Since my husband was nervous about having to write something eloquent, we agreed that in our ceremony instead of "vows" per se we would have a line that said, "[Name], if you have anything to say to [Name], you may say it now." I prepared and prepared. The problem was, when our officiant looked at me and asked if I had anything to say, I forgot the entire thing.
This is Offbeat Bride's archive of writing vows posts.
Every once in while, we notice a particular topic that has a crazy spike — it's the phrase that most brides are searching for. Or it's the topic that's suddenly pinned everywhere. It's the topic that basically dominates are most-read posts for the month. This month? That trending topic is VOWS.
Slogging through traditional love quotes can be taxing, especially when you just want something that tingles that geek-loving robot heart of yours. We root for the geeky underdog to get the girl and hope the battle over evil ends in a big snog. And we need something relatable for our ceremony readings, invitation wording, and pop culture-filled vows, right? You demand nerdy romance, funny vow ideas, and swashbuckling toast fodder from movies, TV, and a few books? As you wish…
There is so much information about writing your own vows for your wedding that it can be a little daunting. You can read about it online, in books, people will offer you advice and give you tons of rules, outlines, and other information about putting your vows together. But here's a secret: you can do whatever you want. Here are my top five hints and tricks for writing your own vows.
Are you guys writing your own vows? Does one partner kick ass at putting your love into words, while the other partner is twisting in the wind? You can go the route of Anne (of wedding unicorn fame) who set up Mad Libs vows and used them in a couple genius ways. So why don't you VERB this NOUN post ASAP.
Over the years, we've seen lots of really lovely ways to include children in blended family weddings, but we've never featured the vows that were spoken. I've enlisted the help of a few of our favorite officiants, asking them to share wording for blended family vows that they've written. (Plus, we've got one batch of bonus vows from an Offbeat Bride Tribe member!)
Amanda recently shared with us her husband's incredible vows. They each wrote their own vows, and kept them secret from each other until they read them aloud at the ceremony. Pete had started writing his a couple of weeks before the wedding, but, according to Amanda, "he scrapped his first attempts and wrote something from scratch the day before the wedding. What he said ended up being so perfect and beautiful that I have to share it." And share it we shall!
Tribe member Thren wrote some really solid advice for those out there with writer's block when it comes to writing their own vows. From questions to ask yourself, to considering format, there's more than likely something in here to help you break through your writer's block.