Kat & Scott's gamer geek gathering (with a side of wedding) #Real Weddings: Western US#arizona#blue dress#board games#brides in glasses#colored crinoline#dungeons and dragons#gamers#geeky#handfasting#kilts#no wedding party#non-floral centerpiece#paper flowers#plus size#rock band#role playing games#short hair#tucson#video games#vow examples September 4 | Offbeat Editors offbeatbride Photos by Erin Michelle The offbeat bride: Kat, Tribesmaid Her offbeat partner: Scott Date and location of wedding: Hotel Congress, Tucson, AZ — April 7, 2012 Our offbeat wedding at a glance: We did a lot of DIY projects. I made garlands with paper punches, string, and a ton of scrapbook paper, along with a damaged second-hand copy of The Hobbit. The centerpieces were paper flowers in vases with spray painted dice as vase filler. My sister-in-law made adorable bunting for the ceremony area. My favorite project was our card box/guest book page receptacle. Inspired by some of the toothy monster card boxes on Offbeat Bride, I recreated a Mimic of Dungeons and Dragons fame with Sculpey teeth and Sculpey-and-glass eyes, which turned a stained and distressed "treasure chest" into something subtle but creepy. Instead of a first dance, we had a first RockBand duet. Instead of a parent/child dance, we invited our siblings up to play another song. We had a couple of separate areas for reception entertainment: Beatles RockBand, a fully-stocked board game table (with game sommeliers and a menu!), and a professional photo booth with a kick-ass prop box. And of course, a bar and several tables for people to sit and chat. We had cake pops in the shape of D6s, too! Tell us about the ceremony: Our ceremony was full of gamer references. Our officiant had a Powerpoint presentation about D&D and a reading from the 4th Edition Dungeon Master's Guide. Our vows were entirely coded in gamer language. 'Roll to save against being smitten with each other.' We roll, he flings the dice away. 'You fail to save. You are now in deep smit.' After the handfasting, we rolled to save against being smitten with each other. (We failed.) And my sister played a processional and recessional on piano — both from Final Fantasy songbooks. We also had no wedding party, but instead picked friends and family for various jobs according to their abilities and proximity. Instead of a bouquet, I carried a small D20-shaped bag to the "altar." Here is the reading from the Dungeon Master's Guide: Quest Rewards: When the characters finish a major quest that they've been pursuing for several sessions, divide the XP reward among all the characters who participated in the quest, even those who aren't present in the particular session when the PCs complete it. That's only fair — a major quest is like an encounter that stretches over multiple game sessions, and everyone who participates deserves to share in the reward. We wrote our own vows and didn't tell anyone about them until the ceremony. We built the vows into our handfasting, with a loop of the cord after each "round" of vows: S: When you are low on sanity points, I will tank the demons for you K: I will monitor party hit points, and make sure everyone is healed up for the next adventure S: I will always help you build your character, and never question your core concept K: I will take training in the skills you lack so that the party is balanced S: I will always provide interesting adventure paths, and never railroad you down the boring ones K: I will help you to gain all of the levels. All of them. Our biggest challenge: The bit that had me most anxious was the ceremony. After a couple of interviews with professional officiants and celebrants, we decided that the only way to really convey what we wanted was to ask a friend to officiate for us. This also meant that we had to build a ceremony from scratch, as none of the pre-built models were doing it for us. Neither of us knew the first thing about wedding ceremonies, so we were pretty much at a loss. I researched ceremony-related things kind of obsessively, but I still had no real idea what ours would look like. After some drafts with my mother, we sent off the outline to our officiant and asked him to come up with something. We thought that what would ensue would be a constructive back-and-forth editing process, but we should have known better. This is the same guy who builds all of his role-playing game characters in secret, too. As time passed and we had no word from him, I got increasingly anxious, and started bugging him. A couple of weeks before the event, he finally sent us a Powerpoint file. It was completely awesome. My favorite moment: Scott definitely got misty-eyed listening to his brother's reading. I felt like the most meaningful part for me was just having everyone together in one big room. The energy was incredible. The guest book was also incredible — reading through the pages can bring back the feeling of being there in the middle of so much love and positive energy. Nailed it! Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? I was pretty worried about my little brother. I'd asked him to be our ring bearer for the ring warming ceremony, but on the day of the rehearsal, he looked frozen and terrified the whole way through. During the rehearsal dinner, he didn't even eat anything. Poor kid got a heaping helping of the family anxiety disorder on top of having Down's, and I'm pretty sure the whole procedure was wigging him out. Thankfully, on the day of, he was awesome, and smiled at everyone as he took the rings around to be warmed. I think formal wear and some good food helped immensely there, and I'm very glad that he was included in the ceremony. My advice for Offbeat Brides: Find a day-of coordinator. You've got to have at least one friend who's super organized and good at herding cats. Find them and bribe them to help with whatever you can spend. The important thing is that you have someone to direct the day while you are busy preparing yourself. What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? Over the year we gave ourselves to prep for the wedding, I learned more about myself than anything. I learned how to harness my own organizational energy when it happens. I spent a couple of months doing absolutely nothing wedding-related at all. Other months were spent in mad crafting frenzies. I found that I work best in concentrated blasts of the same activity. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Photography: Erin Michelle Venue: Hotel Congress Kilt and kilt suit: Scotweb Tie: Cyberoptix Dress: Starkers Corsetry Crinoline: Etsy seller Swank Underpinnings Sash: Etsy seller Eclu Fascinator: Etsy seller All4Brides Veil: Etsy seller PinkSewingMachine Glasses Frames: Etsy seller BackThennishVintage Earrings: Etsy seller AshleySpatula Necklace: Etsy seller Casamoda Gloves: Etsy seller ZenandCoffee Shoes: Fluevog Cake Pops: Village Bakehouse Rings: Elizabeth Scott Jewelry Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! This post features Offbeat Vendors! Check out their vendor listing to see how they cater to Offbeat Brides: Cyberoptix Starkers Corsetry Get your daily dose of Offbeat AWESOME Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Fairy swords, a woodsy tablescape, and a Snowy Mountain stroll NEXT Hire a food truck to invade your reception with deliciousness Show/Hide comments [ 22 ] Love this wedding… they have so many elements that I've already similarly planned for ours. Congrats to the happy couple! 2 agree Reply This is so full of win! 2 agree Reply This is just plain fantabulous. Wonderrific. Splendiferous. There are no words for the awesomesauce. Congratulations, and kudos for just … celebrating yourselves and your love. 3 agree Reply O.M.G. This wedding knocks my socks off, and I do not use that expression lightly. Also, love the random tentacle. 🙂 4 agree Reply That crinoline! THEM HANDWARMERS. 1 agrees Reply Everything about this wedding is adorable and awesome. Reply This made me laugh so hard in all the best ways. Absolutely brilliant. Congratulations, guys. 🙂 Reply Congrats! I love all the nerdy touches. Did you follow a particular tutorial to make the paper flowers for the centerpieces? I know I want to make some kind of paper or fabric flowers for our wedding and I really like the shape and look of yours. 1 agrees Reply Hi Lisa! I used the Pioneer Woman's tutorial to get started: http://thepioneerwoman.com/homeandgarden/2011/06/paper-flowers/ Reply Since I submitted this, I've been considering making a whole bunch more Mimic boxes to sell. I'll be sure to post in the forums when I get that up and running. ^_^ 2 agree Reply You mean the Tribe Classifieds, right? 🙂 As we don't allow vending/selling of any kind other than selling supplies from your wedding on the Tribe (says so in the Code of Conduct). You could always advertise if you want to get a business going. Reply Whoops! Yes, I totally meant the classified thingy, and I'd completely forgotten that wasn't cool. I wanted to let people know 'cause I've had a lot of interest in that item, but I will certainly buy an ad when I can. Thanks for the correction! ;^_^ 1 agrees Reply Please do! Or at least make a How-to tutorial on making one! The mimic has to be my favourite creature ^_^ Reply I definitely want one! The eyes look so realistic, like they are really part of the chest! (do send me an email when you start selling, as I don't check the site very often) Also: where did that blow-up tentacle come from?? 😀 Reply The tentacle came from ThinkGeek. They're a great source for silly props! ^_^ Reply Holy crap! My first thought was "I so wish I was at this wedding" followed by "I totally want to be friends with these people". The last photo is so gorgeous. Congrats! Reply I want to know what would have happened if you'd succeeded at your roll to save! 1 agrees Reply I knew it! Zenandcoffee! I would recognize those gloves anywhere. I've been dying for a pair, and the wedding is the perfect excuse to get some to wear. (Also, this wedding is oddly on track with me and MY intended… Hmm. Especially as I was joking to our roomie about including the line in my vows, "I promise to never roll a Sense Motive check when I think you're rolling a Bluff check…" He countered with, "And now the Bride will roll a D20. If it is less than 5, the Bride says 'I don't'!" Hehehe… that would be great.) 2 agree Reply I would like to know all the types of specific board games used. Reply Ding!! You guys definitely leveled. Nice job! 😀 Reply The pic of them with the hats! It's too cute- I can't stand it! Reply Love this wedding!!! Had a question for you. My fiance and I recently got engaged and we were wanting to do a dnd ceremony. Is there any way that you could send us an example of what your officiant said for your wedding? We don't really know where to begin and needed a little push! We would appreciate any help you could give us!! 🙂 Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. 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