10 wedding tips you won't get from a bridal magazine #Advice#wedding day schedule#wedding media#wedding planning October 7 | Guest post by Edolcourt Photo by Mike L. Photography. See the full wedding here. I had a lot of surprises on my wedding day, and I thought I'd take those learnings and create a top 10 tips on practical advice. Obviously everyone will have their own experiences and opinions, but without further ado, here are mine, in no particular order (mainly because I'm tired of putting things in order at the moment)… 10. Everyone makes a list of things to pack, but Offbeat Brides should also make a list of things to bring back. Have you spent hours creating those programmes/fans? Did you create your own photo booth? Have you hand-crafted several ornate decorations that you plan to hang onto for several years? You'd be amazed at what people leave on site and forget to collect, simply because they think someone else has arranged to bring these keepsakes back. Very often these things aren't noticed until you come back from honeymoon, in which case the venue may have unwittingly thrown them out. The best way to circumvent this is to not only give your bridal party a list of things you must have back from the venue, but make sure the venue coordinator has a list of this as well. That way, if anything gets lost in the shuffle your venue coordinator will know to hang onto it for you until you get back from honeymoon, or can make other arrangements for delivery. 9. Assign someone you trust to download as many photos as possible before your guests leave the party. All of us already know that one of the great thing about weddings today is that almost everyone brings a digital camera. And although many of us also hire professional photographers, we still would like copies of the photos our guests have taken. The best way to expedite this process is to brief someone who is a trusted friend to be your photo catcher. Their job is to download as many memory sticks as possible onto a designated laptop before your guests leave. If you catch people right then and there you have a much better chance of getting all the images you'd like and without the hassle of chasing them down later. You'll probably also have the best luck getting images if your photo catcher is NOT in the wedding party. We asked my dad to take on this role, but as a member of the wedding party he got waylaid with other duties at the time. Related Post How long will this take?! A insider's view of a wedding photography timeline Are you wondering how long each photography session of your wedding day will take? We got a super comprehensive wedding photography timeline from one of... Read more 8. You may have already been advised to make sure to take some time for your partner during the big day. But try to make some time just for yourself, too. One of the things I found during the wedding was that from 7am I had no time to myself. There was always someone in my room, always someone who had question, always a well wisher and always someone ready with a camera. It can become difficult to keep energy levels up when you're "on show" for twelve or more hours at a stretch. I found myself wishing for a few minutes every few hours or so just to be able to go somewhere quiet and collect my thoughts / recharge my batteries / have a glass of water / check my lipstick or just be uninterrupted for a few minutes so I could then enjoy the day more. 7. Which brings me to assigning a poking coordinator… Having a trusted family member or friend help create space around you can be extremely helpful and allow you to enjoy those hugs… Yes, you read this right and this is actually the fab suggestion of fellow Tribesmaid. I'm a very huggy person but really started to get tired of so many people touching me throughout the day. At some point in the day photos started to show me wincing/pulling away from loved ones/turning glassy eyed just because I had reached sensory overload. Having a trusted family member or friend help create space around you can be extremely helpful and allow you to enjoy those hugs… but to also make sure you don't OD on being stroked before the end of the day. 6. If you find yourself freaking out a little, do something more "normal." Yes, I had my awesome shoes, my awesome dress, my awesome OTHER dress and every decoration that made me and my future husband smile under the sun. It was most certainly Our Party. However, there were times in the day I felt distant from it all. There were times I still felt disconnected from everything that was happening. I reached a real turning point in the evening when I was tired of feeling like someone other than myself –- comfy clothes and comfy shoes aside. I put down the bubbles and grabbed a beer instead and found an old friend who sat for ten minutes and told me about her life for a while. I should say that I drink bubbles outside of weddings so swapping champers for beer wasn't really the issue. But it was such a relief to not talk about me, the wedding or our hopes for the future. Having those ten minutes to sit in the back corner, drink a beer and chatter on about nothing at all really helped me feel more like myself again. If you have a friend who doesn't feel obligated to only talk about your wedding, spending a little time with them could be a welcome break! 5. Brief your key speakers/celebrants on anything they need to know about your guests. This probably sounds like an inane comment, but in actuality I found myself briefing both our celebrant and my mom in regarding what our friends and families would need to know. For example, we really wanted our guests to ask us our vows and to also pronounce us. Our celebrant totally got where we were going with this and was happy to lead everyone in these sections. But we were still worried that our guests would be so surprised to take on this role that it would be so quiet that we'd only hear a tumbleweed go by. We went back to our celebrant and asked her to write a preamble to set everyone's expectations about their role in the service up front –- and yes, as a result their voices were as loud as we hoped they would be! Similarly, I didn't know much about my mom's speech but I did know she was planning to weave in the Jewish tradition of the breaking of the glass. It suddenly occurred to me that she would expect to produce the glass, have Hubby stomp on it and that everyone would applaud. In actuality, 99% of our guests were Church of England, and I had to advise her that if she wanted everyone to applaud and yell out "Mazel Tov" she needed to tell them in advance. She then amended her speech to include a very short definition of Mazel Tov and her favourite reason for the tradition of the breaking of the glass – and everyone applauded and cheered when it was broken in the first go. 4. Which leads me to: trust your guests. We absolutely trusted that when people showed up, they would embrace the journey –- and they did. There are a lot of comments on the Offbeat Bride Tribe about how friends and family members wig out when something tests their boundaries of what they think a wedding should be. However, we found that our guests were absolutely fascinated by being part of something different. The framework was something recognizable (bride, groom, ceremony, rings) but the details were different enough to keep everyone completely attentive through the entire event. We absolutely trusted that when people showed up, they would embrace the journey –- and they did. 3. Provide a detailed hand over to your wedding party earlier than you think you should. I know this sounds really corporate, to have a hand over meeting. But if you have an offbeat wedding, you may need to pass the reins over to someone else earlier than you think you need to. In most of our cases we have someone in our lives we can trust and who has been part of the planning process with you every step of the way. In my case, it was my two sisters. However, they were still sort of on the periphery until the day I sat down with them (about two weeks before the wedding) and went through a very detailed, exhaustive document with all my thoughts about how the day would run. Bless my sisters for printing these documents out, scribbling their notes all over them and delivering the most seamless day an event planner ever could have hoped for. And bless them for also sharing this with the onsite coordinator… and all the ushers. I absolutely know that if I hadn't given them enough time to own the process on their own, it wouldn't have worked as well as it did. 2. When it's all over, remember to thank your vendors… publicly. If you really love your vendor, one of the greatest gifts you can give them is to… write something that could sway couples to call that company. Like most Tribesmaids, I've had a little love-in with nearly all my vendors. I simple cannot believe that they've taken some sketchy brief and come back with designs, flowers, decorations, etc., that completely surpassed my expectations. After the wedding I wrote each one an incredibly detailed thank you as I wanted them to be able to use my comments as a testimonial to share with other brides and grooms. If you really love your vendor, one of the greatest gifts you can give them is not just a letter of profuse thanks, but to also take it upon yourself to find a public site that rates said vendor and write something that could sway couples to call that company. I know it's not really in our job descriptions to act as their marketing departments. But as so many of them went out of their way for me, I am genuinely moved to want to make a difference to their business. 1. Have a registry? DON'T write thank you letters in advance. You've probably guessed by now that I'm a Type A personality. And when I read an online suggestion to write thank you letters in advance as guests start to buy gifts or make donations, I jumped at the idea. So precise, so organised! And I would be able to express my thanks without suffering perhaps quite as much letter fatigue as someone who wrote them all in one go (i.e. after the wedding). What I found through the planning process is what everyone else here has found. That it is inevitable we will need colossal amounts of help before everything is over. And until it's all over you really can't get your head around who has helped you in ways that really need to be acknowledged more than the toaster you may receive. Right, so that's my top 10 then! Although I'm now an old married woman, I'm really curious what lessons and advice YOU would give others — every day is a new learning experience. Oh, you need even MORE than 10? Let's do this: The 5 rules of a drama-free wedding planning My top 5 "ah-ha!" wedding moments: Shit I'm glad I know now A wee bit of post-wedding advice from a newlywed bride who's been there, done that Do you need a wedding planner? 8 ways to save money on wedding favors ALL our advice posts to browse at your leisure This post features Offbeat Vendors! Check out their vendor listing to see how they cater to Offbeat Brides: Mike L Photography Get your daily dose of Offbeat AWESOME Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Edolcourt Edolcurt is a California girl who just married an Englishman. She's got bucketloads of creativity and a huge passion for anything vintage and geeky. PREVIOUS Location-specific welcome bag inspiration NEXT Sofia & Zet's colorful, vintage-themed wedding and relaxed island party Show/Hide comments [ 47 ] All solid bits of advice, except for the last one. Of course you should be writing thank you notes as soon as you receive gifts. If nothing more than to let the giver know you received it. If that same person needs to be thanked for something else, send a second thank you note at a later date. Don't just let someone who sent you a gift a month before the wedding sit and wonder whether you received it or if something happened and it never arrived. That five extra minutes it might take to write a second note is more than worth it to not be rude. Being off beat doesn't mean we can ignore common courtesy. 28 agree Reply Of course being offbeat has nothing to do with being rude! I think a lot of brides suffer from "home stretch" fatigue. If you can't get around to writing a thank you note until after the wedding, I am sure that person will understand. You'll want to stay organized (this is where my beloved spread sheets come in handy), but I am sure we're all tired of the boring "thank you for the toaster. It will make a wonderful addition to our kitchen" cards. It might actually be nice to get a "the toaster was great, but we wouldn't have known what to do without your day-of coordinating. You rock! Thank you for the gift AND your time" note. No two separate thank you letters necessary & you don't have to fish for compliments. However, this won't be best for everyone. Whatever works for each bride 🙂 48 agree Reply This expresses very well what I was going to say! 2 agree Reply Eh, I think either way is fine. But note, the author did say she's type A. So she's probably not the kind of person to forget to write the thank you notes for a month after the wedding even if she puts them off. But if you are (like me) then writing them as you receive the gift is more sensible.. Especially as I think thank you notes are sort of tricky. Personally, b/c thank you notes are expected and required, I've never felt really touched receiving one when I've given a wedding or shower gift. It's like 'okay, whatever'. Similarly, I couldn't tell you if someone gave me a thank you note or not a year later. BUT if I went out of the way to help someone and they thanked me on the phone even, not necessarily in writing, that I would remember. So I think you should write thank you notes for gifts (b/c you'll offend some people who aren't me if you don't, and why offend someone who is generous enough to have given you a gift?) if there's something beyond that you want to thank someone for, it doesn't have to be in note form (though there's nothing wrong with that). You can thank them over the phone, in an email, via facebook, etc. 5 agree Reply Slightly OT, I would personally prefer NOT to get a thank you card…all such greeting cards end up in a box in the attic, because they're too nice–and I'm too sentimental–to throw them away, but they just gather dust and take up room upstairs, and I have a *small* house. It kinda gives me the sads to think of, after my death, my heirs going through my things and probably throwing out the thank you and other greeting cards anyway. Photographs are the same way. At least with my other effects you could probably pass them down, donate them, or yard sale them, but anything that personal, meaningful only to you and the person who gave it to you…the thought of them ending up in a landfill just makes me sad to think about. Maybe I'll leave instructions for my heirs to burn them, so the spirit behind them is free… 7 agree Reply I just got yelled at by an Aunt because I sent a thank you note for a gift she sent before the wedding. Because "Thank You Notes Before The Wedding Are Just Not DONE!" As a result, since I was on the phone with my grandma on the other side of the family later that day, I asked if that was really the custom or just my aunt being herself. Gran was also appalled, as was my mother, and my dad just laughed and said "honey, it's your funeral." So apparently to the Over 50 Crowd, your belief is like the rudest thing you can possibly do, second perhaps to the bride not taking the husband's name. Nonetheless, I think a phone call appeases both sides of the argument. Let the person know the gift came in with a verbal thanks, keep nurturing the relationship that is the reason you invited them to the wedding to begin with by asking them what's going on with them, and in the process you get some wedding stuff done AND a break from it at the same time. Win Win. 3 agree Reply Amen for having a list of things to bring back! 8 agree Reply Yes to #4. I'll add, too, try not to let other people get you in a tizzy. The most important job of the bridal party/close family is to not make your life harder the day of your wedding … but sometimes they do anyway. 🙂 Walking away from the drama and dealing with what you need to deal with is better than feeding into the drama! 3 agree Reply #9 is a great idea! What we did, which could be in addition to getting the photos at the wedding, is set up a Flickr account and make little cards to go at each place setting/in each favour box that has the details of how to log in to that Flickr account. We actually gave people 3 options for sharing with us: 1) a group on flickr to join if they already had a flickr account; 2) logging into the flickr account we set up; 3) emailing us the link to their account on another photosharing account. Here's what the card looked like: http://www.flickr.com/photos/schwambell/5060794543/ 16 agree Reply I think that is a wonderful idea, I plan to include that info and the info on our Handfasting Blog in the invites and we will have Alex's Laptop there to download the photos, I plan to get one of those multi-card readers and we will set up a profile on the computer with just the photos and a photo viewer on it so nothing of his work stuff can get messed up, my Mini laptop is our music source. Also I am DIYing so much of our stuff I am glad it is at my Grandmothers house because losing that stuff would be painful 2 agree Reply I love you. Can I marry you? Because you just solved one of my MAJOR issues with that #2 option. 1 agrees Reply Another thought about taking care of guests: If you have older relatives, friends, etc. attending, it might be nice to take a few moments to make sure they are comfortable, physically and emotionally 🙂 This holds especially true for more offbeat affairs, where tradition-minded elders might not understand the flow of things (of course, this doesn't always hold true; Great-Grandma Ethel might be hipper than you ever expected!) Making sure they know where they will be sitting, personally introducing them to your friends, explaining unusual details rather than relying on a program, and so forth. Because brides and grooms have enough on their plates without giving one-on-one attention to older guests before a ceremony, perhaps asking a family member or patient friend to assume this support role would be best. Of course, these are just my personal thoughts on the matter 🙂 Whatever works, works! 17 agree Reply This is a good point! My FH's parents are in their 70's and are very hard of hearing (they have hearing aids) and my grandparents are in their 60's nad are fine. My family loves to party and have a great time where my FH's family is not the partiers so I know my family will want the music loud and they will be loud themselves. How do I find common ground to make sure everyone is happy and not out of their comfort zone? 1 agrees Reply I've read to do the dances and cake ceremony and bouquet ceremony and toast first so people who want to retire earlier can before the dancing begins. I attended a wedding like this. We shut the place down but some older relatives were gone after 90 mins 4 agree Reply My husband and I bought those books on our honeymoon! 2 agree Reply My mom gave them to us on our wedding day! She happened to see them the day before or something and bought them for us. 2 agree Reply I bought those books for our wedding day. I bought the Don'ts for Husbands as a joke for my husband. They are hilarious books. Thanks Blanche Ebbutt for writing them a million years ago! Oh and that's me and my husband in the photo reading the books I bought. 🙂 2 agree Reply Wow, this list was really awesome! I actually got married two weeks ago and wish I had this list before then! ESPECIALLY the stuff about sensory overload. Man, that was way harder than I thought it would be! My cheeks hurt from smiling, I stood for 12 hours straight…In addition to the helper giving you space, I would have wanted some kind of aide, like a politician has: "I'm sorry, but Suzanne is really busy and needs to move on to talk to other people." 7 agree Reply I am really taking this one to heart, I have arthritis and tend to get really tired really easily so I am going to schedule some down time between events. Part of the way I am doing this is to get stuff well planned then hand it over to my family with details of what each of them need to do, I like the idea of talking to them a week or two in advance with lists. It will be very very hard for me to give up control that much but I must or burn out half way through. 6 agree Reply #6 sounds like a great idea! I don't usually talk about myself or my plans in great detail, so even in the planning process it's nice to have days or conversations or even just moments where I forget that I'm a bride. Regarding #1, something I did was pre-print the envelopes with addresses for thank you cards. This back fired a little for the wedding shower – some people said they'd come and didn't so I just have this envelope with their name on it. But it also helped me get the thank yous out really quickly. 4 agree Reply OMG yes yes yes go over your bridal party and guest list and ONLY invite the people you really trust. I could tell the whole sordid story but I won't, just my advice is to really think long and hard about who has the best heart and is there for YOU, and who will not let jealousy create a monster that will try to ruin one of the most bestest important days of your life! 3 agree Reply Ahhhh this is my biggest fear! i'm totally paranoid though so convinced 80% of females in the world want to ruin my life… I like to think though that nobody would DARE mess with the bridezilla!! 2 agree Reply #9! its brilliant! We'll be setting up one of out techie friends with my ipad and the SD card/USB adapter thingy. I was gonna go with a hand out blank cd's with stamped envelopes but this is such an awesome idea 2 agree Reply One thing I am really happy about regarding #8 is that my job has trained me to do just that: I often teach 8-hour seminars, sometimes even 2 day deals at 12 or 16 hours and am "on display" for the entire time. After getting used to 2 days of 8 hours of SHOWTIME, one day of being "on", even from waking up to going to bed at 2am, was really fairly easy to manage. Because I think my background as a corporate trainer helped in this way as well as with vows, toasts, walking down the aisle etc. (I had no stage fright whatsoever) I would recommend that every bride who is nervous about this aspect of a long/big/huggy wedding to take, at least, a class in public speaking. It'll train you in coping techniques when you have to be "on" for longer than you'd like, and it's a skill with far more applications than just your (hopefully) one wedding day! 2 agree Reply age fright is not an issue with me but I actually dislike being hugged a lot, it is a weird thing with me because I am a very outgoing and friendly person and so people think I am really into hugging. I have no problem talking to people, one on one or in groups but the idea of 50 people wanting to hug me makes me uncomfortable BUT that being said I would rather deal with momentary discomfort about the hugs from friends and family then look back and wonder if I hurt their feelings. Sometimes you really just have to buck up and do what needs to be done, in my case I would rather feel good for years about the day then have silly regrets over not having hugged my aunts and cousins 3 agree Reply I'm the same! Very outgoing and friendly but find hugging people really uncomfortable…. I guess I just don't like too many people in my bubble!! But i agree – I'd rather just grit my teeth & bear it than risk hurting anyones feelings! 3 agree Reply Yay!!! So happy to know I am not alone. Outside of limited hugs from immediate family and my closest circle of friends, I really don't like for people to hug me. I like folks to stay out of my phone both. =) 3 agree Reply Totally agree with having a list of stuff to bring back. My mom picked us up from the airport after the honeymoon and told us about all the stuff that was left at the venue by accident. She even said that while she was walking through the main room before leaving she saw our slideshow dvd in the trash can! It's a good thing she was walking by because I didn't even get to see the whole thing. Definitely could have been avoided had we a list 3 agree Reply Feedproxy google.. WTF? 🙂 1 agrees Reply I purchased the little book the groom is reading in the photo for my fiancé over three years ago while studying abroad in London! I wrote little notes throughout the entire book for him – he still has it! 1 agrees Reply I really like the idea of the list of what to do's.. I just helped decorate for my friends wedding and there were a few momentary freak out's on my part because all these decorations were in a box.. and I had a rough idea of where most things went, but she never sat me down to explain what went where so here I was running around like a man woman wondering if the LED lights go IN the pumpkin, or if they were supposed to go in the vace.. or did the vases go on the floor in front of the head table, or on the ends of the table.. or there were 2 sets of twig branches.. did she want both kinds in each vase, or was one kind supposed to go somewhere else she hadn't mentioned.. A list of notes from her on where she wanted things would have saved me a lot of stress lol 1 agrees Reply I'm REALLY GLAD to hear that. I've got a list of "set-up by zone" which is basically: "Photobooth table: Large green tablecloth, dry erase boards, props, two pictureframes with these signs, this tray for drinks, both laptops" (but in bullet points). We also put together our tabletops and took pictures that will be printed on this list so people can see the layout–which was also VERY helpful with my concern that we didn't have enough decor pieces that were "just fun" instead of also being functional, because once I saw my tabletops put together it was like "No, adding anything to this would just make it busy" and also let my partner see what "the decision we made 6 months ago, and that other decision we made that week, and this idea that I had" all looked like together since he is a very visual person. I mentioned to my DOC that my OCD wanted me to put together reusable shopping bags with "this stuff goes on that table, this stuff goes on this other table" but I was instead using this list and sending it all as a batch. She said that she's had people do both and it WAS actually kind of nice with DIY weddings to have those bags made up ahead of time, and so if it made me feel better it was definitely NOT a waste of time. I did realize afterward though that between stuff coming from our house, the mister's work, and being rented, there was no way for me to legitimately put those bags together. So I'm printing out the list with each zone and a picture on its own page, and my set-up crew can disburse them. I also have a list of what each Thing is that needs to go to the venue, where it comes from, and so far I don't have a single thing that doesn't go back to wherever it came from, so it's the same list. I am however going to separate the "goes back to Us" list into "HAS TO BE PACKED FOR WEDDING #2" which means going on a flight 36 hours later, so that 90% of it will hopefully already be in the same spot to pack up the next day. I assume we will still need to track down some items from the other box, but hopefully it should be easier than sorting it ALL the next day. Speaking of which I should probably schedule someone to come over and help with that sorting & packing process. Reply One of my key tips is try on your jewelry, especially if it's made from a non precious metal, to check you have not got an allergy to any of the components used in making the jewelry! Get your bridesmaids to do the same, you don't want hives on the day. 3 agree Reply "When it's all over, remember to thank your vendors… publicly." Thank you for this one. One of the things that surprised (and bummed me out) most as a wedding photographer was that a lot of brides never both to say thank you — and human nature is such that vendors will go the extra mile for brides who genuinely appreciate them. 3 agree Reply 5. Brief your key speakers/celebrants on anything they need to know about your guests. I put it right in the questionnaire I send my couples to tell me about their families and guests, what expectations the families and guests might have for the ceremony, if and how they want to involve the family and guests in the ceremony, and if there are any pressing familial, cultural, or religious issues. This way we can hammer out the problem spots, and when I draw up the "script" for the wedding, I can advise the couple to share it with anyone who's going to be involved with the ceremony, so they're not surprised when I call on them to do something. 3 agree Reply Yes and yes to taking time for yourself and to doing something normal. When I needed alone time, I'd usually just go sit in the bathroom for a few minutes and chilled out. I also have a very fond memory last night of being alone with my meal for the first time when my husband went to the restroom and I just chair danced and ate my food and was just in heaven being me. My "normal" thing came during downtime after being ready and the photographer being done with pre wedding shots of me and my girls. We played a game that was really active and fun, I think called Head's Up (an app) and even the photographer played along. He also ended up whipping his camera back out to take pictures of us just being us, so it worked out nicely there too. Reply I love this dress any idea where to get similar ones? Reply kat, if you click the link to view the full wedding (linked in the caption on the photo), you can get more info about the dress: http://offbeatbride.com/2014/02/vegas-pin-up-wedding Reply ??????????????????? 1 agrees Reply These tips are fantastic! They are honest, heartfelt, and you can tell they come straight from the mouth of someone who has BEEN THERE, unlike many articles written by a company trying to sell you something. I particularly like number 7; I'm a big hugger, too, but like a cat, I can get over-cuddled FAST. I will definitely have a "poking coordinator" at my wedding! 1 agrees Reply Some fantastic and very real tips here. Hiring a really good photographer rather than just any old wedding photographer means that those little moments will be captured, as well as the big momentous ones. Don't underestimate the value of spending more time and a bit more money on finding a great one. Reply Hi! One question my MOH and I have been trying to figure out is how to get people comfortable with us downloading photos from their phone or camera…is there a way to do this without violating people's privacy? Reply Have the computer set up with an attended, but have the person to whom the camera belongs actually dig through the sim card and transfer the file. Maybe metion to your guest ahead of time that you are planning to do this such that they can have a folder on their sim card set up and ready to go. Also mention that if they are uncomfortable with this set up they can still send you the photos through: whatever other photosharing options you have, and have a list of those other options printed that they can take with them. Also I would probably make sure the attended changed the name the foulder from each person to the name of the person who took them, make sorting through the pics easer and you wouldn't accidently complain about not getting pics to someone who already gave them to you. Reply You would be great to have two or three friends or relatives whom you can delegate tasks on your wedding day, things such as jumping to collect the bouquet, attend or make phone calls, etc. At this point I want to place special emphasis on the mobile phone. Just forget about it. Mobile sound added to the nerves (thanks to the previous point managed to keep them at bay so far), it can be exasperating; and surely many will want to talk to the bride about something related to the preparation, on the spot, or just congratulate calling or sending messages. Do not forget that you are BRIDE, the female protagonist of the day. Give the phone to one of your friends, name it Honor, and she is in charge of collecting suggestions, complaints and compliments; if possible, from a place where you cannot hear their conversations. 1 agrees Reply On my wedding day, I chose a really cute pair of dress shoes for the ceremony, but knew that heels usually kill me so I brought along tennis shoes for the wedding. K-SWISS makes an awesome solid white leather sneaker that I chose. Best decision of the day. I was comfy at the reception and my photographer got a kick out of them. He even took a picture of me showing them off. It's one of my favorite pics of the day. Reply These tips are very great! I am just afraid that when my father puts my hand to my future husband's hand, I can't help to cry. I know that is happy tears but just don't want the tears break my make up… Any good tips? Reply If you're having it done professionally, let the make up artist know you expect to be a crier, and to use waterproof mascara. They may also provide you with small amounts for touch ups (ours told the bridesmaids which lippy to buy). Have a fresh tissue or hanky and dab, don't wipe! Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Participate in this conversation via emailGet only replies to your comment, the best of the rest, as well as a daily recap of all comments on this post. No more than a few emails daily, which you can reply to/unsubscribe from directly from your inbox. No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.