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Today is our 4th wedding Anniversary! To celebrate, I thought I would share a few outtakes from our wedding photos.

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New Jersey celebrant Jessie Blum specializes in crafting wedding ceremonies for nontraditional couples who want something spectacular. She says, “The central theme is always the couple’s original love story, and personalized touches are imbued through the entire ceremony. I aim to make the ceremony that you would create for yourself.”

Jessie is a certified Celebrant, an ordained non-denominational minister, and authorized to perform weddings & civil unions in New Jersey. Take a look at her gallery and testimonials from couples — you’ll see that she definitely gets nontrad needs!

Eclectic Unions honors all backgrounds and traditions, and Jessie is even offering a promotion with 10% off for clients who mention they found her on offbeatbride.com!

I am officially decreeing myself done with the word “tacky.” It’s a word thrown around a lot in the wedding world — even the non-traditional wedding world! People are worried their centerpieces will look tacky. People decree honeymoon registries tacky. There’s muttering over etiquette: “I want to do things this way … but is that tacky?” brides whisper in terror. Tacky: the dark evil that sneaks into your bedroom and eats your face at night.

I’m here to tell you that, YES: everything you want to do for your wedding is tacky. All of it. The red dress is tacky. The handmade paper flowers are tacky. Your custom-designed invitations? TACKY.

Because you see, “tacky” is in the eye of the beholder and there is always, always going to be someone who sees things differently than you. Your handwritten wedding vows? Tacky! Using old mugs as favors? Tacky! Your ribbon veil? Tacky! Your father reading a poem he wrote instead of Corinthians? Tacky!

There is no end to the tackiness. It is ALL tacky, according to someone. Someone will tell you it’s tacky to get married in your backyard. Someone will tell you it’s tacky not to decorate your chairs with large bows and organza. Someone will tell you it’s tacky to have portapotties at your wedding. Someone somewhere thinks sequined wedding shoes and button bouquets and Wai-Ching dresses are all tacky.

…This website? TACKY!

Tacky is the manifestation of your fears that people won’t approve of your wedding.

I’m exhausted by the tacky debate. I’m sick of people asking if some component of their wedding is tacky. (Sure it is! …to someone. Do you care? Is that why you’re doing it?) I’m sick of commenters decreeing certain wedding thangs as tacky. (Sure it is! …to you. Do I care? Are you invited to my wedding?) Tacky: the dark monster that creeps in at night … tacky is the manifestation of your fears that people won’t approve of your wedding.

Moving forward, I’m decreeing a moratorium on the word. When it’s ALL tacky, none of it’s tacky and we can finally stop talking about it.