What happened when we put OUR wedding needs first…

Somehow, it is portrayed as perfectly normal to make huge exceptions for your wedding day, from going into debt to inviting too many people, to having melt-downs over canapés. Of the traditional wedding "must-haves," we didn’t want most, don’t need many, and can’t have some. We said "no" over and over — feeling like rather fussy inconsiderate people. But here's what’s happened since we’ve put our wedding planning needs first…


Obvious and outdated: is my work here done?

The Offbeat Bride book was first released in December of 2006, with a second edition in January of 2010. The wedding it described happened in 2004, and I wrote the bulk of the book ten years ago. The fact that people still buy the book at all is only because of this here website, but somehow people do continue to buy it… and sometimes review it on Amazon.

A negative review came in a couple months ago that blew my mind in the best possible way.


How escaping Scientology weirdly relates to wedding planning

Whenever people are like BOO MAINSTREAM WEDDINGS BOO WIC I HATE THE WEDDING INDUSTRY RAH RAH RAH, I'm always like "I get your frustration there, guys — but stop fighting so much against what you don't want, and start proactively working to determine what you DO want. Construction is always more difficult than demolition!" Here's why creation is more interesting to me that reacting.