The challenges of planning a straight wedding as a feminist queer bride

Planning a straight wedding as a lifelong feminist and member of the LGBTQ community was a challenge wrought with emotion, guilt, and confusion (in addition, of course, to all the blissful feelings of being engaged and in love).

I was a feminist way before it was cool, when it was decidedly UNCOOL. I realized that I liked girls as a teenager in the nineties going to a Catholic school, where the only openly gay teacher was a female gym coach who wasn't allowed in the girls' locker room. Gay marriage would not be a reality until nearly 15 years after I realized I might want to marry a woman. At different points in my life, I've hated both men and straight people; not out of malice, but out of fear, rejection, and really bad experiences.

Then I decided to marry a straight dude.


Tear-jerking (but not too romantic) family wedding readings for all your sisters and pals

My older sister has given me a TON of advice throughout my life, no less so throughout the process of planning my wedding. I want to find a poem or reading to ask her to read that expresses how important this advice has been without being too sappy or evoking God's perspective too much or too bluntly. A lot of readings I come across are more specifically about the couple committing to one another, and I'd like something more along the lines of seeing a new couple through this life stage and supporting them as they beginning their journey as married folk. Help!


How to become a wedding officiant: online churches to get ordained

Are you looking to have a familiar face as your wedding officiant? A friend or family member instead of a stranger? It's an appealing thought in a lot of cases, especially if you're living the secular life. This post is meant to be shared with your chosen pal so they can find out how to become a wedding officiant, and and where to get ordained.