A water-themed polyamorous elopement at a lakeside bungalow

hen I set out to marry my boyfriend Tom, I'd already been married for nine years to my husband Dan. This would be Tom's first wedding, so I didn't really want to just run off and elope, but he was cool with it, so away we went. I didn't want a big poofy white dress, since I'd done that previously, and I wanted to be able to enjoy my time with my new guy, so no fuss was my general goal. Here's how our tiny elopement went down…


We're planning two weddings: family-friendly AND kink-friendly

One of things my fiancé and I most cherish about our relationship is that we lead the kind of double-life worthy of one of the superhero comic books he loves so much. Normally, we are responsible, hard-working citizens who live and parent together in a small, quiet town. But after a quick change in a phone booth (aka, when my ex has the kids and we travel), we become adventurers well-versed in kink and non-monogamy who love to find weird bars, get tattoos, and go out dancing until the wee hours of the morning.

So it stands to reason that we have to plan not one but two weddings…


A queer femme/transfeminine interfaith feminist celeGAYtion

It was important to both of us to represent both of our faith traditions, and to incorporate our vibrant, polyamorous, queer, trans communities as much as possible. My partner is a bearded, genderqueer, transfeminine person, and it was really important to us to be visible and proud about our relationship because so many people think that people like us can't (or don't deserve) to find love and happiness. Caleb rocked a gorgeous wine-colored wedding dress, while I went with a more traditional white gown, and we did our damndest to show the world that love like this will not be hidden.


A whimsical polyamorous wedding joining two families in awesomeness

"We have a polyamorous family. I have been married to Ben for 11 years, Audree has been married to Allan for 11 years, Allan and I are partners, and Ben and Audree are partners. The four of us live together with our children." This wedding joined Katie and Audree together, which then bound them all together in love as one family. Let's give a collective "AW" to this sweet family-focused polyamorous wedding.


A poly-friendly and non-possessive ceremony script (with three rings!)

If you are looking to shed some of the possessive wording that usually comes with standard marriage ceremonies, this poly-friendly and non-possessive ceremony script will give you some great inspiration. It's non-gendered, non-monogamy-friendly, totally usable by LGBTQ couples and cishet couples alike, and sweet as hell. Plus, see how three rings came into play (and the Iron Ring symbolism for Canadian engineers!)