I have been thinking about the weird privilege I've held as the male-presenting person in this relationship. I believe this is because people want to honor my identity and respect my maleness, yet it feels uncomfortable and untrue… because it erases the fact that those images don't actually fit our queer relationship, and they don't include my trans-ness.
This is Offbeat Bride's archive of transgender posts.
This wedding was a long time in coming for Jace and Michael — they met on their school bus in 1997! And wow: do they look positively elated to be together or what? The couple celebrated their City Hall marriage with bow ties that matched each other's and Doc Martens that matched everyone else's. The iconic shoes are only a fraction of the familial togetherness that radiates in these photos: check out Jace painting a kid's nails, the family picnic after the ceremony (for which the couple showed off their cooking skills), and the most tender-hearted hugs I think I've ever seen.
We love the focus on accessibility and inclusion in this wedding! It's no wonder their community was so willing to come together and make this sweet backyard wedding a reality. With amazing poetry, a night-before intention setting and ring blessing gathering, and killer style (including a wooden bow tie!), this pair wins the internet today.
I am a Caucasian, cisgender, homosexual woman. My fiancé is transgender. Xe was assigned-female-at-birth but identifies as genderqueer and uses the gender neutral pronouns xe/xyr/xem. No one ever uses xyr correct pronouns unless they are explicitly told to use them and even then some people flat-out refuse. So what do we do about it? I am done sitting in my bubble of privilege. I am popping my bubble, donning the outfit of a warrior bride (think chainmail veil), and taking my vocal sword into the crowd and to my wedding!
A Central Park ceremony, rooftop shenanigans, and a family-focused Chicago reception — these two cuties know to party cross-country! Add in the queer-friendly atmosphere, last-minute cheesecake, and sand ceremony mishap, and you've got a recipe for offbeat magic.
When life throws you lemons, you make delicious intimate wedding lemonade! This pair was planning a larger wedding, but we love the results of their change-of-plans: a chic restaurant, 15 of their nearest and dearest, and a funny moment during the ceremony.
We teased this Disney-meets-Star Wars wedding last week and you guys demanded to see MOAR! From their hand-cut rainbow ketubah, Disney and Star Wars mashup decor, lightsaber cake cutters, "Unbreakable Vow" ring book, and overall makes-me-want-to-hug-them adorableness, you're going to luuuurve it. Oh, and wait until you see how they memorialized their passed loved ones at the ceremony. It didn't go quite as planned!
I have a question for you and your readers. I am looking for a trans-friendly, really truly friendly, honeymoon spot. We worry about plumbing, about being questioned, about being unsafe, about violence nearly constantly. We realized that dreaming of our honeymoon didn't feel so much like dreaming any more, rather more like risk avoidance. I am betting that you or your readers have great ideas for gender-affirming places that are fun and delightful.
Look, I know what you're thinking, because I'm a lawyer when I'm not being a bride and I hear it all the time. Seeing a lawyer isn't like a cake tasting or interviewing a band. It's not fun. But if your offbeat family fits one of these five categories, you'll want a consultation with an attorney licensed in your state ASAP, not after you start getting RSVPs.
This pair has an awesomely diverse community willing to celebrate and totally donate their time and energy into making this wedding rock. And boy, did it. In addition to the bride's handmade dress (out of a sari!) and groom's kick-ass suit, there was wedding party aisle dancing, ukulele toasts, and a giant group hug right after the ceremony.
A wedding planning bride, heartfelt vows, a gorgeous lakeside ceremony, and a dessert buffet that will make you hungry: this wedding is a feast for the eyes. Even with a budget, they knew how to prioritize what matters to them. Oh, and definitely check out the bridesmaids in boots! So adorable.