Being fully, unapologetically ourselves comes with risks and can be both contentious and dangerous. We are violated, belittled, deprived of love, victimized, isolated and left wanting… both by larger systems and communities, and by people we thought we could trust. Amidst the pain or discomfort, we have to remember that there is hope.
This is Offbeat Bride's archive of transgender posts.
This "tall and small" couple are giving us feel-good goosebumps today. We've got a gnome and Sasquatch cake, etched wood decor, a scenic park venue, and a pup in a bow tie. Just wait until you read what they did for the first time in front of their family. It's tear-jerking. But our favorite part is the funniest moment. Hint: it contains Boy Scouts and a very special merit badge…
Did someone say "gorgeous outdoor lawn games and square dancing wedding?" Yeah, I just knew you were thinking about it. Well get on board with this one: croquet, cigars, bow ties, and the couple handing out ice cream. Plus, you'll love the ceremony structure and big ol' singalong at the end. To what song, you ask? RING OF FIRE!
A survey for guest needs, customized snacks in your camp-style guest house, a nostalgia-themed lunch, a pool, trivia, and games all weekend? We are officially ultra-jealous of attendees of this wedding. This couple, who totally knows how to cater to their awesomely diverse community, managed to pull off a stellar wedding weekend full of love, hilarity, and choreographed dance moves.
I have been thinking about the weird privilege I've held as the male-presenting person in this relationship. I believe this is because people want to honor my identity and respect my maleness, yet it feels uncomfortable and untrue… because it erases the fact that those images don't actually fit our queer relationship, and they don't include my trans-ness.
This wedding was a long time in coming for Jace and Michael — they met on their school bus in 1997! And wow: do they look positively elated to be together or what? The couple celebrated their City Hall marriage with bow ties that matched each other's and Doc Martens that matched everyone else's. The iconic shoes are only a fraction of the familial togetherness that radiates in these photos: check out Jace painting a kid's nails, the family picnic after the ceremony (for which the couple showed off their cooking skills), and the most tender-hearted hugs I think I've ever seen.
We love the focus on accessibility and inclusion in this wedding! It's no wonder their community was so willing to come together and make this sweet backyard wedding a reality. With amazing poetry, a night-before intention setting and ring blessing gathering, and killer style (including a wooden bow tie!), this pair wins the internet today.
I am a Caucasian, cisgender, homosexual woman. My fiancé is transgender. Xe was assigned-female-at-birth but identifies as genderqueer and uses the gender neutral pronouns xe/xyr/xem. No one ever uses xyr correct pronouns unless they are explicitly told to use them and even then some people flat-out refuse. So what do we do about it? I am done sitting in my bubble of privilege. I am popping my bubble, donning the outfit of a warrior bride (think chainmail veil), and taking my vocal sword into the crowd and to my wedding!
A Central Park ceremony, rooftop shenanigans, and a family-focused Chicago reception — these two cuties know to party cross-country! Add in the queer-friendly atmosphere, last-minute cheesecake, and sand ceremony mishap, and you've got a recipe for offbeat magic.
When life throws you lemons, you make delicious intimate wedding lemonade! This pair was planning a larger wedding, but we love the results of their change-of-plans: a chic restaurant, 15 of their nearest and dearest, and a funny moment during the ceremony.
We teased this Disney-meets-Star Wars wedding last week and you guys demanded to see MOAR! From their hand-cut rainbow ketubah, Disney and Star Wars mashup decor, lightsaber cake cutters, "Unbreakable Vow" ring book, and overall makes-me-want-to-hug-them adorableness, you're going to luuuurve it. Oh, and wait until you see how they memorialized their passed loved ones at the ceremony. It didn't go quite as planned!