I've been told my entire life — by movies, books, and trashy reality shows — that your wedding is just a magical event. Well, I've been engaged a few months now, and I'm ready for my magical moments to start happening. Getting engaged is pretty much like every other adult situation in your life: no one knows what they are doing and literally everyone is faking that they do. So that future generations don't succumb to the same delusion that I was blissfully in, I've compiled a list of things that nobody tells you about getting engaged.
This is Offbeat Bride's archive of wedding planning posts.
I've come to hate the question: "How's the wedding planning going?" Because it's usually followed by someone totally shooting down my last planning decision. But here's the deal: Wedding planning is stressful enough as it is. And if I listened to and implemented everyone else's advice, then I would be planning their wedding and not my fiancé's and mine.
We KNOW some of you just got engaged, and are now being bombarded with questions: When's it happening? What setting are you picturing? What's your theme? How can I help? Have you thought about decor? Can I get you in touch with my baker friend? Your friends and family are asking these questions because they're excited for you, and want to give you the opportunity to share your own excitement.
When you get peppered with these questions your response, however, may not be excitement… it may be anxiety.
With my marketing and public relations background, I really should have known that once I started calling vendors, my name would wind up on someone's mailing list. For the last several weeks, I have been receiving regular junk mail from my area's WIC staple vendors. So I've come up with several solutions of what to do with all that gross junk mail…
My fiancé and I are both project management types — at work, and in our general personalities. So, we have weekly wedding planning meetings with agendas. This has managed to keep us sane, speaking to each other, productive, and focused on other things, like unpacking the house we just bought, getting through a terribly hectic time at work, enjoying each other, and focusing on my nearly-six year old son. Here's how we plan our wedding, Project Manager-style…
We were at the two-months-till-the-wedding mark, and I was losing it. I've never handled stress terribly well, and I have this nasty habit of taking that out on whoever's closest. I didn't realize the wedding stress and our constant arguments were related. In fact, it didn't even click until I sat in tears on my best friend's bed after yet another stupid argument. She asked me, gently, "Are you sure you want to go through with the wedding?" I realized that I couldn't say yes.
Most of my wedding planning is done. There's not much left really, except the minor things that will get wrapped up right before… but I feel like there is so much left to do and keep getting the urge to add more, and more! I try to remind myself that we are on a budget and what we got already is fine… but then why do I want to add, for instance, photos/or/drawings of us around the venue? I am stuck in bridal over-planning mode! How do I STOP organizing and planning and take a step back? Is this just feeling that will linger until the final days where I can actually SEE things come together?
I have worked in hospitality — at hotel front desks, bars, and even housekeeping — for years. Over those years I've picked up a few tips to make the wedding-and-hotel experience go a little smoother. Here are my tips on booking a block of hotel rooms for your wedding guests.
So my wedding came and went. I went into it feeling pretty good and prepared, I had all my vendors confirmed, floor plans, decor inventory, decorations, vendor contact spreadsheets submitted to my day-of-coordinators three days before, and I was able to relax and not take care of anything major. The wedding day started out well enough… Then, slowly, it fell apart. Here are the things that, if I could start all over again, I would have done differently…
While trying to organize everything for our wedding, I feel so overwhelmed with options that I have become very indecisive about things.
How did you come to a decision on anything from theme, color-way, dress, guest gifts, etc.? Was it hard after to not compare it to other options? How often did you change your mind before coming to final decision?
Do you know what to do if your best man is giving a totally inappropriate speech? Or how a shoe organizer can keep your wedding day stress levels down? Or what kind of easy-to-encounter wedding day stain is 100% permanent? Probably not. Luckily as a professional wedding photographer, Angie Gaul has been privy to hundreds of weddings. Here are her suggestions for small, surprising ways to reduce your wedding day havoc .