture flowers: Palette of Petals Catering: Cuisine & Company Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Evangeline Lane will capture your best wedding moments and steal your heart (plus a HUGE discount!) NEXT This Colorado wedding is a Tim-Burton-flavored carnival Show/Hide comments [ 8 ] Gorgeous. Not what I would choose, but still, breathtaking. Fresh, in a completely different way. I dunno…something about this wedding, I just really like, though it is so completely opposite of my taste. I think it says something when a wedding isn't even close to ones taste, and is still found to be beautiful to that person. 3 agree Reply Thanks Ashley – I know exactly what you mean. There are lots of weddings I see online that I appreciate for their creativity and personality, even if not for me. That's my favorite thing about the Offbeat Tribe – there seem to be many brides able to appreciate taste besides their own. 2 agree Reply I think what I really love about this site is the unfettered joy I see on the faces of the couples and their guests. Also the incredible creativity is inspirational, even if I wouldn't make some of the same choices. But I'm getting plenty of great ideas too. 1 agrees Reply That ambulance!!! 😀 Best getaway car ever. Your variety of reception activities was a stroke of genius — catering to all personality types. Also, VA EMT fist bump! 4 agree Reply Great to hear from a fellow VA EMT! About the reception activities, I think that idea came out of the fact that, at age 35, I've been to so many weddings that ended early because they only catered to one type of guest. Like most couples, we wanted people to stick around as long as possible to enjoy the night with us. Reply I love the genealogy table – it fits the idea of a wedding so perfectly that it makes me wonder why it isn't a well known tradition already! (In my area at least… it probably is somewhere in the world.) Reply We used Ancestry.com to create and print the poster in the photo as well as a bound hard-cover book (much more detail) that sat on the same table. Reply It's a Monique Lhullier Bliss gown from 2009. I purchase it at pure english in Virginia Beach, VA. Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. 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