The challenges of planning a straight wedding as a feminist queer bride

Planning a straight wedding as a lifelong feminist and member of the LGBTQ community was a challenge wrought with emotion, guilt, and confusion (in addition, of course, to all the blissful feelings of being engaged and in love).

I was a feminist way before it was cool, when it was decidedly UNCOOL. I realized that I liked girls as a teenager in the nineties going to a Catholic school, where the only openly gay teacher was a female gym coach who wasn't allowed in the girls' locker room. Gay marriage would not be a reality until nearly 15 years after I realized I might want to marry a woman. At different points in my life, I've hated both men and straight people; not out of malice, but out of fear, rejection, and really bad experiences.

Then I decided to marry a straight dude.


Queer black Baltimore realness: a drag king and a burlesque performer get married

"Chris is an award-winning drag king and Sydney is a burlesque performer. Needless to say, this means our wedding was very theatrical." The dress code was "not basic," and they saw outfits ranging from sequin cocktail dresses to leprechaun costumes, to drag, to ALF. They walked down the aisle, catwalk-style, to a gay dance club classic, "Din Daa Daa" by George Kranz. Sydney's 35-year old brother was the ring bearer and her 98-year old grandmother made it rain with a Cash Cannon as the "flower girl." Y'all NEED to see this amazing queer black Baltimore spectacle!


These wedding invitations are SO GAY (and we love them!)

Sure, you can always customize a pretty wedding invitation with your names, but sometimes you want it to look like a gay wedding invitation, right? Maybe it would be nice to have a custom illustration or some rainbow details? That's where these LGBTQ and gay wedding invitations and stationery come in. From two penguins (in penguin suits, natch!) to watercolor rainbows to Simpsons-style custom portraits, here are some LGBTQ-themed invites and stationery you'll love…


Pink hair + rainbows abound at this vividly geeky wedding

We seriously can't get over the matching septum piercings on these cuties. Oh, and let's not forget the groom's pink hair and the bride's matching eye shadow! SO.CUTE. That's not even the start of this fabulously colorful and vividly geeky wedding in Ohio. Rainy, beautiful, meaningful, epic. That's how we're feeling about this wedding and you will, too…